10 Signs of Relationally Unsafe People

Safe relationships are so important for you to experience the growth, healing and maturity your heart needs. The problem is, there are many unsafe people out there. In this video, I want to talk about ten signs of unsafe people.

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[amiller]

1. They're not self aware.
2. They don't have respect for your relational boundaries.
3. They are poor listeners.
4. They're not vulnerable.
5. They point out flaws of others but not their own.
6. They talk about flaws of others with harsh criticism.
7. They spend most the conversation talking about themselves.
8. They give quick answers to everything. (Not active listener, lack empathy).
9. There's too much to soon, over praise you without getting to know you.
10. They put unhealthy expectations on you.

You want people or at least one person you can be totally yourself with.
You can't change others, just yourself.

[Sayerdify]

I only had one person in my life who loved me unconditionally and allowed me to be myself, understood me and loved me even flawed and that was my husband. He is gone now and there will never be another him. I miss him immensely. Learning to accept life alone.

[legitKwit]

If you feel you are walking on wall to wall eggshell carpet? Run 🏃‍♀️

[deborahbeattie]

When I was a young women, I got taught in church that we had to be real with everybody, open, telling everybody what was really going on not "wearing masks"That was some really bad advice. This video is good advice. I wish I had heard it years ago to counter the lack of wisdom I heard back then. Wisdom is required in choosing who to open up to, and who to gaurd your heart from.

Many thanks

[orangeziggy]

"They dont WANT to be self-aware. They dont even WANT to know how they come across." YIKES! The world is filled with those kinds of people everywhere!

[catielove]

People who gossip feel massively unsafe; people who shut down emotionally feel unsafe. People who don't hide their vulnerability feel safe.

[charissahenderson]

Explains most people now a days. No wonder it's so hard to make friends.

[smilejesussaves]

I pray that God brings me a great friend that I don’t have to be anyone but just feel loved how I am.

[godstomper]

They take out their anger on you. Dont tolerate being someone's punching bag
Pray to God and Jesus that they are able to see the love God and Jesus have for them so they may be healed of their pain and be enlightened with the love knowing God and Jesus has for them. You just need to have faith

[annierichards]

Great Video! I am guilty of 2 of these. I love to tell my story when someone has the same story. I think WOW we are really bonding. Next time i will validate their story before I go into my story. Communication is not easy!

[ashleycnossen]

As a Christian, I HATE those Christian cliches. So dismissive and often not even Biblically or contextually accurate.

This video was very helpful, not only in identifying relationally unsafe people but also for identifying a couple habits in my own life that I need to fix to be safer for others.

[LinYouToo]

I would also add when someone tells you who you are. The fact is, no one really knows us better than ourselves. So when someone says to you, you are this are you are that or you are this way because etc. no one really wants another person summarizing our very being.

Another thing I would add is when someone cannot accept that the best you had to offer today was enough. This is when someone says why don’t you, what you should do is, how come you, if only you would, etc.

And finally, people who try to make you their project to fix as if they’ve got themselves on a more important pedestal of sorts. It’s as if they are the only ones who have wisdom as if looking down their high and mighty nose makes them superior to you.

I have experienced these three things in my own family of people who were not good at relating to one another and who were tone deaf to how they came across.

[Geenine]

I never show my vulnerability. Life has taught me it’s how people decide to manipulate.

[keisha]

Your video is on point. My mother is “unsafe”. Her personality was traumatizing to me as a child, so much that I became an alcoholic. So grateful that I am sober (10 years) and that I am healing. In order to deal with her and people like her, I set up boundaries which includes limited contact. Thank you for a much needed video.

[zz-ogjh]

Some people are very GOOD LISTENERS ... they observe listen make you feel they are empathizing...BUT use this information at a later time against you....they will NEVER ever reveal anything about themselves stay very guarded.

[trs]

There are very few safe people out there.

[lesliewilliams]

If the person you are dealing with has all these attributes in one, you may be dealing with a narcissist.

[morestore]

They move really fast romantically and they want too many personal details up front.

[Crystalblue]

Unsafe people will mistreat their service people; wait staff, barbers, cashiers-no good words just criticism. Unsafe people will gossip about everyone and if they do it with you, they will do it to you. Any of their ex's were crazy, bitchy, yada, yada-it is never their fault. Unsafe people are jealous of you, in competition with you, and can't be happy for your prosperity. These are just to name a few.

[gerrimiller]

Oh lord, being a fixer and problem solver is draining... I admit that I am actually learning and determined to become a wonderful and active listener so I will have a good relationship