10 Signs of a Husband with Psychopathic Traits

This video answers the question: What are the signs of a husband with psychopathic traits?

Psychopathy:

There are two types of psychopathy: Factor 1 (primary, interpersonal affective) and Factor 2 (lifestyle, antisocial) psychopathy. Factor 1 psychopathy has characteristics like grandiosity, pathological lying, manipulation, a superficial charm, callous, unemotional, low neuroticism and lack of guilt or remorse. Factor 2 psychopathy has a parasitic lifestyle, being prone to boredom, sensation seeking, impulsivity, irresponsibility, a failure to have long term goals, poor behavioral controls, and criminal versatility.

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Azizli, N., Atkinson, B. E., Baughman, H. M., Chin, K., Vernon, P. A., Harris, E., & Veselka, L. (2016). Lies and crimes: Dark Triad, misconduct, and high-stakes deception. Personality and Individual Differences, 89, 34–39.

Jonason, P. K., Lyons, M., Baughman, H. M., & Vernon, P. A. (2014). What a tangled web we weave: The Dark Triad traits and deception. Personality and Individual Differences, 70, 117–119.

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[blackwater]

I've been married to a psychopath with a mixture of type 1 and type 2 traits for nearly two decades. I've been through so much and such extreme experiences that I've found therapists find it hard to believe my life is real. You left off a very important trait and that is being a chameleon. Psychopaths can change their behaviour and 'personality' to fit in when it suits them and you can find yourself seeing behaviour that is so unfamiliar you might as well be looking at a completely different person.

[francob]

I remember asking him to help feed one of the newborn twins..
His response: “what’s in it for me?”
Never fed, cuddled, bathed, or cared for his children from the time they were born.. not once!

Oh, we’ve been gone for years now, the getaway wasn’t easy, the children and I have been in counseling for some time. Most importantly, it’s good to be alive! 🙌🏾

[myrahouse]

Superficial charm, compulsive liars, 😖 this is how they fool genuine souls.

[truthserum]

I am a former psyc nurse. Excellent vid. Had I known fifty years ago, I would never have gotten involved in relationships. Life is so much better when you are free.

[livinglifejaybyjay]

You came to the comments for this:
1.) Lack of emotional empathy
2.) Superficial Charm (nice to others but wife will know true personality)
3.) Pathological Liar
4.) Fearless aggression/ stare of dominance (almost predatory )
5.) Problem with authority/ resistance to authority
6.) Increasing Criminality (starts with theft or fraud then could be murder)
7.) Sensation seeking (attracted to more dangerous activities i.e., driving over speed limit, using illegal substances)
8.) Parasitic lifestyle (not working, no ambition or goals, borrows money and never pays back)
9.) Threatens to kill wife
10.) Husband has commited a murder

[polkadotdress]

My Nan used to call them " street Angels, home Devils "
Referring to Narcissistic husbands, not necessarily serial killers but dangerous all the same.

[unpluggeddogdreams]

"If your husband is a serial killer don't expect him to be nice to you." I love your sense of humor, rotfl

[jajbjc]

Something I find somewhat ‘eerie’ with psychopaths, is how they have “soul-less” eyes . Not to say they have no souls, but that you can almost see how there is emotions and feelings missing

[pavla]

I’ve commented on those tv news stories where the husband has just killed his family and/or extended family members and neighbours describe him as being the ‘nicest guy’ obviously didn’t know him but still feel their opinion of his personality is valid . When the wife is telling people otherwise, believe them .

[harleyanne]

Mine had no empathy if I hurt myself. Also came home from surgery, he never cared I was recovering. I had to care for myself. He on the other hand wanted to be babied. And he was impulsive.

[karenlane]

I am married to a successful physician who has these qualities, but is never held accountable for his horrible actions and even denies he did them. Thank you for educating the public. People need to know that there are wolves in sheep’s clothing intermingled amongst us.

[irismentus]

Doctor Grande, I wish you would do a video on psychopathic men during the courtship phase. That’s how so many women end up married to a psychopath in the first place. I divorced a psychopath. Before we married, he was attentive, kind, generous and was my Prince Charming. Only after we divorced did I realize why he was so attentive - it was so he could learn the areas where he could manipulate me. The “stare” you describe is so scary and I experienced it 3 times. In all three incidents his eyes turned dark - almost black - and he crept up close to me and seemed to be contemplating something violent. One of those times I really thought he could possibly kill me. I decided right then to get out!. However, that night he crept into the spare bedroom where I was sleeping and wrapped his hands around my throat. I woke up and he jumped up off the bed and claimed, “Oh you were having a bad dream and I was trying to wake you.” Ummmnn - yea - sure you were!!!. After that I asked him to move out. I was lucky he went without a fuss. I could also tell you incidents of his high impulsivity that got him into trouble on his job and with the police. Each time I got him off and cleaned up his mess. This was during the first 6 months of our marriage and I wanted to make it work. But one year later I began to realize he had hid his true nature when we were dating. I also went with him for some marital therapy. The psychiatrist flat out told me he was concerned for me. He felt like he was very charming and manipulative and that underneath that mask of a handsome face lurked a man that could potentially be very dangerous to me!. I was but I feel like he helped to save my life.

[christinehaigh]

The stare...and general demeanor, aggression. dominance stare, predatory stare.

[lightcoming]

You nailed my ex-husband. The lack of care...the stare..the total upset when asked to help...he told me he could kill me...many times. I have said many times...he would have if he thought he could have gotten away with it. He was a federal agent. I learned this is definitely a trait in police enforcers. The very ones we expect to be our protectors are actually our abusers. Yes they do plot how to cause pain to others, especially their mates.

[blkimble]

I once date a man(very short period) I heard tell someone he had a doctorate. I knew full well he did not. That was enough for me.

[luxebeauty]

Me talking to my younger self: Stay out of romantic relationships. You will be far happier and live a better life.

[ithacacomments]

He has been out of my life for 30 yrs and I can still feel his stare.

[passionatebraziliangirl.]

"If your husband is a serial killer dont expect him to be nice to you" Hahahahahahaha!

[pennymcwilliams]

In many ways I am grateful to the narcissist psychopath with whom I had a three year relationship back in my teens - handsome charming, manipulative, pathological liar, utterly lacking in guilt - in the end saw through him, walked away, and will never be fooled by or attracted to that type ever again .Thanks, Jim !

[patriciabritnell]

Dr Grande just described my 25 year marriage to a person that I describe as a “pseudo minister”. He displayed a charming public and pulpit personality, but, as a wife, I lived a private hell on earth and, at times, feared for my life. Thank you for the validation!