7 Signs You’re Not Broken, It’s Your Unhealed Trauma

A traumatic experience can refer to any situation that evokes an intense, overwhelming, and long-lasting sense of fear, anxiety, and stress. Emotional and psychological trauma is something unfortunately a lot of people go through, and it’s no less real or no less serious than the trauma that can be inflicted by physical harm. If left unresolved, trauma in any form can manifest in negative cognitive, behavioral, or even physiological ways.

If you're feeling broken, we are here to remind you that you're NOT broken, but may be struggling with some unhealed trauma.

Disclaimer: This is a disclaimer that this article/video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional if you are struggling.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Lesly
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:
USA.gov. “Teen Dating Violence.” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Accessed April 22, 2014.
Herman, J. L. (1998). Recovery from psychological trauma. Psychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences, 52(S1), S98-S103.
American Psychological Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th Ed). Washington, DC; APA Publishing.
Bower, G. H., & Sivers, H. (1998). Cognitive impact of traumatic events. Development and psychopathology, 10(4), 625-653.
David, M., Ceschi, G., Billieux, J., & Van der Linden, M. (2008). Depressive symptoms after trauma: is self-esteem a mediating factor?. The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, 196(10), 735-742.

[TheBlackClockOfTime]

Honestly I'm surprised so many of us are able to just live on day to day considering the amount of damage we take.

[thechancellor-]

To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

[iloveteadoyou]

As a child, I never experienced the sweet fantasising and normal childhood. It was filled with money disputes, my parents fights, my mom cheating etc. All these things made me numb. Now I am 16 years old, and everyday is so hard to live. Not a single passes, where i don't wanna die. Studies are exhausting and I feel hella insecure. But I know one day, I'll be really happy. Let's give our best guys♡

[ily]

That's exactly what my school nurse said! :
"you don't have any personality disorder, you don't suffer from BPD, it's just unhealed trauma, and you need to get help as soon as possible"

[abigirlll]

I think that it is important to note that a "toxic relationship" doesn't just mean romantic relationships. This could also be friendships or even family relationships. Which in the end can be harder to identify as toxic, especially if it was someone you grew up with at an early age in life.

[sadlobster]

The only kind of "major" trauma I've had in life was the fact I've been a victim of bullying/ridicule from Middle School to the end of High School. Even though I've graduated way back in 2004, certain things about specific events in today's time just...bring back memories of those bad days; which could be an example of the triggers you've mentioned.

Of course, my mother believes that once you've graduated; you should stop thinking about those sort of experiences and just move on

[khalilahd.]

I had a pretty bad childhood and unfortunately I relate to all 7 of these signs. My parents were terrible and my grandma raised me but recently passed away. I’m working on healing this and going to therapy definitely helps. I pray anyone else who relates finds peace and healing too 💛

[Anonymous-qlyd]

Toxic and narcissistic relationship with my mother, sexual harrassment faced as a child, fight between parents. No best friends, no outlet..Definitely a hell lot of trauma.

[anodaqo]

as someone who went through an extremely toxic relationship, I never knew it even counted as trauma and most of the time I just thought I was weak. Psych2go really changed my perspective of life, and this channel won all the possible respect I was able to give someone or something.

[monicagonzalez]

“Don't count the days, make the days count.” ♥️♥️– Muhammad Ali.

[ernestoguevara]

I realize that my whole life was traumatic to me, growing up around drugs and violence, losing my brother and some of my best friends to alcohol and drugs, many MANY near death experiences then just ended a ten year toxic relationship. I don't actually know how all of this has affected me but I'm struggling real bad sometimes. I'm 25 years old and life is feeling overwhelming and unsatisfying at the same time. I have a lot to be grateful for tho I still believe in myself just afraid that my psychological issues will get worse if I'm not dealing with them correctly. Whoever reads this better or worse off I wish you good fortune in this short cruel life

[bloo_keyz]

Your videos always pop up for me out of nowhere and they always happen to pop up whenever I’m questioning myself and they always give me the answers I’m looking for so thank you.

