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[xolucy]

My father is the most heartless person I’ve ever met. Communicating with him feels really weird. It’s like he isn’t a human, he doesn’t have empathy for his own blood and he loves making me feel like garbage. These videos help me acknowledge the fact that HE is the problem and not me. My healing process is not done I am just in the beginning. Prayers to everyone going through similar struggles ❤

[Eighties-Jadie]

"Give the gift of absence to those who don't appreciate your presence." This is how I feel since going no contact with abusive family. Best wishes and healing everyone and thanks again Dr Ramani ☀️

[DollnAbox]

My father is a narcissist. Every year, I begrudgingly buy a gift and a card, and cringe when he gets teary eyed while reading the card and thanking and hugging me. It’s honestly so weird and repulsive considering that he is straight up nasty to me 80% of the time, always trying to start arguments with me and making little nasty remarks.

My mom is a good person and a good mom, but she’s so worn down from being married to this monster for so long, that I feel alone. I can’t go no contact because I live at home, and I am just filled with so much dread right now. More than usual. I get so jealous and hurt when I see people smiling and talking about how great their dad is. I’m honestly jealous of people who had no dad at all. I think would have been better for me, than having my dad as a father. I ask myself why me? Why couldn’t I have one of those jolly, sports watching, beer bellied bbq dads? Why did I have to have this mean, brooding nut case? There’s so much, it would take me a year to write.
Just venting here. Hoping for strength.

[basilkha]

As the pithy saying goes "Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child"

[molly]

I’ve finally realized today my father is a narcissist. A heavy and exhausting day full of tears, but happy to have my eyes opened. Everything makes sense now. Thank you, I feel seen ❤

[allysstressedits]

I cut off relationship with my father 8 years ago and with my mother this year. So now when it’s Mother’s Day or Father’s Day, I buy myself a fking huge cake and commend myself for pulling through those 18 years of psychological abuse and neglect, and coming out alive and somehow normal. Well done me 😹 and thank you to all the people on YouTube (esp. vloggers back in the day) who helped to raise me psychologically 🥳

[hadjrlili]

Being raised by a narcissistic father was like being hit by different sea waves, confusing and terrifying.
I love my dad but I don't ever wanna marry sb like him

[monaj]

To all girls, ladies and women with an asshole for a dad...Do not allow other men to disrespect you, brother, father, boyfriend etc....we are at a loss and need to always check ourselves...be the "man" you need by nurturing yourself and good self talk ❤

[RoyalKnightCurly]

For me, Fathers’ Day is something I like to dismiss because my father is a narcissist. He was never a model for me, he was never actually good to me, he never told me he loved me or treated me like he loved me - my feelings toward him have always been very complicated. As a child, I wanted to connect with him and be important to him, but it took me years to realize that I would never be cherished by him. And even thinking about Father’s Day is a bit depressing because of this. But I guess I can be who he wasn’t to me to myself. Thanks so much, Dr. Ramani

[ellisburton]

Spot on. Parent yourself. I recently started writing mini letters to myself as if from a supportive father or mother, and telling myself what I really want and need to hear, positively speaking. And while it can bring up the odd negative glitch to hear some really positive stuff, even though I wrote it to me, feels wonderful and warming. Hope that doesn't sound batty.

[julieb]

Talk about "hitting close to home". Tears are rolling down my cheeks as I am listening to this. Thank you for sharing this video today. I'm going to save this video and rewatch it every year on Father's Day.

[fagarash]

“Invalidating, critical, unavailable, neglectful, manipulative gaslighting father”
Oh that’s terrible - I now understand why my 14 year old is withdrawn and tearful

[elizabethhuang]

If you struggled with the guilt of not “honouring thy mother and father”, just remember that this was meant for thy GOOD mother and father…not narcissistic *ssholes. And sometimes we have to honour and respect a parent from AFAR so as not to cause dishonour and disrespect by further disparaging them.

Much love, strength, and power to my fellow survivors. ✊

[eyes]

My father is really good at being a narcissist. His talent shines in being able to hurt you in such ways that most people would invalidate your pain for. People around him say "oh he really loves his children"... it makes me sick. I was afraid of him my whole life, I never trusted him even as a little child, I did not feel safe with him. Many times I opened up, crying, yelling, my own mother did no believe me, , who divorced him, she told me I'm probably overreacting. His birthday is tomorrow. I'm a senior in high school now but the moment I'm financially stable I am CUTTING HIM OFF so he has nothing on me. Thank you for these videos reminding me I am not overreacting and my pain is not unfair punishment towards him.

[nyxcole]

First fathers day spent after going no contact with my self righteous malignant father and toxic family structure, , sending love to all the survivors and those still enduring 🙏❤

[Eighties-Jadie]

The recent abusive incident that made me go no contact was where I was in the car with my "father" and he got extremely emotionally abusive because I had a different opinion to him regarding my childhood. This retraumatised me and triggered all the abuse and neglect I suffered as a child. It also brought back a particularly nasty memory of him aggressively berating me as a child in the car while driving home but putting on a completely different mask when we got home calling me a "good girl." Moments before he was calling me every name under the sun - as a child - and then later as an adult! The big difference is now I'm an adult who can speak back and walk away instead of sitting terrified in his unhealthy and unpredictable company. When I spoke back this time I got the old, "All we've done for you" and "You were spoilt and had it easy" lines. I see it as being "Fed with one hand and abused with the other." Yeah I was "spoilt" alright! Thanks Dr Ramani for helping me and so many others ☀️

[virgomoon]

My father was never loved by his mother and so he never was able to show love to me. It’s impacted my ability to see real love for what it is and I confuse abuse with love. My grandmother was an undiagnosed NPD, so much so a doctor pulled my mom aside and said this woman has real issues…she thrived on conflict. My dad absolutely was the breadwinner and worked but didn’t invest in his kids emotionally. It took a toll on me. He died a year and a half ago and I still struggle to feel emotional about it. I love him but it’s hard to show love when it was never shown back to me.

[saya]

At 52 years old, I have decided that my father will not mistreat me again, neither physically nor emotionally… enough. And today, Father's Day for the first time I feel freed from that emotional burden of calling him and thinking carefully about what words to use to keep him happy and not offend him. Thank you Dr.🙏🏼🙋🏻‍♀️

[alexismerrilldragonqueen]

I decided to NOT wish my narcissistic father a Happy Father's Day. I am also deciding to go no contact with him too. I'm tired of being the scapegoat, all the rage, blame, shame, gaslighting, word salad, fighting, fleeing, freezing and fawning. No more no more no more!

[jeffreyjackson]

"All that you think that you lost was not worth having"- A divine message to me.