The narcissist and how they text | The Narcissists' Code Ep 920

How do narcissists send texts and emails? Is there a particular way that narcissistic people text you? How do narcissists respond to texts and emails?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[Hotpink]

They expect EVERYTHING GOOD FROM YOU but they GIVE YOU NOTHING BACK😤😠

[jasonpeterson]

This focus on power is why they ultimately fail at every relationship. Healthy relationships are not concerned with power.

[AimeeAimee]

Social media is everything to them! 😂
That’s where they feed.
They create a false character of themselves and their phone is hooked to their hand.

[kristeneichhorn]

I wouldn't say they give you nothing. They give you anxiety, depression, financial issues, self dought, and all kinds of other permanent damage only victims of this abuse understand

[taggmanibanez]

Let me cut through all and say, if you've established that someone's a narcissist, never text them ever again.

[IanM-idor]

The best response to a narcissist is none at all. Go full no-contact and stay no-contact

[AnastasiaLimanto-iokw]

My narcissist ex actually stopped texting me after I used his texts to expose him to his mistress. He said he loved me & I was the one he wanted to be with . Then he said that he didn’t love his mistress. He even said “How could I love someone like that?” I screenshot those texts & sent them to his mistress. 10 minutes later, she showed up at his apartment & made a scene there 😂😂😂😂. Best day of my life!

[brynvega]

I never sent long texts but Every time I argued, confronted, explained or defended myself I gave away my power and dignity. Once I realized this was his game I stopped being his conscience... and it made him crazy. My response would just be "people have been killed for less". But honestly I'm not reading a super long text from anyone either. If it's that important why are you texting me?

He'd accuse me of loving to argue.... "you just don't WANT to be happy." He wanted a doormat... no questions, arguments or accusations, supposedly. Someone he could shame and intimidate.

But as I told him "when I quit talking about this stuff you better start worrying cause I have 1 foot out the door."

[chrisharris]

They are strategic and I believe they read everything esp the covert ones

They try to use silence to bully you

[learningalot]

Save them all bc it helps you to see what you didn’t see in the relationship. It’s a teaching tool for your discernment of these demons moving forward.

[ssugar]

4:37 This!!!! This!!! Glory to God for being free from narcissistic abuse! I remember when I was trying to explain my perspective to him, I wrote long a** paragraphs when he was discarding me. Eventually I gave up and just wrote short responses. The shorter my responses were, the longer his text messages got. He tried hoovering me back for the second time. He remained blocked. I deleted all of his pictures, all of his texts. Y'all they are not worth it. Protect your peace and take your power back.

[shundawilliams]

I almost fell on the floor listening to this OMG EVERYTHING you said is ABSOLUTELY TRUE he would never respond to my long text messages but would send me a whole book and get mad if I didn't respond it was a trigger for him when I did to him what he did to me. I'm so glad I'm done with that darkness

[franklinsmith]

Good tone response doesn't change anything. Any response to a narcisist is the kiss of death. Respond to your mind. If nobody loves you, so what. You gotta love yourself.

[steffiekensley]

Narcissists are hypersensitive to tone but they don't always get it right. Sometimes, the tone is indifference and they have a hard time believing anyone would actually be indifferent to them because they're "too significant" for that. They must read into your indifference to make themselves feel important. But, as Lee said, the hypocrisy of them expecting you to respond to everything they say or write is gross while they ignore your legitimate concerns about the unfairness of how they've repeatedly chosen to treat you. It's a two-way street or a dead end. Don't tolerate them, don't respond, keep your doors locked, your eyes open, your mind free and your heart healed. You deserve all of that. Their significance is manufactured and counterfeit. You're the significant one. 💜✝️❤

[rebeccalucas]

That single word, or thumbs up also applies to people who used to be close friends.
I invited someone who used to be a friend to a concert, all I got was a thumbs up, no definite yes or no.
It isn't just a romance issue.
They will send you tik toks, Instagram or YouTube videos, but won't hold a complete conversation.
Some people are in your life for a reason or a season.
It's better to be alone than abused.

[a.l.ingram]

So true! At the end of our relationship when I had enough. I told him it was over and said it in a nice way at first he was nice and understanding. When he didn't get the response he wanted he got mean and kept messaging. Rather than feeding into I left him on read and blocked him✌️. It's been just over 3 wks still no contact. Staying strong💪

[emmy]

If your narc still has lines of commission open, but has gone dark. Take your power back, no explanation and BLOCK them!

[sarahd]

My ex use to text love messages but then act like a mean cold SOB when he got home. In the messages he couldn't wait to see me, he misses me and wants to do something together when he gets home. Then as soon as he gets home he turns into a cold person and everything in the text was just a lie.

[MizzzLuna]

So accurate. Stay in no contact people ... its NOT worth it and stay in control of yourself😎

[pinkoctober]

The moment you said they don't read those specific types of messages I fell out laughing. This is 100% true. My ex use to tell me that he's not reading that.. no matter how heartfelt if it had that "take accountabilty" aspect, it was a no.