how to make friends & be SOCIAL | managing anxiety, fear of rejection, confidence tips

Hi everyone! In today's video I give you my tips and tricks on how to start building a better social life and advice on how and WHERE to make new friends!

[MoonlitSunset]

1. Learn to open the door and let people in. (It is ok when someone doesn’t like u)
2. Assume everyone is in the same position.
3. Be the bigger person. (Make the first move)
4. Normalise rejection & detach from the outcome.
5. Change your internal dialogue. (Tell yourself it can be a good experience)
6. Practice being present, scan the room. (Bring down your nervous system so you are not in fight or flight mode)
7. Slow down, feel your feelings. (There’s no need to always rush to take action)
8. Take your time, get into your flow, find the right energy for you in the room (So u can show up in a healthy calm way)
9. Leaving your house, change your environment, put yrself in new places.
10. Acknowledge people’s existence.
11. Be present and listen, you’ll naturally be curious and have a better flow of conversation.
12. Practice being curious and act on the thoughts. (Train yrself and have a chat with people)
13. Take things slow and nurture your friendship.
14. Don’t limit yourself, change what is on the inside and your outside world will reflect. Hope this helps! :)

[juliadastra]

"We need to learn to open the door and let people in"🥺wow that hit me hard today!! Thank you for these tips, I love your perspective🧡

[BabyCakes]

You shared this at the right time. I’ve been trying to make new friends and get comfortable doing things on my own like I use to when I was younger. I miss out on so many things I’m interested in b/c I feel I need to have someone with me all the time. Like you said I’m blocking myself. I love your videos. Keep that good energy coming beautiful❤❤❤

[blissfully_dory]

Great video! I’m 51 and for the first time in my life I have moved out of state and don’t know anyone. As an introvert that struggles with social anxiety, I needed to hear this.

[jayyyyy]

wow! this really grounded me and showed me how to be more social. Recently I’ve been really trying to get myself out there especially at my school. I’ve been talking to more people and making myself more approachable to others. But I seemly still felt anxious, etc. When you explained that you have to really just let go and observe your surroundings, It really made me understand that wow. It’s not that I can’t make friends, it’s the simple fact that I am so into myself! you’ve really given me a brighter and more clear perspective on approaching others and being open to people❤

[beingbett]

Not walking around with a resting b*tch face was the biggest learning curve for me. I had no idea I even looked like that 😂 When it comes to solidifying new connections, I’ve found vulnerability goes a long way 💕

Some really helpful insights Elicia♥️

[Lawrence_P.B]

Needed this video! I just moved to LA a few months ago and my new job doesn’t really have people I relate to :/. I gotta start putting myself out there!

[anamedved]

Elicia you have no idea how helpful is this video. I have brakedowns almost every evening and often the reason are people that I want to become friends with but I am to anxious to be truly myself. Thank you for opening my eyes. We need more videos about that topic. Love from Slovenia.

[leavedennyalone]

Hey, Elicia! Just wanted to thank you for the content that you’re making. I’ve always wanted an older sister and even though I love being one for my younger siblings, sometimes I also need advice from someone more mature like you! Thank you for being our older sister babe ❤️❤️

[angelface]

i needed this video! i’ve always loved the idea of talking to people, but when faced with it i get too in my head. i get scared they’d have a negative reaction to either me, my curiosity, or the questions i ask them and it would leave me overwhelmed and frozen.

you’re so right about just letting go, staying in your body, and just going with what you want and respecting everyone’s boundaries. just taking things slow, staying present and seeing what happens. 💞💕✨

[yusyna]

If I'm feeling alone, I watch your videos and feel so much better 😄❤️

[beatricehart]

You've basically summed up the key points from "the fine art of small talk" by Debra Fine. I highly-recommended it to socially anxious people like me.

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[dianasssnix]

Im happy i subscribed to your channel!
For me, its not like i’m just mad at the world but normally if i look up and smile i come off as flirting and its not my intention

[witchytarot]

Another video that is absolutely hitting home. I get in my own way wayyy to much and am blocking my ability to make friends. Deep down I feel so called to talking to random strangers but my fear of rejection or embarrassment is hindering me. Lots of inner child work to be done there! Thanks for your tips and wonderful perspectives, I need all of this energy🧡🧡🧡

[cmonnowsis]

Great Video! Thank you!! Can’t wait for part 2

[ukiy]

I'm starting college soon... Thanks i needed this alot as a introvert

[arlysan__]

Elicia, the last times I watched your Videos I was thinking about that you probably would be a great coach doing something in the coaching segment too. Just want to leave my little thought here for you :)
Thank you for the videos! They help me aligning my way <3

[Ghost-nopz]

I love your videos, keep the amazing job!!

[natashastojanovska]

GIRL you're amazing 🤍 can't wait to watch 🥰