The Impact Of Trauma Bonding On The Body, featuring Caroline Strawson

Recently, Dr. C interviewed Caroline Strawson about how trauma bonding with a narcissists influences your physiology. Her insights were intriguing and challenging. The video of that interview is shown here for your enlightenment.

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[julianterris]

I'd be interested to know if there is a list of physical illnesses that are associated with narcissistic abuse.

[greenfairy]

This makes complete sense. I wish I had known these things earlier. I’m 50 now and really wasted so much of my life on something I now see will never change. I was always very hopeful of things being better.

[Chahlie]

"I'm a nice person".... this is actually the number one criteria for being a target of narcissists :)
The bonus is that for most of us there is literally nothing we cannot cope with. This has been a huge benefit in my work life.

[npdsurvivorsmith]

Many thanks for having your guest speakers, especially Caroline Strawson and Dr Ramani. Many of us follow several channels as you each teach from a slightly different angle. And pulling the communities together is beneficial to the professionals and viewers. Thanks so much 👍

[amischair]

I was in my trauma bond addiction for 26 years. I called it relationship addiction. How it’s explained here makes perfect sense. Detoxing from the trauma bond addiction is extremely difficult and healing is a lifelong journey. Always staying in a mindset of healthy habits and positivity is key for ongoing recovery.

[goldilocks]

Love what she said about healing being a journey. One step forward, two steps back I have found. Ultimately what you are trying to do is rewire your brain by creating new neural pathways that reward health instead of destruction. It is indeed the journey of our lifetime - and with each day, week, month and year that goes by, with effort and diligence those wounds do become less and less and less to the point where they are almost, but not quite, gone 😇

[nancytwigg]

Very relatable to have a guest who is a covert NPD abuse victim AND such a learned guest of her many modalities that help heal victims of narcassistic abuse. What a rare treat you made possible for Team Healthy. I'm indebted to you, for sure. This session was very helpful. Thank you

[leeboriack]

After my narcissistic dad divorced mom, her migraines stopped. After I broke up with a narcissist I lost 10 lbs, as the stress eating stopped.

[cherylvanesch]

I am learning to 1. Notice my feelings, 2. Stop everything and find my thoughts behind those feelings, 3. Find the beliefs I’m believing behind those feelings, 4. Replace those false beliefs with the truth, which leads to different thoughts, which leads to different feelings. It’s quite a process but when I do it, and replace false beliefs, from the pit of hell, with God’s truth of how much He loves me, how much He values me, how He will lead me and protect me and provide for me, then I can settle down. I have actually felt the peace that passes all understanding finally now, after 25 years of being a Christian wondering why I didn’t feel that, when He promised it to me. It was because I wasn’t believing right, I wasn’t believing God and all of his amazing promises and in His amazing character. The Bible even says we can have joy and peace IN BELIEVING, so now I have been able to process the junk and trauma, past and present and come to a much better place. So now I have that tool to help me when I’m lost and struggling. I have been physically separated from my abusive spouse for a year now, i am 1500 miles away from him, with loving family, so I am not in physical danger anymore, so when I get the fight/flight, anxious/fearful feelings, I use Truth to get the help I need, and stop playing those false, destructive belief tapes in my mind. Definitely a work in progress, but a huge milestone has been reached in handling those trauma response feelings

[grandmatoo]

Yes, yes, yes, I was terribly trauma bonded! I love the book "The Body Keeps The Score". It makes very logical sense that our bodies are where we store our painful moments. Caroline you are fluent on this subject! I love that you're using Family Systems and Somatic interventions. May we all continue to heal ❤

[brianlane]

WOW! At the two minute point she reacted exactly as I did. It wasn't until I went to see a marriage counselor (my ex refused to partake), after I explained a few things, it was suggested to learn about narcissism. When I 'guugled' it, it was like a whole new world opened up to me. It all started to make sense. *** What's amazing is that I've heard that exact same response from countless others.

[bonniehonchell]

Thank You whole heartedly for bringing this beautiful person to us.
At my age, a young 71, going through what she did, & going through it myself, twice, it would've been wonderful to have anyone who had the knowledge to help those of us suffering at the time.
We just had to suck it up.
A song from the '70's, Carley Simon, "You're so vain, you probably think this song is about you", keeps rolling through my head. Read the lyrics 😂. This shows how prevalent the Narcissistic World was even then. Having come from a Medical background myself, this was not the path I wanted to take. But, the years of abuse, (verbal & attempted physical), from men & women have now caught up to me in ways that no one could ever imagine. I've always been able to deal with it & release it. B/C the "Medical Field" has become an Ick Factor in our life, & ageism is running rampant, a lot of us are definitely being left out in the cold, where Medical attention is needed. So, is Narcissism & greed running the Medical Profession now? Thank You Always. 🕊💫

[SendItForward]

YES, unheard is AWFUL. I developed talking out loud to myself, when alone, after "I won't hear you" episodes bc I needed to get it out. Keeping it inside felt like doom and despair and I didn't need to go there.

[jonbaker]

I’m going to need to listen to this several times. Just learning about living with a covert narcissist who is done with me after 27 years. Totally get the trauma bond neurological addiction!

[DrNancyLivingCoCreatively]

My area. I have a genetic issue I turned into a profession. I got sicker and sicker w his abuse and I am now recopperatinng from the trauma . I have helped literally helped 1ks but understanding his covert cheating retraumized me. He's dying. I'm thriving. Glad to learn of Caroline's work. I call trauma initiation if we are open to exploring and self care. This is what epiginetics is all about. Now I come first.

[mareeamor]

What an informative interview! I was in the same situation as Caroline, from childhood, in my marriage and after my divorce (also after having two children). I developed anxiety/panic attacks then a chronic physical health problem. Caroline's physiological descriptions confirm how these things happen. Kudos to both of you.

[skinnyway]

I would dare to say this is where all body pain comes from - fibro myaligia etc. I dont know all the names but I do know being held in constant terror affects the body as well as the brain. and its a lifelong struggle to come out of - even when you are no longer with those abusive people anymore. the world is full of them - the only way to avoid them is to not live your life - and that is not an option. its perfectly fine to be a nomad. ❤‍🔥

[kathleenbristol]

Thankyou for this video! my big mistake was I was involved with a negative person.I'm married to him for 16 yrs.he's always negative, and I was mostly positive.I was going through trauma one time, and how many yrs later I realized he was love bombing me.a lesson to learn about the red flags never ignore your gut feelings!

[paulamorris]

Excellent discussion!!! So sad when women think they can’t survive without a man and try to live 😢their lives with narcissistic person. Trauma bonding is such a difficult position to be in. It is not an authentic life.

[enraegen]

Thank you! ❤

I weeded out every narcissist of my life, and today I am crying rivers, missing the strong closeness of the fighting and the mistreatment... 😢 I don't know who to talk to at the moment, because it's so hard to understand: I don't want the narcissists back, but there is so much pain and sorrow inside, grief, even. No regrets, but I am just so sad today...