Dealing with Guilt and Shame

In this video, I discuss the DBT method for dealing with guilt and shame.

Time Stamps:
0:00 Intro
2:28 All about guilt
5:22 All about shame
10:21 Flowchart for dealing with guilt
12:58 Flowchart for dealing with shame
15:04 When guilt doesn’t make sense but shame does
16:14 When shame doesn’t make sense but guilt does

The thoughts expressed in this video are my own personal opinion and do not reflect the opinion of any institution I am involved with.

The contents of this video are for educational and entertainment purposes only. They are not meant to substitute seeking professional therapy.

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[monica-mnyl]

a video idea: dealing with rejection
another idea: dealing with ending of friendships
btw i love this video and you especially ur voice it’s so calming:)!!!🤍🤍

[nicoleonfeels]

& these feelings are totally ok to have. Thank you for giving us resources to deal with them 🙏🏽

[NKHTAROT]

💫🦋If you are reading this I hope you know that you are worthy of every single thing you desire and have the capability to receive it whenever you want. You are amazing and wonderful. A gift to the rest of us from the universe all around us.🤗🙏🤗

[shanicefelix]

Oh wow this is exactly what I needed today. My best friend (who is one of my siblings) is the kindest person ever and the one person who stands by me and hangs out with me and understands me more than anyone else. But she's extremely homophobic. She doesn't say anything rude, but when I talk about my sexuality or even say I'm interested in another girl, she stone walls me. No response whatsoever until the topic is changed. And if I don't change the topic she will get up and leave and it never gets addressed. Its extremely difficult to deal with, and I'm only now coming to terms with how to accept myself even when she may never accept me

[Lilsunshinebaby]

I used to feel both hand in hand when I’d get insecure with my ex and then he would make me feel extremely guilty by telling me “if you weren’t so insecure I wouldn’t get angry and yell at you” he made it seem like I was so illogical for having insecurities and therefore justified his behavior by gaslighting and ignoring me for days. Because I’m so empathetic and anxiously attached, I totally lost myself and could never see how toxic he actually was. It wasn’t until months after the relationship where I started therapy and my own therapist told me usually perpetrators blame the other person for their own bad behavior, never taking accountability for their issues. It was a wake up call. I struggled for 6 months have intense regret and guilt for being human and having insecurities. I’m still healing, but wow feeling both guilt and shame at the same time put me into a deep depression.

[mayahopemilton]

Thanks ana I'm struggling with something I did nearly 10 years ago and this has been helpful in my reflection.

[estrellasjournal]

my therapist told me the difference between guilt and shame so thank you for this

[admirbarucija]

Guilt and shame are two things I’ve been grappling with from time to time!! Can’t wait to see the video, I’m sure it’ll help me before my first counseling session next week! 💗

[ujika]

I needed this so much.I accidentally hurt my SO during our fight yesterday.He kept ignoring me and typing on his phone.I just broke down and asked him to talk to me.He kept that act so I snatched his phone in a fit of rage.I shouldn't have done that.All I have to do is to keep calm, show him that I would never hurt him in any way with my actions.I'm so bummed....

[damien]

This video was very detailed and helpful! Thank you!

[Rebecca-ckqq]

Thank you for this video -

There are moments in my past that I feel guilty about and ruminate about each day. Specifically, moments in my youth where I made mistakes with people in my family. My mom is adopted, so we have some complex relationships in my extended family. I believe I have behaved poorly in the past due to the complexity of these relationships & how I've expressed my feelings about the situation.

Thank you for this video - it is great to have resources & information to help me understand what is happening internally & some tools I can use to overcome these difficult feelings. Your videos help a lot.

Warm Regards from Vancouver,
Rebecca

[KarenKawas]

This video actually made me feel better.

[LiminalDoll]

This really helped me find something to link my friends and family to because I do work with my therapist on this but I am trying to build interpersonal skills after working on emotional regulation this is super helpful.

[florestinavanitas]

I really like the quality of your videos. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. Adding examples is very helpful for understanding those concepts

[miraharrraz]

i really needed this today, ana, thank you so much!! 💕

[levantineking]

This video is so helpful and useful ! thank you so much for this content

[itisjustnas]

Hi Ana,

This video is very helpful for me to understand better on what I am going thru lately and I needed this as honestly, it has been a rough 2021 this year for me.
Btw, thank you Ana!

[andreeacameliaandrei]

If you can do a video on tips when having panick attacks it would be great🥺

[sessaly]

I am a feminine guy and I had to deal with a lot of shame for being gender non-conforming. It's gotten better and I became a bit more confident, but it is still hard to be my truest self.

[agriduIce]

thank you so much for sharing this, i really needed this