The Narcissist’s Family Cult #narcissist

[santiagocruz]

Absolutely. A narcissist doesn't want people thinking for themselves.

[l.u.xk]

And that's how I became a victim of a whole family. The trauma when it's a whole family.... is not to explain in words.

[KingMark]

I didn’t realize this until I was an adult but everytime someone new is introduced to the family, like a new girlfriend of a sibling, my mom tells them “you have to have thick skin around us because we like to joke…but just realize it’s all in fun.” I finally understand that this means “I’m going to say some rude and below the belt comments about you and you’re not allowed to get upset and my family will be here to back me up. She makes it sound like it’s something we all do, but truthfully it’s only her. That’s a huge problem when you have to tell someone to make sure to bring their thick skin when you’re around me because I will insult you and disguise it as a joke. The most ironic part is that has the thinnest skin of anyone involved. You’re not allowed to talk about or joke around with her. She will get extremely upset and angry and say things to you that only your worst enemy would say. It’s very one sided. Basically saying “I’m going to say some horrible things to you and about you and you can’t say anything back or get upset because I don’t take it well at all but you have to take whatever I dish out to you. If you do get upset, I’m going to call you out in front of everyone and say you’re sensitive and don’t know how to take a joke.” It’s surprising that people are like this but it’s very true. Narcissists are some of the most cruel and manipulative people on earth.

[mangrum]

I totally agree! I have experienced this. If you do not play along with the narcissist family dynamic, you will be ousted and treated like a black sheep because you refuse to be controlled. You’re right, it is truly like a cult and I don’t want any part of it.

[tracyweaver]

I agree 100%. I am the one who was lucky enough to get out of the cult.

[alekari]

My narcissist told me once "you think too much" as if thinking was a bad thing. That was enough for me to leave him.

[Wo.Main_Character_Energy]

It's difficult to realise this because these are the families that endorse the concept of a happy family the most loudly

[rhondathompson]

It's true!! You will be a target when you don't go along with the system and choose to be authentic!

[proverbs]

Yes. My husband’s grandmother is the main narcissist. Then there are the others including my husband and his mother, his sister an aunt, uncle and a wife of an uncle. This family is very well off compared to many. It’s very sick.

[a.y.]

“The Queen of Everything” Is the self-proclaimed narcissist’s title, and has full control and influence over the automatons, I mean family members.

[yafayafa]

ENTIRELY true. Especially in the so-called very religious and conservative families. Those turn from families into cults. No family, only tension and fear.

[sirrantsalott]

Am a proud black sheep here who has a mind of their own

[sahrekkajones]

Finally I get it💚💚Thank you so much for your knowledge. Love you and I really appreciate this so much. I am Free🙏🏽🙏🏽

[sheiladay-odme]

This is so true. My biological father had no identity and was the most cruel, destructive person I have ever met and I am 75 years old. He destroyed my siblings and I on many levels and enjoyed it. It has taken me a lifetime with interventions by other caring people and therapy to regain much of what I lost. I left home at 19 and never looked back. I have been healing all of my life. No narcissist, psychopath or sociopath will ever be in my life.

[ellie_j.]

"One mind controls every member", "they do not think for themselves"... So accurate and so mind boggling!

[cayotelives]

Its true the main leader is hiding and let others do his work . I was thinking the same thing.

[courtneymeyers]

Have extensive trauma from a huge narcissistic clan, because I divorced their brother. Scapegoated completely for the divorce, shamed by his mother - the majority, silent sympathizers don't help due to fear, blamed me for the divorce and brainwashed my son

The clan mentality, you hurt 1 of us, you hurt all of us is ridiculous

[darkangel]

This is exactly what was happening to me in my life before I started to research educate myself on something behind the scenes because I knew something was off. I started to really pay attention to this narcissistic behaviour in the world today what's got me feeling be stabilized but thank you now I feel set free and now they will probably be mad but I don't care. I also have been a target. I know how ugly it feels to have this happen from experience. I am so glad I found this

[khoango]

As a black sheep, yes this is true, we are also the lighting rod for all the blame, frustrations, they can be upfront hobest with us but they tip toe around eachother and only smear eachother behind thier backs, all smiles and friendly upfront but behind eachother backs they are negative or more of a mix .

[helenshg]

An excellent description! Although they can remain as independent organizations that may be unknown to each other, they all seem to operate with many of the same diabolical actions.