10 Signs Someone is Repulsed by You

This video answers the questions: What are the signs that someone is repulsed by another person? How can you tell when someone is emoting disgust? How can signs of disgust be interpreted?
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[paxwallacejazz]

Buddhist advice: the moment you notice avoidance disappear. Life is hard enough without forced interactions.

[vivianvennicia]

If they repeatedly state explicitly that they see you as disgusting. That could be a clue.

[Strype]

I've never felt more proud of the fact that nobody has ever vomited as I approached them.

[stephaniekirk]

I have psoriatic arthritis and before starting a biologic, I had psoriasis every where including my face. People would look and I would give them my best smile. But my daughter would give them a disgusted look until they looked away. She is my champion.

[gmjsimmons]

Very helpful. When I was young I tried to be good looking. During middle age, I wanted to be somewhat attractive. Now that I am old, not being disgusting is my goal.

[BitsofRealPanther]

"Recommended for you." -- Wow, what is YouTube trying to tell me? :O

[kellyyork]

I once worked with a group of younger women, all of whom were part of a clique, and years later ran into one of this group at a hair salon. I had hair color in my hair, and the hair stylist had placed me in a corner of the salon to sit until it was time to wash the color out of my hair... in walked this woman. She checked in, sat, and saw me in the corner ( we had not seen each other for 7 years). She made a face at me with her eyes as if she were looking at poo on the wall, but also as if she were trying to remember where she knew me from (when I worked with this group of women for many years, I was well known in my profession for my hard work and many accomplishments, so I don’t think she would have forgotten me that easily—but I did have dark color all over my hair ). She quickly recognized me however, and saw me looking at her and smiling at her, so she immediately smiled back with both lips together...a tight, quick smile that did not involve her eyes. A second or two later, she looked away and picked up a magazine. Guilt... from the way she and her friends/clique had treated me when I worked with them? Or repulsion, since they had convinced themselves that I was a horrible person in order to justify their evil acts? In any case, I thanked my stars that I did not ever have to work with them/her again. I had a great time at the salon that day talking and laughing with the owner and hair stylist. Great afternoon. Sometimes when you get snubbed by one of these types of people, it can be a good thing.

[cameronfielder]

When I started telling myself that what others think of me is none of my business, I found much of my social anxiety alleviated. Obviously you still want to be conscientious of others and how your behavior affects the world around you but many of us are too worried about how others perceive us to live a normal healthy life.

[sirbantzalot]

When person B gets a restraining order against you, that might be a sign

[neitik]

People with social anxiety might exhibit some of these too. They don't feel repulsed by the person, they feel repulsed by the situation and themselves. The irony is that when you are afraid of other people being repulsed by you, you give out signals other people translate in a way that they think you are repulsed by them.

[ribby]

On the Netflix doc about Ted Bundy, one of the detectives that had interviewed him said sometimes he would vomit after talking to Bundy.

[Stringwar]

Also known as "Ten signs your crush sees you as a stalker"

[barrydee]

Sounds like Thanksgiving with the relatives.

[supernova]

I seriously love you. Here I am laughing loudly at just about everything you’re saying whilst you’re maintaining a completely neutral voice and serious tone. You’re such a gem. Thanks for being you :)

[ravenraven]

As an empath I have disgust for an acquaintance who is extremely narsisstic and a pathological liar.

[xxxfirehuunterxxx]

The vomiting part; "That could be a good indicator of disgust". Dr Grande never fails to make me laugh at least once :D

[ryanisfollin]

this is hilarious. his last sentence kills me: "if you walk up to someone at a party and they refuse to make eye contact with you or refuse to say anything to you, as they pull out their cell phone and pretend to make an appointment, all the while scrunching their nose walking away from you only to vomit a moment later, you may want to consider the possibility that that person is repulsed by you." lol!

[aldreyandreiko]

I love Dr. Grande's subtle sense of humor. Something like "If someone turns away from you to vomit, that might be a good indicator they're disgusted. It's supported in the literature."

[c.n.]

Growing up with a malignant narcissist mother and older sister who had disdain for me was painful and very confusing. It resulted in me having Stockholm Syndrome and severe physical and mental health issues. Now I'm 5.5 years no contact and struggling to identify and heal the damages done. Especially difficult is the negative learned self identity issues, and the negative reactive social issues. This video explains much about what I experienced from not only the abusers but also those people they slandered me to and triangulated their hate towards me. People believe lies as though facts and go along with mob mentality too easily.

[ellisjackson]

If I pick up on these types of signs from another person, i just do myself a favor and basically forget about them with no delay. They don't exist anymore. There's absolutely no reason for me to be around someone who is giving me these signs.