[yoonkiss_]

Idk if this is a trauma or not. But since I was 13 yrs old, I watched my parents fight over financial problems. I have also grown up seeing how my mom has outbursts of anger and screaming at us (we are two daughters) and after like 2 minutes after the screaming show, she would be a lovely person and talked us sweetly. Now i'm nearly 18 yrs old, and it's been a tough moment coping with my mom's acctitude. She screams to us because of everything, threatens to throw things at us as punishment. She once threatened my younger sister of only 13 years with throwing a hot pot at her for not having washed something that she did not have to wash. It's been hard to live in fear of her hitting us or hurting us. There are days when she gets up bad and gets mad with us for literally anything, she even compare us to other people (smt that i dont really like) she also went back with my dad, after three failed attempts. She doesnt even hear how we feel. I been struggling with anxiety since 14 (I was diagnosed without wanting to know anything about it) and she didn't believe the doctor, constantly telling me that I am mentally weak. It is also forbidden to cry at home. If we cry she usually says that we can't stand anything, and I have that concept in which if you cry, it's because it hurts, so thanks to that, I hate to cry, I can't do it and I endure days of crying so that she doesn't see me and threaten or criticize me. Thanks to her attitude I have lost liking certain things and my anxiety has been getting worse. Now i cant eat properly due to that, i barely sleep and i dont pay attention to class because i use the 40 minutes of class just to overthink everything.

I dont want to think it is a trauma because she is my mom, right? She cant hurt just because she thinks it's a right way to educate her children.


Too much text lol. And sorry if i have a misspell word, english isn't my first language.

[wellwelp]

Just wanna let future me know that i have some of the signs mentioned starting at 4-7. You got this buddy, i believe in you

[shadowheart]

I love your vids about trauma, Psych2Go. 10 years ago I was in a 2-year relationship where I talked my ex down from suicide and/or self-harm multiple times a week...I would stay up past 2am, terrified she was going to kill herself and feeling like my entire world was collapsing in on itself. Your videos are making me realize that even now, 10 years later, there's still a lot of unhealed trauma inside me.

[blue-uvmh]

7 signes of unhealed trauma:

1) you were in a toxic relationship 💔
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2) you suffered a significant loss 🪦
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3) you have certain triggers ❗️
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4) you have unexplained symptoms ❔
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5) you struggle with emotional intimacy 🖤
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6) you suffer from feelings of depression 🌧
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7) you have unhealthy coping mechanisms ❤️‍🩹
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[holliepatterson]

My mother died when I was 17 and I was alone for two years. I dropped out of school, lost all my then friends and my father left. I'm now 37 and it still feels raw. I have a husband and a son now, a new family, but I still find the grief overwhelming because I never learned how to move on, never healed in a healthy way.

[FranxxxWorld]

Your videos have really helped me a lot with my mental state, and when I watch your videos, you make me feel a lot better and you make me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for the comfort you have given me and many other people. Stay safe♥♥♥♥

[damonwallace]

The most worst dramatic experience that I had was traumatized when my parents got a divorce and my sister and I were in a middle of it. To be honest with y`all, " I have realized that my parents divorce situation had really effected my mental health extremely, emotionally, and mentally. Besides, I was mentally and emotionally scorned for the long run of all the years. Honestly, When I was child growing up, I feeling left out at Jr. high and high school. Every toxic person in this world don't want to see you as a friend, but see you as their enemy. Nobody does not want to be my friend. They did me so lowdown and wrong and left me hanging. Man, I have learned a important reality check lesson all these years in this world, "If someone who been mean, lowdown, and abandoned you, and don't want to have anything to do with you. If they ready to walk out of your life, let them haters go. Some people are never there for you in the first place. Everyone please take this lesson as wake up call for your mental health and your souls.

[dominikadrozd]

It's so sad how true this video is. I experienced sexual abuse when I was in highschool and i still can't look at certain types of boys, even if i think i already healed. I never told that anyone, even after therapy i still have this feeling inside me that this makes me weaker and it was all my fault. Im ashamed to even talk to my therapist about it because it just wasn't that serious of an assault. My problem is no matter how many times my therapist, my friends, tell me that I'm not broken and all my trauma wasn't my fault i just can't quite believe it. It's just, like, i fully believe that other's people trauma wasn't their fault and they're not broken. They are strong for what they come through, and that they are still going. But i can't think that way about myself. Honestly i don't even know why I'm writing all of this here, I'm just tired after all these years in therapy and still can't quite help myself. I guess i just given up to this point that i think that maybe dumping this here will help me in some kind of way.