The Effect of No Contact On The Narcissist

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Understand what no contact truly feels like for the Lesser, Mid-Range and Greater Narcissists.

[missj]

You WILL regret breaking no contact every single time. Just don't do it. You can't reason with or fix the narcissist. It gets easier to stay strong over time. Take back your dignity and block them forever.

[Cloudwalker]

Tell your narcissist,
“If your phone doesn’t ring,
It’s probably me”. 😎

[irishmailman]

Forgiving a narcissist who hurt you, is your gift to them!
Forgetting a narcissist who hurt you, is your gift to you!

You can't change someone who doesn't see an issue with their actions,
You just have to distance yourself

[jolesliewhitten]

No contact is the smartest move—plan quietly and run!

[samia]

2 years free and broke no contact, there is not a second that I don't regret the mistake. Please don't break no contact. Remember the unbearable withdrawals that happened after the first discard? You will have to face it all over again as if for the first time. Remember the suffering and agony? That will be neverending. Please don't reset the healing process and waste more years in this.

[elebea]

I think narcs are teachers. One you survive one and learned your lessons and do your healing, you change. I have a self acceptance and knowledge about myself, I’ve never had before. I am a new person. It was a painful journey. It is disappointing my ex turned out to be who she was but I wouldn’t be here the way I am without that painful experience.

[maelentrewela]

I broke no contact once...to go to divorce ccourt. I did not talk to him, look at him or be near him. I stood as tall as I could, sat as tall as I could. So minus that one day, I've been no contact since July 11 2021.

[heatherlynn]

This channel is like Methadone instead of Heroin to me. Am I the only one who feels this way? It’s safe, it’s satisfying, it’s empowering and it’s detoxing here.

[narcology]

After 6 hoovers and still stuck on the narc and never able to heal I decided just cold turkey to go total no contact. Now I am slowly but surely healing. I have found that no contact is for the protection of the victim because the narc will never change, it will always be about them. We shouldn't care what effect no contact has on the narc. No contact is to help ourselves not care. It's like a painful withdrawal from an addiction. If you still care to know what effect the no contact is doing to the narc, you are self-sabotaging and breaking your own no contact. No contact means no contact physically and emotionally. The easiest part is the physical no contact. Now we work on the emotional no contact. To hell with the narc, we have to teach ourselves not to care, just as the narc doesn't care.

[a-new-me]

I left. Then started educating myself about narcissism which explained everything that I had sensed, but didn't want to see. I had a kind person drop all the narcs belongings off at their property. Blocked them on all "channels", and never looked back. It still takes time to heal from the trauma, but no contact is the only way.

[LeilaJane]

One of the lightbulb moments for me was observing a narcissist and how they were able to completely act like nothing had ever happened after the previous time I’d seen them we had actually had a big row. No acknowledgment or apology or even negative vibe, just continuing as normal… I think this made me realise that I too, can just go on as if they never happened if I need to. I think realising the frivolity of their seemingly confronting actions can help to detach more and make it easier to go no contact and forget about them. You always have a choice in how something is going to effect you.

[thecountesswithpowers]

Thnx to your work, HG, i no longer give a flying f@$k what the narcissist is doing or how he feels! no contact is a sure-fire way of gaining one's freedom!!!

[LeslieAllen]

I left my mid-range narcissist ex 4 years ago. No contact - no phone, fax, email, texts, smoke signals, nothing. I do NOT regret it. At all. I highly recommend it.

[michellejayde]

13 days no contact since final discard. He just texted me for the first time a half hour ago. I almost wrote him back but I came on here instead

[richlisola]

Sometimes the trash takes out itself—hold on tightly, let go lightly—Don’t look back.

[rachaelb.]

If narcissism is so toxic and even dangerous, why the hell is it not considered high priority for mental health awareness and properly managed at a young age? Why is it not taken seriously in the world? If children are forced to live with it in the family home, and they are being affected by it, that child could take on those narc.traits without being aware of it and/or not know how to deal with the affects, properly. What if a child is a narc.? They won't know or know how to deal with it. Mental health should be taught in schools. Most mental health issues start in childhood. I'm just so flustered with how USA deals with mental health.

[elemair]

After a decade of reading every book I could, listening to every youtube channel I found.... your material is BY FAR, and I really want to emphasize that, the most accurate ! Plus, everything is explained in a way that make it simple to understand and apply. Finally, it just works. That's why I believe your work is the best on the planet. Take this fuel as a token of my gratitude.

[glizta]

The best thing in the world is knowing this channel exists because it is 100% accurate. It’s our job to listen and follow the advice.

[candycanes]

It’s so difficult to get your truth seeker trait and emotional thinking in check.
It will always come back to haunt you.
I feel fortunate to be healthy.
Once you control this emotion, the anxiety lessons and you slowly become apathetic towards the narcissist.
You start to recognize odd behavioral patterns quite easily and put up a boundary when you come in contact with other narcissistic individuals.

[jm]

Have gone no contact with Narc Mother - again...being doing this for 35 years!! I allowed her to have a conversation via email and when the inevitable bile about my father combined with mother's victimhood fell into my inbox (note with an additional dollop of something on the side that she'll use as my reason for not responding) I struggled with responding with a bomb of truth then I found you HG and decided no response, no contact was the way to manage it! Thank you...