Emotional Neglect & Traumatic Loneliness. Ask Dr. Anna S.2.E.36

Learn about Traumatic Loneliness and Emotional Neglect.

Dr. Anna answers a viewer's question about feeling like you don't fit in.
She discusses Emotional Neglect and Traumatic Loneliness.

Connect with us on social media!
Facebook:

[mallory]

One of the worst parts is that people blame you for your condition. This compounds the pain. People judge you when you don't have long term connections and this judgement makes you even less trusting. People who do this are unwittingly cruel. They pat themselves on the back and consider themselves to be better people totally taking for granted what it is that fosters this ability to be and stay close to others. The pain keeps getting compounded.

[justincoughenour]

Nail on the head. I know it wasn't because of hate but I sincerely believe my dad didn't have enough emotional depth to raise 2 kids. My mom was gone from when I was 3. I had no one, and I have felt alone or misplaced my entire life. It is painful to feel nobody wants or accepts you. I'm 32 still struggling to this day.

[curtistinemiller]

Trusting others is so hard when you have been Emotionally Neglected you expect pain from others because the parents who brought you here don't even love

[JordanShackelford]

I was treated like dogshit growing up and the only comfort I had was playing video games. Now I'm lost.

[RH-ulbc]

+What Is PTSD How do you find your way back to something you never had? Sometimes i think im going to die a hermit. I enjoy being alone but then there are times my heart just aches for connecrion. I dislike small talk as it feels empty and fake. I get depressed because my mind says my life should be more than it is. Its a tug of war.

[cathyconzyme]

don't expect anything from anyone

[thenobleandmightybeaver]

It’s interesting that she brings up connecting with objects rather than people. I had an intimate (I don’t mean sexual) connection with a pillow case until I was well into my 30s. The last one disintegrated about 5 years ago and I never replaced it. I still miss the security of it, particularly when I feel anxious.

[hasannaomir.]

Thank you so very much.  Another thread to fill in the weaving in our emotional blanket of life.   What a kind, gentle and nurturing voice.

[bipolar_ADHD]

In my whole life, 20 years this was the first time I actually look someone in the eyes and engaged on the conversation... This women, just made my life turn around :-)

[TorontoNad]

Thank you for clearly identifying and labeling what I experienced as a child and young adult. It was a painful and difficult stage of life for me. Reading Jung in my 30s helped me move forward. I am now 62 and healthily and satisfyingly connected to a network of friends and close family. Good luck with your work. I know first hand that it is much needed.

[dotsyjmaher]

I grew up a very resilient child of a wonderful father and a cold psychotic erratic abusive mother..
I was surrounded by warm loving teachers relatives extended family and friends..
BUT that horrible woman NEVER let up..
I ended up taking care of everyone ...
The old "greatest generation" ones were so wonderful and appreciative...
when they all died I have since felt completely alone...
Three of my siblings turned out cold calculating greedy and dangerous...
One is still like I was...he got used by his crazy wife and friends...he lives only to take care of his crazy ex wife and son...
We occasionally talk and even laugh a lot when we do..we were the nice conscientious kids...and we got screwed..
He and I are VERY cautious about letting anyone in emotionally..
People would describe us as friendly funny and gregarious...
BUT WE CANNOT REALLY LET ANYONE IN..

[ASMinor]

I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my YouTube channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

[JuliusSP]

I am a part of the larger HUMAN community! ....crickets...

[meganmorais]

Hi, I just broke down watching your videos and am very grateful for how informational the conversations with other experts are. I've spent a long time looking for info on CEN which is really scarce, so thank you for these. They mean the world to me

[ianburnside]

It is harder now because the world is so unsociable. People don't talk anymore

[Whatisptsd]

Hey Martin! Thanks so much for your comment. Glad these videos are useful. Please share if you think this might help others. I have another episode on this topic with Dr. Jonice Webb (author of Running on Empty) coming shortly.

[mariamkinen]

Thank you....good topic. Love this.(I had my mum.) I felt scared. Sibling rivalry...

[mariamakinen]

Once i remember thinking to myself what the h..k am i doing here? At home...

[angelaburton]

Have you read the book called "In comfort of Mary" by Bethany Ford its on Amazon and when you look it up always put the authors name in as well as the title of the book and its now on YouTube now and you can read chapter one on YouTube now and it's all about healing and how to move on with your life after physical, emotional, neglect, mental, sexual, verbal abuse. When you look it, tell me what you think thanks x.