How to be socially magnetic | Ben Chai | TEDxSurreyUniversity

In this talk author and business mogul Ben Chai takes us on his journey of self love and building relationships to teach us how we too can be socially magnetic. Ben Chai

[alexanderkeehnen]

"Add value to every person you meet." Simple as that. Well done Ben, this is a really really REALLY powerful TED Talk

[arunun]

1.develop self worth (mirror technique)
2.accept the way you are
3.self affirmations
4.add value to everyone you meet
5.what makes you exicted about life?
6.go deeper and deeper into the opposite person favourites
7.walk away from negativity

[NewKingBrandon]

You can tell this guy has really practiced his presentation and is fully confident in the message that he’s sharing

[MarceloNajar]

You don't realize this but as you grow up, being surrounded by people like Ben is a blessing

[Mel-ixrl]

I had ZERO self esteem and practically hated myself until I started speaking positive affirmations in the mirror. It was SUCH a challenge to start but looking back if it wasn’t for that one practice I wouldn’t be the successful confident young woman I am today💕 KNOW THY SELF

[rajniranjan]

"Add value to every person you meet." Make the other person the main character in your conversation. Amazing and thanks a lot.

[susanne]

I read Ben Chai´s book "Social Magnetism" half a year ago. It has dramatically changed the way I network.

[valerieprasetyo]

Networking and attracting the right people is kind of an art. And indeed, it's all about adding value. Read Ben's book, Social Magnetism, and really recommend it as it's very practical and contains lots of insights.

[picklepirate]

Everyone ALWAYS comments “horrible audience”, but they’re supposed to listen without clapping wildly. Also, the audio engineers probably quiet the audience a bit so we can hear the speaker.

[katienascimento]

This was so incredibly helpful to watch. As someone who’s struggled their entire life with personal image, and social anxiety, it’s been difficult to try to communicate with people in a way that portrays conviction, confidence, and connection. Immediately showing interest in that persons passion, what makes them happy, what brings them joy, it opens the door to a conversation that’s valuable to everyone. A very simple but effective way to connect with someone on a much deeper level. I’ll take this with me

[alval]

Great talk. Unresponsive audience. feed them to the crocodillos

[KillerConfidenceQueen]

I HAVE DONE THE MIRROR THING SINCE HIGH SCHOOL. I always told my friends about it when they were struggling to appreciate themselves - and I believe it helped them through the years. when I am having a rough day, I look at myself in the mirror and remind myself what is great about me.

I think it's important to recognize millennial culture in this practice too - selfies and snapchat and mirrors aren't solely about being narcissistic, but instead, building confidence in a microscopically judgmental world.

[nocando]

And 15:35.. adding context, some people look like they are tolerating you but might actually be dealing with social anxiety. Have discernment. Your persistence and warmth with someone who is finding it hard to express themselves might leave a positive impression of care and warmth that others fail to give. Keep your compassion and keep an open mind. You don't know the reason why someone acts the way they do, and normally its their own insecurities and nothing to do with you.

[ioannak.]

How to be magnetic instantly:

• Develop Self-worth
• Add value to other's peoples lives
• Learn to Walk Away (Negative People)

[saviourshedamang]

To be a social magnet, I must build self-esteem, add value to people and learn to walk away from the crocodile

Thank you sir

[Kzombie]

Horrible audience. This guy was amazing.

[efcorek]

I love how Ben demonstrated immediately what he is "preaching" - how he got Trayan on stage. So simple and yet so powerful.

[seanchaffe]

I had the pleasure of spending some one-to-one time with Ben yesterday and he is exactly as he presents himself - authentic, positive and fun-loving. He is certainly socially magnetic and a true inspiration.

[jojojarvis]

This helped me more than any pill or therapy session. This is one of the best talks I have heard. I've listened to this several times and I thank you Ben. You blessed me immensely with your story . Namaste.

[impulsiveman]

6:30
BRO I DO THAT ALL THE TIME BEFORE I GET INTO THE SHOWER
it is because im a bit vain but looking at myself in the mirror for a few minutes and just think "damn that is a fellow with potential" really does help