10 Signs of a Husband with Avoidant Personality Traits

This video answers the question: What are the signs of an avoidant husband?

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[LaMaestra]

My ex! Great guy - avoided everything. I just thought he didn't emote at all which made life impossible regarding communication, but this is him! Great content!

[YOUR_GFs_BF]

Hey everybody, Avoidant Personality Disorder here. I have never heard anything so spot on before. During my teenage years, it was not as bad. My first panic attack really brought out the Avoidant traits to the extreme, and ending up with me being diagnosed with Agoraphobia. With proper medication and therapy, I have been able to come leaps and bounds.

[Madhuwellness]

10 signs
1.over processing perfunctory & serious conversations
2.comorbidity - depression, substance abuse, Panick attacks
3.Vulnerable narcissism
4.Anxious & fearful attachment
5.Fear of being laughed at
6.victim of childhood neglect
7.affective instability
8.strong need for
9.trouble recognising fear in facial expression
10.self blame

[Edisius]

I can't help but feel like this disorder is a direct result from years of narcissistic abuse from an early age 🤷‍♂️ Maybe some people are born with it, but looking back at my childhood experiences and the harsh behavior I had to endure from others growing up, I can't help but feel like me having a lot of these behaviors are a result of that.

When people are hostile to you from a young age, it tends to form that as your world view and that you have to be on guard all the time. And when you realize how exhausting it is to be hyper vigilant 24/7, foregoing social relationships is the only way you can truly feel at ease. Idk, but that's just how I see it anyways.

It's a long and lonely road

[TheMerryPup]

Sign 11: Since you've been married you can't find him anywhere in the house.

[petercastillo]

Every video on this channel makes me feel like I have every disorder mentioned LMAO

[movngforward]

I love the informal setting without his degrees framed on the wall behind him. He's all about teaching us. Thank you, Dr. Grande. 🙏❣

[katieb.]

It seems all three (BPD, Avoidant PD, and vulnerable narcissism) are all shame-based, and that’s why many of the behaviors are the same.

[meera]

Very interesting to hear how avoidant personality disorder overlaps with Vulnerable Narcissism and Borderline personality Disorder. Please do a video on the attachment styles in detail.

[davidbanner]

Sir you nailed it, you really nailed it! This problem costed me a great wife, huge regret that I have to live with the rest of my life. So I count the blessings that I still have daily!!!

[catequinox]

Doesn’t share about their day but needs to know about yours- doesn’t respond to texts or calls but questions when you do the same - keeps money seperate but questions your spending

[brendabrenda]

Watching your different personality videos makes me question: Do “normal” people exist without quirks or personality issues? By watching your videos I can point out many of these different issues in everyone I know. I can even point out some of these things in myself. I guess we are all a work in progress. I try to be as balanced as I can be, but there is stil a lot of things in myself that I don’t like and would like to change.

[-WillAlone-]

Yep.This is me.I always watch Dr.Grande's videos but this is the 1st one where it feels like he diagnosing me.Keep up the good work.

[goldilox]

Thanks for your content! I've been trying to assess my 2nd husband's personality quirks for years. And until this video and the one on vulnerable narcissism, I was completely lost. No other diagnosis seemed to fit. ( So much confusion for an abnormal psych major) 🤷
This info will help us both in our individual therapies. Because, I have always felt like once you have a general idea of a starting place, you can tailor the therapy to be more personal & waste less time. I've got my own issues to deal with, so it helps to give him the language that will help him "help himself" & all the correct questions. BTW, spot on about the divorce stuff. It only took him 7 years & two kids between us for him to finalize his divorce from his first wife! And 2 years later, + several years of my intensive therapy & substance abuse counseling for him to finally recognize that I wasn't going anywhere. He needed to start looking inside himself instead of trying to get me to fix myself for this relationship to work. Thanks again! 👍❤️

[Alphacentauri]

I love your videos. Well presented, great impartiality, thoughtfulness. You’re definitely impacting the world through your realms of expertise. Thank you

[nextpage]

I would not have thought that avoidant personality overlaps with vulnerable narcissism. Very interesting! Food for thought! Thank you for the amazing videos, dr. Grande!

[shylocie]

I had reactive attachment disorder as a small child. Unfortunately I was adopted by a very abusive mother and an emotionally distant father. I seem to have almost all of these traits along with OCD and PTSD. My husband of 23 years is diagnosed Bipolar type 1 and NPD. People always wonder how we manage to stay together. It's hard to talk to anyone about myself but I'm trying hard in therapy. I want to be happy and help others.

[sallithorpe]

You have just helped me so much with this video. Fifteen years of complete confusion and heartbreak for me and my man. I thought maybe he had a form of autism. He is in treatment now as he knew he was desperate for help. We just had no idea what he was dealing with. This is him spot on, especially with the fear and dreams and issues sleeping due to them. Thank you Dr. Grande 🤩🙏🤩😇

[anxious_and_avoidant]

This is fascinating because before I realized I had AvPD, i was starting to question if i was a vulnerable narcissist. Good to know I'm not way off there!

[shnoogums]

#1 sign: he doesn’t exist because he was too scared to talk to you