How to build self-worth and stop seeking external validation (with 4 practices)

Having a clear sense of self, and strong self-worth is necessary to living the life we desire. It can help us feel more confident to set and stand by our boundaries, stop people pleasing, and have more authentic relationships. Though this is not an easy or linear journey, baby steps can go a long way.

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Chapters:
0:00 Self-worth
0:39 What is self-worth?
1:14 Why is it important to have a strong sense of self-worth
4:09 First Practice
6:40 Second practice
9:07 Third Practice
11:02 Fourth Practice

[JJoy_]

1. Self-acceptance + compassion (we are trying our best & neutrality)

2. Self-trust what benefits you (saying no to something harmful & have balance)

3. Get out of your comfort zone (building self-trust and do baby steps)

4. We have our own back (*Nobody is thinking about you more than you're thinking about you)

*Book Recommendation in the video: Courage to be Disliked

[RebeccaRuano]

“How you’re perceived is not your task.” -Dia Jin. ❤Ty, that’s going on the wall!

[annaczech]

this helped me alot especially with dealing with external validation. I've been doing some inner child healing exercises and found out this is a felling that the child in me is so familiar with. the child in me wants to be liked and accepted by everyone but this is something i truly wanna overcome and show myself the love i deserve, show myself that I got my bavk and all the validation i need i only important as it comes from me.

[msfelicia]

My problem is from a young age I was shown and taught that your appearance (mainly weight) dictates your “worth, ” and all through life this has been validated over and over again. I am now 40 and trying to heal all of my past trauma, but I feel like I’m overthinking it. When I try to tell my inner critic nice things, it just fires back.

[BecomingaQueen]

Such a beautiful message 😍 and beautiful person ❤️👑

[methusharavi]

I truely think god sent this video to me. This is the first video the properly breaks down all the concepts in a easy compassionate way. I'm grateful.

[goddessoffantasy]

Thank you for this! ❤ Grounded in reality, simple to follow.

Just a few takeaways for future reference:
• Practice self-acceptance and compassion, process the bad/ugly things that may be true about you and allow it to at least be neutral (may take time)
• Build self-trust by choosing things that are good for you (strike a balance—not black and white, avoid shaming)
• How you are perceived is NOT your task

[jaz]

literally not even halfway through the video and im already subscribing. Such beautiful words spoken, got a new fan here hehe !

[Mathematchit]

You are Smart and universally beautiful

[ProfessorHamachi]

Really appreciate how the concepts are framed in context...with examples. And thanks for the book recommendation! 😊

[jamaicaism]

🎉love the last practice. I started shifting into this mindset about a month ago. It feels great!

[mr.g]

Welcome back stranger its been a time. Hope to see you return more often with videos about the outdoor community travels.

[samelmudir]

Always insightful. Your presence is missed on YouTube. Hope to see more in the near future. 😊

[ebjljmg]

thank you for posting this. you and your thoughts are beautiful ❤

[RebeccaRuano]

2:15 I love this analogy and where you go with it for the next 30ish seconds. I moved around every year, different places in 6 different cities, until I was 7 years old. And, now, well-done RV-life has been a reoccurring desire. Thank you for making sense of it. And many other things are clicking over here too! Thank you ❤

[soggyfroggy]

Thank you so much for this inspiring video. My self worth is getting better and better by day. ✨

[MrRobinski]

You have come such a long way Dia,
I will have to watch this every day to remind myself. I will listen to your podcasts also. 🤲
I can really sense you are feeling what you say and your approach to bringing the key points to be understood through practical methods really helps trigger those feelings inside also. You are a fantastic teacher. 🍏
For me to to feel more of a sense of achievement and confidence and not always be the helper as you mentioned would also be a breakthrough for me.
I sense its real courage, strength, and purpose when one is not doing what is expected of you but following your heart, in the face of judgment and criticism.
Thanks for your love and dedication to yourself and others.. 💚💥

[MKVideoSinzig]

Happy to see you again, Dia!💐 I missed your pretty face a lot 😚 And thank you for sharing your thoughts on self-worth. It's a very important topic as many people lack a fair share of self-worth. Without it a happy and satisfying life is practically impossible so you hopefully contribute to the well-being of many people!
Waiting for your next video now ... 😎😊

[breni]

It’s so easy for beautiful people to talk about this garbage. I have been in therapy for years. Have done yoga, meditation, journaling, shadow work, Pilates, self talk and I am no closer to self worth. The world receives you based on who you are and what social class you belong to. I committed every day to self talk, doing somatic dance, trying to self parent. No closer. Nothing. You also have to make a living, eat, socialise and all of that undoes all the efforts. It’s hard. I’m exhausted. Ready to go.

[kirtan]

Interesting insights, I have also come to similar conclusions through a lot self-reflection and reading.

It's crazy how we're put on this planet with a mind that constantly tells us we're not good enough and then everyone just has to constantly deal with this inner critic for 70-80 years without going insane.