Regular Relationship Struggles vs Toxic Patterns: Discerning the Difference

In today's episode, I'm going to breakdown the key distinctions between troubled and toxic relationships so you can discern the difference between who to hang in there with and who to let go of.

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Difficult Relationships Podcast

[SarahOhio-tu]

I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.

[gwendolynwehage]

Thank you!!! I have had that verse quoted to me more times than I can count, "only God knows the heart." My answer to them was what God said: "you shall know them by their fruit", bad fruit is the opposite of the fruit of Christ. The fruit of the Spirit of God is "love, joy, peace, gentleness, kindness and self-control." These are the character qualities of Christ, if someone does not have this fruit they do not belong to God.

[CrystolynMacklin]

"Stop absorbing and start observing." 👌🏽

[mayruthuganda]

They don't value you for who you are they value you for what you do

[RominaBetgevergiz]

Can you please make an episode of toxic parents and siblings

[Godgirl]

You have no idea how helpful this is right now I’ve been sitting back and observing his reactions and behaviors. He has some serious serious issues and I have no idea how I’m gonna deal with this long-term. It’s already been 14 years.

[debbiephillips]

This was good to hear. The Holy Spirit helped me throughout my toxic relationship. I ended up divorcing the person when I realized the person I married was just trying to get my house and land. He married the lady before me and had her locked up in his place until one day the neighbor helped her to escape. He took her for 280, 000. She's ended up in a nursing home which was much safer for her. I learned about this much later after being with him. Being in that toxic relationship taught me valuable lessons. The Holy Spirit showed me the truth about the person. I thought he was troubled when he was actually toxic and dangerous. God kept me safe! I am no longer gullible. 10:13 I listen to what people are saying, but pay close attention to their fruit. My ex would say one thing but do a different thing. I'm happy being single and having God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit in my life. I don't need a man. God is enough for me.

[loischan]

Thank you Kris for your timely video. Another emotional outburst this morning and i'm just hanging in there for the right time. Thank God for sending you into my life. It always helps me stand guard and put me back in perspective again and be firm and not soft hearted, knowing he will never change unless God works a miracle in his life. 😪

[Crazynchrist]

Thank you for this insight. I’m in the wilderness of healing and my eyes are open and you’re always spot on. May God continue to bless you and your ministry 😘

[denisegauci]

Short vid of essential tips for keeping at bay extremely selfish people out of your life. Thank you Reese. Remain blessed and highly favored

[clicciardi]

Of all the hundreds of videos I've absorbed the last couple of years, from multiple experts in this space, these 7 points Kris Reece points out the things that are missing in a toxic relationship (as opposed to just a troubled one) describe my life, for many years, to an absolute "T"-- EVERY. LAST. ONE. Thank you for helping confirm that I'm not crazy and the other person really is If I didn't know better I'd say you have microphones in my house!

[aysebol]

I like the way you list and explain. And especially with scripture.

[celinechauvet]

Completely true ! Personnally, I fled from the toxic person. God bless you !

[DawnietotheMax]

3:09 and 6:5 says Carry your own load. We can sometimes carry their burden but they must carry their own load.

[petagreeranch]

DID NOT CLARIFY MYSELF..YES MARRIED FEELING ALONE, , , GAVE ALL I HAVE TO GIVE...FEEL USED...REALIZE NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THIS KIND OF SITUATION.... IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOU ARE A MAN/WOMAN... STAY STRONG IN THE LORD....FOR IN SOME WAY I AM BLESSED WITH POSSESSIONS JUST NO FRIENDSHIPS.. A LONE IN A MARRIAGE.. TD

[sherrilynn]

What a great comparison, great video, thanks for all you do :) God Bless!!

[Somewheredownintexas]

This is so incredibly on point. The blur between troubled and toxic, characteristics of a toxic vs troubled relationships.. really fantastic advice.. I would say I’m in a highly troubled to mildly toxic relationship with someone who thinks there is nothing wrong but they are in a constant struggle to prove to everyone else they are great.. this person spends more time on that than being a great wife.. it’s a confusing situation

[Gracialahaight]

Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[fisherofmen]

Thanks, Kris. This gives me discernment about how we got here after 26.5 years and gives me hope for further improvements in our marriage.

[traceyjude]

His apology was sincere but timing was awful. He got caught. Then he justified by throwing it back on me. Then later apologized. I’m still discerning and observing and having none of his BS. Thank you Kris for helping me see there may be hope. Troubled, I can work with. Time will tell. I see with new eyes now.