How To Become A Socially Attractive Person

Join Over 9000+ Members At Charisma University:

Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account:

Look under any YouTube video of Simu Liu and you'll see commenters praising his charisma. He’s new to being an A-list celebrity, but he’s making an incredible first impression.

So in this video, we’ll go through 6 mistakes most people make during their first impressions, and 6 habits you can learn from Simu that will let you make an amazing first impression instead. These habits are super easy to do, most people just don’t think to do them.



⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:37 - Make A Strong Entrance
Mistake: thinking a first impression starts when you start speaking
2:03 - Get comfortable taking up the space around you
Mistake: keeping your arms tight to your body while you speak
3:30 - Look for Observational Compliments early in the interaction
Mistake: trying to be “cool” by coming in aloof or standoffish
4:34 - Elevate the people around you
Mistake: focusing solely on trying to make yourself look good
5:29 - Be an Encouraging Listener
Mistake: thinking that to make a good impression, you have to do all the talking
7:20 - Have great answers for the questions you know you’re likely to be asked
Mistake: having boring answers to the standard questions you know are coming

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
#SimuLiu #CharismaOnCommand
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Connect with us further:
Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand
Or if you want to see our personal stuff:
Instagram: @CharlieHoupert
Instagram: @IamBenAltman

[transcendreality]

Simu embodies a lesson my dad taught me when I was little: if you want to be found as likable and interesting, take the first step and be interested.

[stephen-finance]

The guy just looks like he's having a lot of fun! Everyone loves to be around people who are having a good time.

[paulcaridi]

This channel has helped me act like a person more than my therapists.

[twiceshy]

The problem with "being playful" though is that people always accuse you of flirting, it's frustrating when you are literally just being yourself

[Stalinsbabychild]

1. Make a strong entrance (confident body language, and positive energy for example smile)
2. Lead with a touch for example shake hands or hug
3. Look for opportunities to be verbally positive and look for compliments to give
4. Elevate others and compliment them even of they are not around
5. Be an encouraging listener (smile, laugh, make eye contact and compliment the questions)
6. Be playful when answering questions
7. Prepare answers for usual questions

[manishsandbhor]

1. Make confident entrance
2. Touch according
3. Give genuine compliment
4. Appreciate people behind them
5. Appreciacte question
6. Make them feel funny and charismatic
7. Prepare for faq

[jaydog]

1:26 - He even played it cool when he thought she wanted a hug lmao. Smooth.

[davidchorney]

Being charming is all about liking people. Everything, body language, tone, etc., will take care of itself.

[bradhuygens]

1:33 "In your own life, you obviously don't have to dance as you enter every room"

Imagining that made me laugh really hard. People would get so fed up with you

[toschizol]

All these tips are great, but be careful. Always test what you are comfortable with and what is working.
Don't blindly copy other people.

[SaraX]

As an actress, I know that "entering a room correctly" is part of your acting education. It's what you learn in movement & audition class. So we can kind of say that it's all an act.

[webberslife]

Don’t size up the people you’re going to be socializing with, if you mentally start comparing yourself and start focusing on the things you believe are your short comings, with others before the first interaction, you’ve already damaged you’re self confidence and set yourself up for failure. The interactions that come after will be awkward. Walk into a room like you’ve got nothing to prove to yourself or anyone else, and treat everyone in the room as an equal, you’ll feel much more confident and will be instantly more likeable.

[JacksonPaulsen]

As someone who has recently discovered that I have some moderate dark triad traits, I love this channel because it helps me learn how to consciously interact with others more positively and in a way that is mutually beneficial rather than creating tension and conflict.

[transcendreality]

Simu is such an inspiration, especially when it comes to social skills. Over the years I've come to relate to the personalities people like Will Smith and Simu showcase, but I'm always mesmerized by your videos and abilities to break down interactions to be of value for literally anyone! Thank you, Charlie and Ben.

A lot of love from a growing channel to the community as well.

[mochaest]

I’m glad Shang-Chi was a hit, Simu Liu and so many of the cast members are so awesome and I lub dem

[NBTJacklyn]

Awesome video!! Would love to see more breakdowns on women that are charismatic too:)

[azuranjani]

Just finished watching another video in this channel and was headed to bed cuz it's 1 am, but then I saw Simu Liu in the thumbnail of this vid's notification, and, I mean, how couldn't I.

[tl]

Great choice with picking him as an example. I've been watching a number of his interview. He's very charismatic and captivating. I think what comes down to from what I observed is that he is very grounded, present, calm and positive in general. He's comfortable with himself, with being himself and with others. He's also very articulate, which helps. That is an internal thing which shines through and the social skills strategies are the icing on the cake.

[inhobiswinecellar]

in response to the tip "thinking about questions ahead of time", it helps to take into consideration your three main settings. clubs, work, school etc etc. once you narrow down what those main places are, you can whittle down some common questions to anticipate. in a new setting, before you're even comfortable in it, most of the convo starters will generally be contingent on the setting.
say you're a freshman in college breaking the ice with new people...well you guys already have common ground.
loans, majors, campus food, safety, profs...etc etc. and as you build that level of comfortability with a new person in a new location, you can eventually slide away from general conversation. if you find they match your vibe, great. if not, well there's plenty of other people.

[billysinge]

I’ve been a fan of this guy for some time now, and admired his charisma in interviews since his Kim’s Convenience days. I’m glad you made a video on him.