Narcissistic Family: Odd Ways They TARGET the Scapegoat

In this video, I explore the odd ways narcissistic parents and families target the scapegoat and how this role plays out within the dysfunctional family.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

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[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[forgiven]

The saddest thing the narc mother or father does is turn your own siblings against you. These things are demonic.

[carolynjaynes]

I went “no contact” with my whole family and I’m thriving now, 2000 miles away where I made new friends and live close to nature. ❤

[stephanie]

I've always said, some of the most toxic people come disguised as family

[tburgher]

I broke the cycle by walking away from the family over twenty-five years ago. One of my best decisions.

[Accountant]

My mother was a narcissist and I was the scapegoat. This description is totally how I grew up. I'm 65 and I'm finally healing from my childhood trauma.

[donnakelley]

It is amazing to me that the narcissist parents focus their hate and cruelty on the good child in the family. The one who is kind, patient, hard working and forgiving. That one becomes the scapegoat. It happened in my family and I have seen it happen in other families when I was growing up. Why do they do that? Narcissists hate good people. The scapegoat is almost always a "good" child.

[jonathanuniverse]

As the former scapegoat in a very sick narcissistic family, I can say this is 100% accurate.

[vickigonya]

I have DENIED ACCESS to me from all the toxic BS. I withdrew from all social media. I only watch YouTube videos. Changed my phone number, returned to sender any mail reveived, fenced in the front yard, put a gate across my driveway. I am DONE forever. I enjoy my peace and LOVE living alone. No drama, no stress, total indifference. IM not a person that feels lonely. I feel free to relax

[britviking]

Mother is a narcissist, had to cut ties in the end, my brothers have ignored me ever since, still worth it. Be true to yourself.

[teddiiicarebear]

You just described my family 100%. Dealing with this will literally kill you from stress and depression if you let it. Be wise and escape quietly and never look back. They always self destruct.

[jarrod]

It's actually quite insane really how nearly every enmeshed narcissistic family operates, functions and behaves pretty much exactly the same way isn't it.

[jk-]

Being the scapegoat hurts. More pain than you can explain to a narcissist.

[srozaardnet]

My narcissist parents used to love to verbally attack me in situations where I could not easily escape. In a car. A boat. A restaurant. Places where they felt they had total control of me.

[baileymarie]

The absence of empathy from a narcissistic mother is extremely painful

[pennyenzor]

This is me.
The abused scapegoat.
The truth teller.
Often referred to as being crazy by my narcissistic mother that is jealous of me.
Thank you for this information.

[chrisbonnett]

I grew up with narcissistic parents. My counter, which I did by default and only realized later, was to become more educated and knowledgeable on any and every subject. You can't lie and manipulate someone who knows more than you. And, when I realized what they were, I disowned them and moved halfway across the country. You can't fix those people. You have to separate yourself. You can't be a good person surrounded by bad people.

[rhondab]

Being denied family info was the nail in the family coffin for me. After father died, narc mother and my brothers started having family reunions at various places. I guess just keeping it a secret wasn't fun enough so mommy always made sure to spill the beans a couple months afterwards, then act surprised that I didn't know.

[Michelle__]

You just explained my entire life & family dynamics. Wish I could join your live class. I’ve been holding on to this for a very long time. Mourning an entire family.

[stBorn]

A narcissistic family dynamic is nothing but a bunch of bullies who can't stand each other but will gather unite and stand banding together against the truth teller whenever they need to feed their ego and malicious intent.... It's cruel, and the only way I knew to handle it was to walk away!! Walk away from my family, my ex & his family, my church family, and anyone else who I deemed as a problem and a peace destroyer. I have too much living to do versus being stressed out by a bunch of envious adult babies with chips on their shoulders.