7 Signs it's Time To End An Adult Friendship

As we get older, friendships can become much more complicated, and ending a friendship when and if necessary can also be very complicated. Here I'll teach you how to know when it's time to end an adult friendship and the 7 key signs to look out for.

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[joyceconnolly]

I recently left a 60 year friendship. (I am 80.) During covid, I was in the hospital for three weeks and a rehab facility for three weeks. It was a very serious situation and I could have easily passed away. Afterwards, this friend said I did it all "for attention." That was the last straw in this friendship and I let it go. 👍

[Clevelandsteamer]

It’s better to be alone than in bad company

[amiblack]

Pay REAL close attention to who is NOT clapping when you win in life. That'll tell you all you need to know about those individuals.

[indranidasgupta]

You forgot to list a very important factor: disrespect. It goes for every relationship.

[margarettelaizure]

You forgot one. They don’t listen to you. They only talk on and on about themselves and their own stuff and don’t give you any quarter.

[lmusima]

In my experience I’ve drawn away from certain friends who:
-began ghosting me
-don’t invite me to their special -gatherings or weddings,
make excuses about not having time to talk to me but have a lot of time to converse with others
-Never compliment on accomplishments

[djw]

My one test: Do you feel better, the same, or worse after you've been around your friend?

[athena-ggw]

I’ve had to cut my fair share of friends loose from my life over the years. It’s not because I didn’t care, It’s because I realized they *didn’t*.

[unknown-lfzx]

I let go of friendships when the other person is disrespectful, one sided or toxic. It’s so hard but not everyone deserves space in your life. Life is too hard for crappy friends

[fkrbueh]

When that person becomes really hard work, it is time to move on. End of story.

[danielhorak]

When people try to control you and get mad at you when they can’t

[rfrancoi]

I USED to think that having a lot of friends meant that you are such a great person (qualification). As I got older, I realized that this is not true at all. Today, I realize that I have NO quality friends and am very ok with that.

[leannekites]

5.44. Becomes one sided
8.50 using your insecurities against you
11.10. They dump on you alot
15.29. They don’t support you and compete with you
20.19 they are unreliable
22.19. They can’t handle honesty
28.38. You don’t feel good about yourself around this person

[admirbarucija]

Letting go of friendships can hurt and be very hard, but sometimes it’s the best thing you can do for yourself 🙌🏻

[tball]

When I was diagnosed with cancer I really found out who my friends were. I actually cut loose several friends of 30 and 40 years.

[lookouthill]

A major sign I experienced several times:
Pay attention to how the friends of your friend (that you don’t share) treat you. How has your friend portrayed you to them, how do they treat you based on that. Do they belittle you in front of your friend, does your friend not find that a problem? My friend gossiped about me to her friends, they then felt comfortable based on her behavior to then bully me with that info. I realized there was no respect between us. Heartbreaking to realize when it’s a long term friendship.

[mimib]

I came to realise that part of the problem with my adult friendships was me. I’ve always been a bleeding heart so seem to attract friends who constantly pour out their troubles to me to the point where I’m nothing more than an agony aunt because my personal life is pretty content so I didn’t have dramas to share. I reluctantly dropped a 25 year friendship when I realised that she was addicted to being the victim but never took advice, just complained about the same stuff for years. It became too exhausting.

[kathleenlauren]

The hard truth is that friendship is not all it's cracked up to be. After a lot of painful disappointment because of my expectations and the short comings of others, I finally recognize that what I wanted doesn't exist - at least, as far as I know. I don't need 'friends' anymore. Coming to this recognition was enormously freeing. I'm whole and never get lonely - being alone is blissful. I'm happy and grateful that I've finally discovered this way of living,

[kimberlygorgoglione]

My mother had her friends for 50 + years thru all kinds of changes including divorce, trauma, change of lifestyle, moves out of state, etc. That was another generation.

[ElfinMadness]

“Not feeling good about yourself around them”. My dogs are thrilled when I walk in - best thing ever!