Can Narcissists Change?

"Can narcissists change?" Drawing on opinions and personal experiences from individuals diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), we delve into the possibilities of healing and transformation.

Today, we discuss the nuances of narcissistic behavior, the challenges faced in narcissistic relationships, and the potential for change and growth. Whether you’re struggling with narcissistic abuse, or whether you're diagnosed with NPD, questioning if you or a loved one might be a narcissist, or simply seeking to understand more about NPD, this video offers valuable perspectives and insights.

Disclaimer: This video is not intended to diagnose or demonize anyone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It is important to recognize that not all individuals with NPD are abusive. Abuse can be perpetrated by anyone, regardless of whether they have a diagnosed personality disorder. Our goal is to provide insight and understanding based on the experiences and opinions of those diagnosed with NPD.

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Writer: Lightoflights
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel
Animator: Danica Diamos
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[afellownerd]

As a wise man once said:

"Anyone can change, but not everyone wants to."

[riomarina]

Its kind of terrifying that one of the biggest theories for narcissistic personality disorder is that the child went through something so horrible that they killed their inner self in order to protect themselves, which later makes them into the very monster they were so desperately trying to get away from

[CrimsonWolfpack]

I have some mental disorders, and as someone with something like that, I have to say this: Having a mental disorder may SHAPE the way you behave, but it’s not forcing it. You still have control, and you can change if you put the effort into it.

[lantern]

It's equal parts sweet as it is sad that plenty of the comments on these narcissist videos specifically are simply people venting their experiences. I myself have a mother who is a narcissist, and it's always a comfort to see how so many people all have very similar experiences with their parents; to all of you who are currently in an environment with a particularly irascible and/or irritating narcissist, I hold major respect—stay strong y'all.

[Psychgo]

This video is based on the opinions and insights of professionals as well as individuals diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We acknowledge that experiences and perspectives may vary. If you have a different opinion, we welcome you to share it in the comments. However, we kindly ask that you keep the comment section civil and respectful. Thank you for watching and contributing to the discussion.

[thefrieguy]

They can change and incredibly fast it's like they're a whole different person when you don't give them what they want

[Journi_Vuelta]

It's heartbreaking to know people can go through this. Before people see the rest of the comments and decide if they really want to watch the video, i'd recommend actually watching the video before making judgments. Change is possible, no matter how hard it is

[justoniascool]

A narcissist changes for good when they genuinely desire to do so for the sake of others as well when they take responsibility for their negative actions with actual positive actions, not just talk. Remember, if you are suffering from this inner battle like I have, don't let people tell you can't change for the better, a person becomes good not when people acknowledge them as such but when you've genuinely done your best to change for the better of others.

[Psychedlia]

There is also a video on YouTube, called "Narcissists are Human" I recommend people watch that as well, as it talks about the personality disorder and how in an in-depth way that dispels the mysticism of the disorder that has been going on through the internet.

[escherichanja]

Only if you believe that you can learn empathy and not have it because of your nature. But will live in a crazy world that believes in learned helplessness so sure, toxic people can change and become social and respect the victims and their problems.

[choco]

Whether or not a narcissist can change, i feel the reason for a lot of us to watch this is we are desperately trying to change them. This hope often end up fueling their narcissism. We need to decide for ourselves what we want to do about this seemingly Catch 22 situation.

[anthonyarturo]

I experienced and observed myself exhibits narcissistic traits when I was 20. My ex girlfriend back then told me that I'm very toxic and needed help, and it made me realize how I act back then hurt her big time.

Only then when I had my dog, it started. I learned how to be patient with animals first.

I sometimes see myself being irritated to people that did bad on video games and think that I could do better than this guy, but I guess it'd always get heated when your team starts to lose. I'm not good at the games I play too so I guess backseating wouldn't do any better.

[ValerinePrisma]

The omori references wont ever stop huh

[justanamerican]

The only way to deal with a narcissist is to have a social 'hedge' around them. Everyone who is related to them, works with them, is neighbors to them needs to recognize that they are narcissists and everyone does not let them do their social parasitic moves. That is almost impossible, but the only way.

[vita]

I’ve had to deal with a narcissistic brother my entire life (27 years) only just recently started treating him like a stranger and he’s become nobody to me. Honestly it’s the best decision I ever made. No longer has a grip on me. He also shows no desire to want to change things with me because I have nothing to offer him. Remember folks, a relationship with a narcissist is purely transactional, and only one way.

[johnmcnamara]

They can, I had some narcissistic traits( thank you mom) but I became aware of them and worked to get rid of them. I still practice being self-aware.

[Charafromthehitgameundertale]

I can see the Omori references.
You can’t hide them from me.

[YouALLStop]

My dad is a narcissist. He abused my mom and she divorced him for not just that, but for also cheating on her a lot. He then proceeds to act like mom was "overreacting" about his cheating.

Like wth.

He also cut ties with us recently and said he "needed some space" as if HE was the one suffering after taking most of the money and then wasting half of it on s*x workers. It sucks how he just doesn't realize how much he hurt all of us.

[GHOUSTTM]

as someone with (self diagnosed) NPD this video is absolutely great at encapsulating how I feel :)

my 'persona' is this, stupid, silly, careless, ignorant, slow 14 year old. It's made a lot of things easier for me bc if im faced with a problem, someone will solve it for me, or i can just literally make myself forget the problem right in front of me instead focusing on distractions to keep me feeling not-bad

I still have a lot to better myself with irl that honestly not willing to change myself for yet. But i guess im trying, reluctantly .. it mostly involves growing out of this dependant 14 year old mentality ive been stuck with and preparing myself for college and adulthood in general

but i just, i dont know, i dont have a lot of motivation to, college seems scary, independence is hard, and ive never been happier when im ignorant of my own downfall in life and how it effects others

im not sure if im willing to let this persona go. its made everything so much easier and less scarier. but it wont work forever, and i dont want to believe that.

i dont know how to convince myself to just grow up. how to grow up. i can start taking care of myself and others better, sometimes i try to, sometimes i succeed, but i just never do anyway.




and knowing i actually CANT let go of that persona might or might not be eye opening lmfao
i guess im fucked unless i get therapy somehow

[Psychedlia]

One last comment I would like to make, I am disappointed, but understanding, that people in the comments have vile reaction to people with NPD, and I understand. I was hurt by someone with that condition too, but instead of stewing on that resentment, I choose to find ways to how can we treat them. Yeah, it’s not easy, nothing is, but the fact that there are self-aware narcissists and that narcissist also face discrimination of their disorder, motivates me to help these people out. Yes, be firm with them, but don’t just demonize. That doesn’t solve the issue, if at all, people with autism will at times be accused of having NPD because we (autistic people) tend to lack empathy, and with the NPD scare, this will create harm for us in the autistic community. I know many people are going to try to tell me “you are wasting your time” “you are a fool” or “they never change” if this is the case, Lee Hammock would not exist.