4 Ways Stepchildren Damage Relations With Your New Spouse

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[TashaWashington]

If anyone is watching this randomly and you are not in a relationship....whatever you do DO NOT DATE A MAN WITH CHILDREN. you will do all the work of a mother with NONE of the reward. You will feel like an outsider in your own home. They are little sh%ts. Will cause arguments between you and your partner. If I could go back I would have never ever ever ever ever dated someone with kids.

[jdldo]

Do not get involved with someone who has kids. I did this and lived to deeply regret it. I wasted many years of my life only to be cut off from them when the relationship ended. There is no loyalty towards you not matter how good of a step parent you are. You do not matter.

[shannane]

Biggest mistake I made of my life. Don't do it, run for the hills. You'll thank me.

[maerose]

When I get divorced I’ll never get married again or even date someone with kids. Dealing with teenage step kids who take advantage of the father guilt is the worst. It’s so easy for them to turn their father against his wife.

[Riley-]

I’m a newlywed and really feel like I made a mistake... they’re wonderful children but I don’t feel connected and honestly don’t think I care too. I F’ed up royally 🤦🏽‍♀️

[grapefruitmn]

Very simple solution: don't go on a date with someone with kids and you'll never have issues with stepkids. Boom. Done.

[jaxbus]

The sad truth is that with stepchildren, you basically having to take care of the children, but you never are going to be number 1, 2 or even number 5 in their life. You have their natural parent to deal with as well as their whole family. So you are never that important no matter what they say. And if you get divorced, you are cut off from them, because you have no legal rights to see them. I know, I wasted 13 years raising someone else's kids, which is a real waste of time, money and effort. My advice to anyone is to never, ever, ever get involved with someone who had children, unless their biological families are dead or completely out of their lives.

[mistyblue]

my husband has called my jealous of his step granddaughter. she told me my wedding ring was ugly. i told him so he could gently correct her. he told me i was jealous of her.... FIND ANOTHER person to call jealous.... get me outta here...

[randibeth]

The kid will ruin not only your relationship but your sanity and they'll just say "ThAt's My ChIlD"

[TazHall]

Invite God into the situation and watch him work. Ask him to show you the wise boundaries. It doesn't matter how painful or hopeless things seem. Ask Jesus to show you what to do and be willing to follow his process.

[Native]

I have a stepson and it was very hard. My wife and I were so close to getting a divorce because of my stepson. She thought that I was too strict with him. When he went to college, our marriage was repaired and we got closer than ever. But now that my stepson is an adult we have a great relationship. He is always thanking me for how I raised him. So now my wife sees that I was right. My stepson graduated from college got married and has a great job and he tells everybody that it wasn’t for me he probably would have been in prison. My point is that if you love your wife you have to learn to love their child or children or it is not going to work.

[belunu]

When you marry someone who comes with a bag of kids, you are going to deal with generational sins, characters, and behaviours of your spouse's ex through the kids. And on top of that you will have to exist with them and spend for them and educate them. It's important that you consider about these points before you get into a marriage that comes with these baggages. If you can handle, great..if you can't, then better not get into it as they will be a part of your life for quite a number of years. Gotta decide if the person you're marrying is truly worth what you'll be experiencing. Also, remember you will have to meet with your spouse's ex now and then inevitably.

[QuillAlRight]

There are no stepparents in the wild, let that sink in.
An alpha male lion will not play stepdad to cubs that aren't his, no he will kill the cubs.
Step parents are a nightmare. Step families never work.

[BingBingerson]

Something that is not mentioned here and not in any of the comments. It is usually the parent, not the stepchild, that causes the issues. In my case, it is their mother who steps in and undermines me. The kids have no respect for me at all, thanks to their mother constantly stepping in to protect them. I love her so very much but I am almost at the breaking point trying to manage a family that doesn't respect me at all.

[ao-okrp]

I’m a stepdaughter and it’s not my fault, I didn’t choose to have a stepdad. I have been nothing but nice to him but he still gets jealous when I’m with my mom and he yells at me. He wishes that I didn’t exist. If y’all didn’t want a step child then you shouldn’t have married your spouse. It’s as simple as that.

[cordapya]

Streesful when your adult stepdaughter manipulating your husband I'm close to divorce

[bbh]

I married a man that was raising his ex wife's affair child. She was 10 when we met- and boy did she have a mouth on her and still does. There was absolutely no discipline and the child talked to us like was on our peer level. I brought 2 boys into the marriage and it was difficult for a number of years. I think step parents get a bad rap. It's a tough and thankless job.

[bamboo]

I have 3 step daughters who I’ve supported. Their mother allows them to disrespect me and walk around ignoring me in our house. I will no longer be paying for their cell phone bills. They’re old enough to understand to be appreciative when someone does for them. They are ages 15, 18, 18

[Ronda_Frank]

Ive been bullied by my "adult" step daughter for 6 years now!! I've had enough!! Where are the support groups at!!

[janebaker]

please do more videos on stepping. This one was very good. I struggle with resentment, jealousy and mourning.