Mid-range narcissists

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[BabylonSistaah]

“Enough good days to confuse you, enough bad days to break your heart” the instant you said this I cried. I’ve been battling confusion and heartbreak for 6 years. This was the mirror I needed. Thank you Dr. Ramani. I am going to do what I now know I’ve needed to do. Break myself free.

[housewife_ninja]

This reminds me of my father. He was so nice to acquaintances at the store and later on I asked him why he didn't treat me and my sister like that and he told us, "it's because I love you enough to not lie to you." Very confusing thing to hear as a teen.

[TheRaqessarr]

I have always felt I am in a narcissistic relationship however most descriptions of narcissists are so extreme. This one hit the nail on the head and it really encourages me to get out!!! Thank you.

[lisajohnson]

“Just enough good days to keep you confused, and just enough bad days to break your heart.” Nailed it.

[msakeeba]

This IS MY HUSBAND. So glad we’re divorcing. He’s so cruel, just in private. 9 years of him releasing tension and anger on me, just at home. Outside people think he’s so kind and generous, but won’t share money, affection, attention, or give any kindness to me. Years of lying, gaslighting, manipulation and cheating. This really is the truth - it really resonates. So glad I’ve seen this video.

[breakthrough]

Devil at home .. and an Angel outside .. I looked like I was ungrateful & unappreciative .. while I was the victim he looked like the victim ..

[mariarozycka]

Once I tried to explain to my cousin why I cut off ties with my mother.I desperately needed someone to understand me.You know what she said: Oh, she is such a nice person, it`s your mother, how can you say that... etc. Since then I have not tried that again . I love you, Dr Ramani, you brighten my miserable mornings and let me go through the day :)

[shelley]

The way I see it, I don't care if anyone else understands narcissism at this point. I get it, and I want to get as far away from it as I can. Being the understanding empath has caused me a lot of grief through the years. I'm done trying to explain myself or anyone else's bad behavior to others. Thanks Dr. Ramani, you have really helped open my eyes to the reality of narcissism and the damage it can do. Have a blessed day!!!

[kryssysmith]

The people who brought me up we're not mild narcissist at all (they were extreme narcissist). However, I remember people in public telling them how "Look, your kids are so polite and they know their manners." It drive me up the freaking wall because nobody knew what the hell happened behind closed doors. I am so grateful I am no longer a part of their lives.

[merryweather]

I tried to tell someone about my ex narcissist. I was told I was suffering menopausal symptoms. Argh.

[lauramejia]

This is S O accurate... and that is exactly what I used to tell him: "I dont understand how and why you choose to be so rude to me, the person you call the love of your life". The rollercoaster, the manipulation, the way people used to greet him with a big smile and always say what a great dad he was, how he would shift blame... I thank God I had a great support system... Needless to say I ended up in therapy... I am so much better now

[ibme]

Nearly 40 years and nowhere to go. With old age they just get more blatant. Still, at least I now can put names to it all. Thank you!

[frenchfry]

My mother is a mid-range narc. I didn't know that until now. I was really, really confused about how inconsistently she behaved selfishly and in a controlling way. Now I understand. Thanks!

[yaff]

I literally was grateful when my family finally did something so bad that it justified no contact.

[kristinisenberg]

You just described him perfectly...most of our friends don't see it but those very close to him do, which is very few of course. 😞

[patrickmarsh]

Telling people I was being manipulated by my roommate and “best friend” lead to everyone telling me to be the “bigger person” and I was wrong for doing everything it took to get away. I lost a lot of friends, but if you tell people someone is hurting you and that’s not enough for them to believe you, just withdraw from them, and move on. “I am hurt by what this person did” should be enough. Victims should not have to re-traumatize themselves trying to get someone to believe them, especially friends and family.

[sevit.]

“Happy empathy coincidences”… He was crying when he was talking about the love bond between the characters of the movie The Notebook. Too bad for both of us that he wasn’t equipped to feel such deep love. I had loved him dearly for 17 years against of all the confusion and heartbreak. Thanks to my 2-3 very close friends and Dr Ramani’s educational and humane videos, I broke free from my gaslighted self and embraced radical acceptance. I am going through a painful divorce but I no longer have euphoric recalls. Thank you Dr. Ramani for your invaluable public service. The more of us are educated the better chances we have to pass the knowledge and a helping hand on to other victims and survivors.

[ingridchristensen]

Great point. The blame shift and the silence treatment are classic rolls they play.

[TylerLarson]

If only this video had been available 2 years ago. I spent AGES confused, thinking I was making this up.. trying to piece together an understanding that this concept might exist for real. And here it is. THANK YOU for showing me that my life really happened!

[jerredmillirons]

Wow, dr. Ramani, you are a gift to people like me. Yes, a trillion times yes, I have to deal with the enablers of my narcissist, CONSTANTLY. I always feel obligated to point out the abuse to life long enablers., and I am ALWAYS left disappointed and questioning myself. "Am I just Imaging this?" Is it me who is the narcissist, just trying to divert from my own insanity?" "Do I overreact when I am the focus of the rage?" Then that uncertainty runs laps in my head forever, especially when I try to explain it to others. It almost always results with me looking like the obsessed weirdo shouting out diagnoses. You're doing good work here and it really helps me navigate through the confusion. Thank you