Obligation and Guilt : How the Mid Range Narcissist Manipulates

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A detailed examination of various ways that the entire school of Mid-Range Narcissists will manipulate utilising Obligation and Guilt. This details what is said and provides you with examples and analysis referencing the relevant sub schools of narcissist that use them and the pertinent elements of the narcissistic dynamic and narcissistic behaviours.

[rbarba]

20 years of listening “you should…”

5 years into my healing journey amen!

[LisaMarie.]

Am I the only one who thinks this is a perfect photo of their ex (Narc) It honestly reminds me of him for some strange reason!😂👏

[ekaterinabalderdash]

Narcissists always accuse you of what they themselves are doing. If you listen to what they accuse you of doing/being, you will know what they are up to.

[narcfreeatlast]

Basically, it is the constant "you owe me" type of attitude combined with the massive entitlement on top.

[ChristinaFromYoutube]

"Boring mid-range monologue" is the story of my life.

This video is inspiring me to move into the woods alone and just become feral.

[LisaMarie.]

If u try to tell a narc how bad they treat u instead of an apology u will hear all the things u did that mostly didn't happen but no responsibility for the pain they cause or the selfishness.Smh! It is exhausting.They truly act like a grown baby! Perfect image! This should be in the dictionary for Narcissist.

[agent_exodus]

I don’t think I would have ever been able to thoroughly disentangle myself from a certain mid range narcissist if it was not for your work.
Thank you, H.G.
I think what you’re doing is phenomenal. It’s exceptionally clever how you’ve come up with a system that provides you with fuel, but also a win for many empathic types.
It’s genius.
Praiseworthy.
Quality fuel worthy.

[annamariehewitt]

HG- AT THE AGE OF 72 AND BORN INTO A FAMILY OF 7 NARCISSISTS, WITH YOUR HELP
I'VE FINALLY GOT THIS SHIT FIGURED OUT...THANKS...

[LoveLady-wneg]

You just did a powerfully good, no excellent job, of putting into words, his attitude towards me right now.

[maycoma]

Such an appropriate thumbnail...body of a man, face of a child in rage

[mindiem]

I heard 99% of these statements from the narcissist I was entangled with. What an emotional whirlwind, not to mention a completely horrific chapter in my life...

[malaika]

My ex was obsessed telling me that I had no friends and that when I die, no one will come to my funeral. What is the obsession with having a crowd come when you are dead? Why on earth would I give a flying fart about it?!?

[michaelking]

“I said all these things to my narc. I think I’m the narcissist. My bad y’all 😬”....

...said no narc ever.

[lisapanaro]

Multiply that by 35 years... miracle I'm still alive! Thank you God!

[lauren]

All of these "you should" statements are, strangely, the Empath's thoughts, being mirrored back and mimicked by the Narcissist.

[carolinewalker]

I'm smiling while I'm listening to you HG, not because it's funny, bit, because these phrases ring so many bells, and, now, I have finally recognised that I wasn't imagining it all, I thank you HG, after 10 years of abuse, I am finally free .

[mohamgghar]

“If you don’t fix this we’re done” was said to me about 3000 times. Also the “always” and “never” statements are all she ever used.

[stephaniebuker]

As a x 3 long term Narc Partner, I was groomed to direct the Sympathy Symphony for Narcissists..
As a child with a Narc Father, doormat Mother, also in Church, in my marriages and jobs I'm the mass defender of Narcs. No wonder...
Call me Maestro..
I'm totally controlled by pity and guilt..
And here I thought they were feeling guilt..Silly me..

I grew up with pity and guilt as a steady diet..I detest it..
No wonder I was so controlled BY it..
Thanks for answering my question.

[LoveLady-wneg]

You're right.
He isnt aware that he does this, and I can feel him doing this, since I am hyper sensitive, but I am convinced now, that he really does love me.
But as of last night, and still now, I have come to realize that I need to be alone, with nobody, to hibernate and just try to get well.
I need to think of me now.

[PromehteuSlobodan]

Here are some examples from my ex narcissist girlfriend: "You don't have right to say that to me" - my answer was "Yes I do, as you or anybody has write to speak, it's called freedom of speech, "You don't know how hard it is for me " - "Yes I know and it's the consequences of your choices", "You will never find better than me" - "I know I want find someone like you, I could find someone better or worst then you, but it's not the point, I should find someone better for me "You don't see me" - "She had right at this one, at the time I didn't see her for what she really was, but my answer at that time was that it is not important do you "see" someone but it is crucial what you do to that person". I'm grateful that I've learned what I had to learn. To finally love and respect myself. No contact with collection of self defense mechanism design to destroy theirs host, just like virus do.