7 Signs You Have Toxic Guilt Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Self Help

7 Signs You Have Toxic Guilt Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Self Help

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CHAPTERS:
00:00 5 Signs you May Have Toxic Guilt
00:11 What are Guilt and Shame
01:23 Signs of Toxic Guilt
06:18 Effects
08:40 Support DocSnipes
09:04 Summary

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[jarayshaw]

This video came at a perfect time. Thank you so much 🖤❤💛💚

[jesterbmbbruh]

I'm half and half...I feel shame for how I am, but it seems I've also been manipulated quite a bit...I'm angry/depressed at alot of things but I try to keep alot of it to myself

[faithschue]

Thank you for this video. I have severely struggled with the inability to leave people. This has been especially problematic for me in regard to romantic relationships. I’ve never been able to break up with someone, no matter how hard I try. It just feels like there’s an invisible force in place that makes it impossible, no matter how much I want it or how much I prepare for it. I’ve never understood why, and I can never explain it to others. But it’s resulted in me staying in abusive relationships until the other person decides to leave. I’m actually in one of as we speak. Ive been wanting out for 2 years now, which is the longest I’ve been stuck and I don’t see an end in sight. It seems the only other way out it so figure out what is creating my inability to leave people, and then address it.
Ultimately my path to understanding has led me here, to the concept of toxic guilt. Which makes sense to me since Ive already come to the conclusion that I have a core belief that leaving someone equates to giving up on them. And my inability to leave comes from my fear of hurting others, and my desire to make sure no one else is made to feel the ways others have made me feel.
But even deeper than that is my fear of how I will feel if either of those 2 things happen. Guilt.
Pain is inevitable during/after a break up, no matter how healthy it is. But toxic guilt runs deep in my veins, so much so that I anticipate it. Which I think the self preservation part of me is what keeps me trapped, since I’m afraid to feel the guilt of leaving.

[herrroy]

How do I know if I actually did something wrong that I should apologize for, or if it is that I am exposed for toxic guilt? Is it only my own standards that I should go to and compare my actions to?

[valenciawalker]

Thank you, very helpful and informative.

[sadie]

For almost five years I have been waking up with my heart racing and a sense of doom as I recall my guilt. I have tried compassionate therapy and other treatments but it still haunts me every day.

[envy_mafia]

Heh, I’m /guilty/ of all of this. Real talk though I didn’t know what toxic guilt was until I thought to myself once “should I be making decisions out of guilt?” And then discovered this whole thing. I thought these feelings I felt against myself were valid and struggle with this greatly. I’m starting to find information that’s proving helpful, like your videos. Thank you so so very much for helping me find mental peace. I am very grateful to mental health professionals like yourself that make content to help bring mental health to more people. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤

[centurionstrengthandfitnes]

Guilt is the bricks and mortar. Shame is the house. 'I did an unworthy thing' repeated sufficiently becomes 'I am unworthy.'
The latter is a lie. You're not a fixed thing to be labeled. Go do a kind thing for someone and you'll immediately see that.

[tng]

My manager shamed and belittled me for not wanting to work with someone who is going to put their hands on me and now I feel guilty because I'm responsible for her actions now and forever I am now responsible for everyone's actions towards me because I spoke up when things got bad

[kalibhakta]

ZOMG... I just had to pause this because my mother was constantly blaming me for things that I really hadn't had anything to do with, often reversing cause and effect in the process. I've told therapists that if I had been anywhere around Sumatra when the Boxing Day tsunami happened my mother would have found a way for it to have been my fault.

[AC-pntk]

I don't notice any anger only tears

[kaylamumme]

I lost my mother to cancer in may 2022 year and my 18 year old daughter in August from a car accident. I took care of my mother and did hospice. I have younger children and none of us is getting better. What can i do to help my boys age 10 and 12

[ranc]

I would make focus on External factor - toxic people, toxic ambient.
Toxic Shame is not something we are grown with - it is learned, conditioned belief, deep core perception of being inept, wrong and unable to manage life. We are not inventor of it - toxic guilt, toxic shame was imposed on us who feel it.
Once trauma distorts our sense of worth - will trigger our shame and guilt. Trigger is automatic, conditioned.

As with any psychological issue, the second step I would do is clarify-
there are narcissists on one side and normal people who get abused by narcissists at the other side.
Both groups will feel various psychological issues however the direction to heal it goes in opposite direction.
Narcissists will mimic emotions since their goal is to use other people by any mean possible - because they are mentally ill.
This means, CBT instruction to self pathologize and to "heal" guilt by more guilt - will actually work for narcissists, small percentage that seeks help and the only way to become healthy is to go in direction of taking the blame since they create it when sick.
Yet in normal healthy people this guilt tripping to heal guilt will create more trauma already present inside.
For normal people it helps to accept and validate oneself and to realize unprocessed emotions that are the cause of psychological issues stem from not recognizing toxic people and thus not cutting toxic people off when toxicity is noticed. Normal people were being conditioned into normalizing abuse and to crap fit into abuse - by guilt and shame. So,

It is not about manipulation. It is being exposed to toxic ambient and toxic people that creates toxic guilt and toxic shame.
IT is observed on psychology that this conditioning happens in life:
There is Jane Elliott's Blue Eyes, Brown Eyes experiment, exercise - that showed that social settings can influence the targets.
There is Narcissistic abuse: Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Damage.
There is Stanford prison experiment where it is shown that targets of abuse in toxic ambient where they cannot escape from will develop extreme social anxiety.
There is Skinner's box and Little Albert experiment which shows that people can be conditioned and initiated into social anxiety.

[grammamellow]

I have survivor's guilt. Legit. Why did I Survive when so many others fell? God knows. I still have questions. I accept He has not brought me this just to bring me this far. . I just wish it wasn't so lonely waiting. No man is an island. We were not meant to be isolated from each other. I am not a threat to anyone. The scales ⚖ of weight and measure. Grams, milligrams, pounds and tons and Grands and Millions and billions trillions and ...survive in measure. Who's measure? I need to speak with a supervisor. I have no feeling of.a need to apologize to grandma. My feeling is to defend grandma. I'm mad no one else is speaking up for grandpa. You may not have liked my grandpa but why can't I?