The Simple Art Of Social Attraction (in 9 minutes)

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In today’s video you’ll learn 6 habits that will make people love being around you. With examples from a celebrity that seems almost universally loved: Ryan Gosling.

⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:00 - Intro
0:07 - #1: Have fun
0:21 - Absurd analogies
1:09 - The mind's eye method
1:37 - Deadpan humor
2:52 - The fake walkoff
3:24 - #2: Tell funny embarrassing stories
3:58 - Emphasize you're aware it was embarrassing
4:59 - Call attention to your awkward moments
5:51 - #3: Create authenticity
6:36 - Compliment authenticity when you see it
7:10 - #4: Make people feel good around you
7:22 - Show that you like who they are
8:06 - Combine the compliment with a joke
8:58 - #5: Be playfully humble
10:05 - #6: Self validation
11:26 - How can you gain unshakable confidence?
12:15 - The quickest way to build confidence

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[erikn]

All what I got from this video is: "Be more like Ryan Gosling"

[aaronlewis]

“ Want it, but don’t need it.” That’s one powerful sentence.

[speakevermore]

One thing I notice makes people very likable is to listen intentionally and remember things about your conversation partner, then casually mention those things in a later conversation. It makes the other person feel special for having a place in your memory.

[DrasticSkuba]

About 8 years ago, give or take, I heard a similar thing on one of your videos that changed my life forever. "Even if things don't go to plan, know that you'll be ok." It really turned my confidence around when I started to put it into practice. I went from a dead-end cleaning job in Scotland to having the guts to move to China for now going on 5 years as a teacher. I've made authentic friends and I am in a great relationship because I now feel comfortable navigating interactions because I WANT to have them, not because I need something from the other person. Thank you, Charisma On Command

[pippin]

Of all the tips in this video, I think the one I have the hardest time with (and many other people, I'm sure) is mixing playful humility with genuinely accepting a compliment. The playful humility isn't necessarily the hard part, but being able to accept a compliment in genuine and charismatic way is tough!

[xoxo_dd]

I absolutely love Ryan cause hes a great example of an extremely likeable and confident person who everyone would love to be around

[Sparks.u]

I just want to say I was so akward in highschool and your videos got me to a point where I actually can interact with people positively. I have transitioned into more stable stuff now but I was a freelance model for my early twenties and I really think a large part of my success was you teaching me a formula to apply to conversations. So thank you ❤

[therb_]

Well Ryan is quick witted, and that does at least 60% of the heavily lifting in his charisma lol

[lucasnikodemus]

I feel it's so rare to see Ford laugh out loud and the fact that Ryan is able to make him do that multiple times IN THE SAME INTERVIEW is remarkable😂🔥

[riku]

after seeing this I realize that the reason I remained calm the other week in a big presentation over zoom where I had massive technical issues is because I thought the stakes weren't that high. Now I just need to apply that to other areas!

[sweetsupernova]

“I feel a ken in you” lmao I always knew he seemed nice, is handsome, etc but did not know he was actually funny 😂

[Hffmans_Girl]

“Do you guys need help with the cameras?” That was so funny, definitely gonna use these tips!😆

[joemomma]

This video just explained how to be Canadian. Humour, humility and honesty.

[puh]

To anyone trying to "become confident" let me tell you something: confidence is not something you are born with. Confidence is a skill, a habit, or even, sometimes, an act. The "confident" people around you have spent months, maybe years developing their ways of getting around in social situations and you can do that too, it's easy, but also A LOT of effort and repetition.

[MariaEduarda-lnep]

The guy saying "you're better than that" while Ryan is having the time of his life being Ken 😂😂😂

[slawck]

How did you get so good at reading people in these different situations? Truly awesome content. I keep coming back to this channel👍

[jennyjennyable]

I knew Ryan Gosling before he became famous. After Mickey Mouse Club. He is genuinely a super kind, very thoughtful guy. He’s a rare, unique, amazing soul.

[VictorYamaykin]

"The stakes aren't that high" - I appreciate that knowing the ground is underneath you and you're not walking a tightrope

[DaoDepictions]

00:16 1. Go into conversation with intention of having fun
03:27 2. Tell funny, embarrassing stories from your past
05:51 3. Create authenticity in your conversations
07:10 4. Make people feel good around you
08:58 5. Be playfully humble
10:08 6. Self validation

[stefanravalli]

As an aside: my wife once literally saw Ryan Gosling run into LA traffic to rescue a dog. He legit rescues dogs I guess.