7 Signs of A HORRIBLE Partner

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Are you wondering if your relationship is too far gone to be saved? As an Attachment Specialist with over 10 years of experience, I frequently get asked by my coaching clients how to identify a relationship that’s truly beyond hope. In this video, I’ll walk you through the seven key signs that indicate your partner might be toxic and that your relationship could be in serious trouble. These signs are drawn from my extensive background as a licensed marriage and family therapist, coupled with 15 years of training in psychology.

From extreme jealousy and possessiveness to passive-aggressive communication, disrespectful behavior, and chronic dishonesty, I’ll explain how each of these red flags can signal a relationship that’s on a very difficult path. I also delve into the importance of compromise, accountability, and respect for boundaries—critical components of any healthy relationship.

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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Signs of a Toxic Partner
00:01:38 - Anxious Attachment and Control in Relationships
00:03:16 - Warning Signs in Relationships
00:04:59 - Recognizing a Red Flag in Relationships
00:06:49 - Collaboration and Compromise
00:08:30 - Deception and Damage to Trust in Relationships
00:10:13 - Lack of Accountability and Disrespect for Boundaries
00:11:50 - Disrespectful Boundaries and Needs
00:13:32 - Signs of Relationship Trouble
00:15:06 - Fixing a Relationship

[acd]

What hurt the most was the passive aggressive behavior. Realizing that this person intentionally wanted to cause me pain, was something I could not stand for any longer.

[Itsadri]

My ex boyfriend showed the 7 signs and didn't want to work on them and I was forbidden to talk about our issues to seek help. Its heartbreaking because we have a one year old child. I noticed that torwards the end of the relationship I was doing the same. The worst in me was brought out. I've been working on my attachment to prevent this from happening again in a new relationship.

[johnabsher]

He’s pretty much listing all the behavior patterns of cluster B behavior but without the stigmatized labels that make people defensive. Love it. Just calling someone xyz disorder is counterproductive

[sissysp]

You describe my husband. He does all of this. 24 years together 20 married. The past 4 years on roller coaster ride . He is always right blames me for everything. Belittle thinks he is smarter but he says he doesn’t of course. He says I have changed but he doesn’t need to change. That I need to be the same woman he married at 28 is not like 52. Thank you

[soul-etude]

Dear Adam, bravo! I love your content, and I love your professionalism, not because you are wearing s suit and a tie - which is so rare these days (and I just realized today that you differ from others in the way you present yourself), but I mostly love your communication style. You are concise, eloquent, very smart, respectful, caring, you are expressing things in a simple way but with the right dose of science-proven facts. You seem to understand women like no other, and you feel so much compassion with your troublemakers - avoidants :). But still, the one thing that stands out has nothing to do with strategy or business tactics - it's your natural gift of a teacher. So many are out there speaking about attachment, male and female experts, but I love your videos for intellectual accessibility, humor, simplicity and confidence you project about the solutions people can get from you. Just wanted to express you my admiration.

[theeJZ]

If a man accidentally embodied the energy of a "nice guy" and he got demolished by all 7 of these and even more, how can he ever find dignity / sanity / hope ever again?

[sobu]

What about someone who doesn't attack you or belittle you or blame you in any way, but always breaks promises, shuts down completely and refuses to talk about it, and in general refuses to take accountability for anything big or small, but also verbally say that they want to do better for you, and they may do so in small ways for a short while, but then completely fall off and repeat the cycle? at what point you say enough is enough? knowing that you always try to bring things up in a calm rational way, but still show frustration after a while of them not following up on their word?

[roketajohnson]

30 yrs in and the road has sooo many potholes and no construction crew in sight.

[heatherguess]

I was made wrong for being upset.... and I had every right to be. When someone breaks their word, blocks me when they're done speaking, and lies/manipulates me along with never taking responsibility for anything they've are huge issues for me. My problem is that obviously I don't respect myself enough because I put up with it for 2 years believing no one will ever love me or be better than he was.

I own that I did some of these. I want revenge when someone hurts me, I mention it and try to get it corrected and they don't care to do anything and keep doing it. Again, it speaks to my own view of my value to have continued to stay....which only I am responsible for. I finally let go.... because nothing is better than being treated like I'm nothing.

[AlchemyLuxe]

Recognizing my flaws - jealousy and trust issues have affected my relationships. Glad to be working through these challenges in therapy and moving forward with self-love and understanding. 🕊️ 🌺 🐦‍🔥

[kittydoggyMeow]

How you define passive aggressiveness very much defines the masculine I was with in the end. He became very controlling and used pain to get his desired results regardless of my feelings.

[saharalove]

This is so perfect!! I love how you break it down so simply and make the information digestible yet straightforward. Thank you Adam!

[Braveheart]

Our boundaries save our relationship and open/ honest communication.
Allowing to have an Interdependence kind of relationship wherein based on mutual respect and understanding will also be one of the main ingredients of a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.

[zkhan]

This sums up dating a avoidant partner lol

[hspinnovators]

My issue was ex (male) rubbing other women in my face, all his female coworkers, not having any male friends....

[kittydoggyMeow]

Yes accountability is SO SO important. ❤

[lisatanaga]

Hey Adam, I really enjoy your contemt after i went through my break up.

I want to ask about: how anxious person translates our emotional statement into more logical/measureable statement, so avoidant one would be easily understand? Actually, I wish google translate have this feature haha from anxious language to avoidant language🤤

[djoy]

This is so helpful! I’m wondering about partners/spouses who say they are committed and that they love you but never feel any jealousy at all and don’t miss you when apart for extended periods e.g. 6 weeks? In some ways, I can see how it frees the person up from bad feelings associated with abandonment but it seems like there’s no real bond. It’s hard to know when to raise the idea that they might be missing out if they seem content and don’t understand why they would need to apologize or compromise. Maybe that ultimately comes down to relationship goals and the 4 levels of trust?

[Arquebusier]

In the movie Trap by M Night Shyamalan, the husband seems to be the best father in the world, bringing the daughter for an awesome concert. When it was revealed to the wife that the husband was a serial killer, it send chills down to my spine. It is unbelievable that the person you married to had a dark side that you can’t even tell. I know it’s just a movie, but it does carry a cautionary tale on your other half.

[Randy.travel]

My ex... Where were you 7 years ago?! Haha