The narcissist's victim-bully complex

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[delicate.mascara]

What's even worse is when only you see the bully part, and all that everyone else sees is the victim part. Then the narcissist gets all the sympathy and support while you look like the jerk.

[iriswontbequiet]

Seems like whenever I stand up for myself, I'm suddenly "disrespectful". Whereas the narcissist was what? Disrespecting my boundaries.

[bluecolumbine]

They have 3 roles;
1 the “hero” (in their own mind)
2 the bully
3 the victim

[suni]

They don’t believe in being held accountable for anything

[rebeccaf]

I can’t count the number of times I apologized for reacting to bullying and abuse. It makes me a little sick to my stomach.

[Moonmaedyn]

Honstly, I don't think narcissists have ever matured beyond "the terrible twos."

[PaintingandExercise]

My narcissistic mother and my narcissistic brother pulled a "joke" and I was the object of the "joke". When I told her the next day that the joke was humiliating she dismissed my words. Then she immediately became the victim. I received a text from brother saying that mother has been crying for 3 days and what an awful person I am. So I blocked them on my phone, blocked them from getting through the guard gate at my residence, and will never have anything to do with them for the remainder of my life. That was 4 months ago and I have never been happier knowing that this poisonous duo is unable to reach me.

[BOG]

"The narcissist is just 1, well-oiled, manipulation machine."

Just keep this in mind and suddenly its so clear. Thank you

[darklybright]

Playing the victim is also the narcissist's way of punishing people for calling them out. If they see it doesn't work, they use silent treatment.

[cheeriozombie]

The “I’m just joking line” is such a sick play.
You either laugh at your own humiliation to stay “fun”
Or you call them out and your “bitter, no fun, too sensitive”
You don’t win.

[juliagarrison-odwyer]

You end up saying sorry for THEIR BEHAVIOR!!

[cherylg]

I refuse to apologize for anything anymore unless I’m truly in the wrong!

[Its_like_the_T-Rex]

My therapist drew a triangle 🔺️ of the narcissistic cycle. Bully > Savior > Victim. The three modes that they can only exist in.

[tracydanneo]

Ever notice how they can’t be consoled once they go into victim mode? What a waste of time and energy it is to try to soothe them.

[jenm]

I love when the narcissist tryes to paint you ase the "victim bully" when you call out the bad behavior

[michelesummers]

And then they'll throw in your face later and say, "Remenber that time you yelled at me when I was trying to help you."

[florencia]

My narcissist mom does this. If someone confronts her, she will start crying and play the victim role. It doesn’t work with me anymore.

[eVaniwithaV]

THIS! THIS! THIS! It’s the duality that took me a while to recognize but this outlines it perfectly! When you’re in it, it really does feel like 2 people…

[mehlover]

It's infuriating when you see them for what they are and yet enablers will comfort the narcissist while the victim will be talked behind their back

[robertjohnston]

To a narc they see themselves abused when they do not get the applause and worship they think they deserve
They then seek revenge and retribution on their victims
“I demand you worship me or else”