The Highly Sensitive Person and Childhood Trauma

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In this video we cover: elaine aron, highly senstive person, hsp, sensitive, empath, clairvoyant, triggers, toxic family systems, boundaries, truth, childhood trauma, inner child, inner child work, c-ptsd, ptsd, toxic parents, narcissistic abuse, healing, abusive parents, emotional abuse, childhood ptsd, repressed memories, hypervigilance, narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive parents, child abuse, narcissistic father, childhood emotional neglect, abuse, narcissistic mother, alcoholism, scapegoat, genogram, siblings, dissociation, trauma

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
0:36 The Genogram & the Lone Family Member
4:39 About the Highly Sensitive Person
5:40 About the Highly Sensitive Person - D.O.E.S.
8:23 About the Highly Sensitive Person - Questions From Dr. Aron's HSP Quiz
9:50 About the Highly Sensitive Person (Continued)
11:18 About the Highly Sensitive Person - Other HSP Notes
12:08 Connect With Me
13:00 HSP and Childhood Trauma
13:28 HSP and Childhood Trauma - Abusive Family System Traits
15:12 HSP and Childhood Trauma (Continued)
16:43 HSP - Hypothetical
19:18 HSP - Feeling Like an Alien
21:02 How to Work on Being A HSP
23:00 How to Work on Being A HSP - #1 Keep Doing Trauma Work
24:47 How to Work on Being A HSP - #2 Reframe Your Identity
27:06 How to Work on Being A HSP - #3 Mastery Over the Traits
28:30 Final Thoughts
31:45 Outro

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[SiljeMeum]

HSP tends to be:

Highly empathic
Need time to reflect
Difficulty with change
Easily overstimulated
Aware of the needs of others
Seek meaning or seek purpose
Very detail oriented or solution focused
Often take things personally
Difficulty making dicisions or need more time doing so
High need for solo time or down time!

YES, YES, YES!

[kennethedwards]

I hear often: "you are just too sensitive." It definitely came from constant criticism, and other kinds of abuse. I've learned to embrace it and not condemn myself for them. I think maybe we're just better at detecting subtle cruelty than others. Hard to say.

[heatherv.]

I was 4 when my mother put a xmas tree up and decorated it. I was bothered by the fact that this beautiful tree was cut down to be dressed up with lights and ornaments. It didn't make sense to me. I befriended the tree and worried that it was going to die. She put it on the curb while I cried and hung onto the tree. I sat on the curb with the tree and cried. She left me there. The garbage truck came, and the men noticed me clenching the branches and crying hysterically. My mother did not comfort me the garbage men did. They tried to explain to me that it would be ok. But I knew this tree, my friend would die. One man walked me to the door and informed my mother that I was outside on a busy street. She told him I was dramatic. He tried to explain the reason I was crying. My mother laughed, and the garbage man did not. I continued to cry for days. I felt the sap on my hands and thought that the tree was crying, too. She took me to the pediatrician complaining of my constant crying over the Xmas tree. The Dr told her that she had a very special child and that there was nothing wrong with me. There were no hugs no I love yous in our house. And def no Xmas trees.

[AlexisEverywhere]

As an HSP. healing my inner child is extremely important to me... That little girl deserved to know she was exactly who she was supposed to be. The worse thing abusive people can do is try to change an empathic child it's always so abusive..

[ivymarie]

My entire life I have felt like a chameleon- always adapting to others feelings/changes and feeling it more deeply than I should. Thank you for this video

[Cordy]

The hardest part about watching your videos is knowing that I've tried to explain all this to other people and no one ever believed or listened to me. It's so hard and painful to realize I was right all along and was constantly invalidated.

[DanielleMM-ctip]

Once I realized my empathic nature was a trauma response and not just bc I’m a good person and care (which I still do) it’s born out of my own SUFFERING

[cintalopez-teijeiro]

When I was around 14 I yelled and nearly cried trying to stop a kid from killing a frog, What I remember the most about it is the look in everybody else's faces, like: girl you are loosing It. I am 48 now, thanks to you and the crappy childhood Fairy I Know now I am not crazy, why I have all the health issues I have, and how deeply deeply wrong was what I lived in my childhood. Thanks for being there. Greets from Spain

[HSP-TLA]

I think the hardest part of being an HSP, is the feeling of being an outcast, and having no one to talk to without feeling shame.

[es]

Whenever someone accuses me of being too sensitive, I always respond with - well maybe you’re not sensitive enough??!

[slsilver]

From every HSP, thank you for saving the cat when you were a child. ❤.

[Audreyreagan.s]

I am very sensitive. More than I’d like to be. I was bullied by my mother severely when growing up. I remember most of my childhood crying hysterically.

[MasonLeCompte]

I notice every subtle detail of EVERYTHING. It’s incredibly exhausting. I find myself getting frustrated with other people for being oblivious to things I think are so obvious.

[Inugmi]

I’ve also noticed that being an HSP is both a blessing and a curse, especially if the people in your life are toxic and exploitative.

[Kyocus]

"You have a good heart" is what I was told growing up. I couldnt ignore the victimization of others.

[ButterCookie]

"You're too sensitive"...the story of my life.

[lindamoses]

I'm an highly sensitive person and also an artist. It suits me well. I see and feel things others don't. It has helped me as an elementary school teacher. A couple of parents came in my class and asked what I did to their son. He had always been a mute. I simply showed him how to press on his stomach, open his mouth and push out sound. Then I set him desk to desk with the most talkative student in the class to help him with his work as he only spoke Spanish and needed help with school work. She was bilingual. It took about three days and he was talking just fine. Also I saw a child having an asthma attack on the play. I put him on my back and carried him piggy back to the school nurse. His parents thanked me for saving his life. One child seemed too flushed to me. I sent her to the school nurse with two students to assist her. She ended up in the hospital for two weeks with brittle diabetes. How thankful I am for the sensitive gifts God has given me to help children and others in need.

[grizzlybear]

Thank you for addressing the people who use "empath" as an ego based, marketing term. And OMG, toxic positivity is the worst scam ever.

[Christine.Baraka]

It's taken me years of work to realize I am an HSP who experienced childhood trauma. After reading the book "Scattered Minds", I realized that my sensitivity during a chaotic childhood caused me to develop ADHD as I was growing up. I knew I had ADHD, but always wondered why. Now it makes sense. I was so attuned to the emotions in my family and began withholding myself so as not to burden my parents. I became an expert at the "fawn" trauma response, my nervous system constantly on alert, my parents always complimented on their very well behaved 3 year old. By the time I have any real memories I had absolutely no sense of self. It's taken me 28 years to realized why I am chronic people pleaser, terrified of rejection, and cannot seem to live a happy life. The puzzle pieces of my childhood trauma are finally coming together. I highly recommend the book for any HSP and ASHD childhood trauma survivors.

[RealityCheck]

As a hsp, I could detect who was kind & loyal immediately in a room full of people. This quality was hated of me & I was shamed & judged for it. I ended up suppressing it overtime & I became a victim of abuse bec of it. I am now as an adult re-aquanting with this inborn ability. This is the ultimate bs detector necessary for survival. Never listen to people who say you should suppress it!