Understanding A Narcissist

In our first episode of this full video series, MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson and psychologist / narcissism expert Dr. Ramani unpack the baseline knowledge you need on the psychology of a narcissist and narcissistic behavior. She explains the defining characteristics of a narcissist, how they handle emotion, and what psychologically causes them to hurt their partner's emotional health.

Understanding the narcissist begins with an important question: why do they treat you this way?

Narcissistic behavior is an incredibly confusing and destabilizing form of emotional trauma for the person on the other end of the relationship. Those who are victim to it report feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, confusion, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and even symptoms resembling PTSD. What’s worse, many of these sufferers don’t realize that this poor treatment by a narcissistic partner or family member is at the core of these debilitating symptoms.

They answer...
Why is understanding the mechanics of a relationship with a narcissist so life-changing?
What enables a narcissist?
What is a narcissist is and how they act in day to day life?
Why do narcissists treat you this way?
How does this narcissistic behavior affect the mental health of the sufferer?

Anyone who is having trouble in a relationship and suspects the person on the other end is a narcissist will benefit from this discussion.

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[denorwhi]

I love her saying all narcissists should just be together and leave the rest of us alone lol

[berryh]

Unfortunately you don’t know they’re a narcissist until they’ve burned you. But once you’ve experienced it and know what it is, you truly see it. Get away, stay away, be happy with the simple things in life.

[Invincible]

I was in a Narcissistic relationship for only 6 weeks. I thankfully had the courage and strength to leave. The hardest part is dealing with myself. The embarrassment and frustration of knowing that someone manipulated me and fed me constant lies and I fell for it. Those moments of reflection are the toughest because you don’t know where the truth stops and the lies start.

[D-me-dream-smp]

The best thing about recognising narcissists is understanding that NOTHING you say or do will ever change them or the way they see things. Strict boundaries and distance is the only way.

[razasyeda]

Coverts are the worst. They display empathy but they don’t feel empathy. There’s a difference and only time tells.

[nancybrooks]

“I’m loving this cup right now, because it’s giving me what I want. In 10 minutes I won’t love it anymore.” What a great metaphor for the narcissist’s view of the supply, Dr.Ramani!

[brandyparnell]

The grief and regret are real, especially when you realize you've enabled the behavior and willingly drank the person's poison. Instead of death, we're left with the real diagnoses of depression, GAD, and PTSD. Feels as if I only had the ingredient list all these years, and your series has given me the name of the recipe.

[carissabooyse]

These videos are so vital for victims of narcissistic abuse

[MBAinternetmktg]

When a narcissist says he/she loves you, it's just for that moment because you are fitting into his/her scenario of what that moment should look like. When that moment passes, he/she is indifferent again. Thank you to the people who pointed out that my original post referred only to "he." I was speaking from experience, as a woman, but yes, narcissists can be men or women...

[angelos.]

I suffered in silence! But...when I realized that my best friend was a narcissist...I believed I could save him...that I could rescue him out of whatever it was in his past that had caused him to become a narcissist. Leaving the narcissist is the best way! Recovering from narcissistic abuse is so difficult.

[watchdog]

"Narcissists view human relationships as conveniences." Striking statement and another great and informative talk.

[infinitetundra]

Most Anxiety Disorders are caused by Narcissistic Abuse.

[bellaluce]

"Psychological neglect and invalidation" is exactly right. Also 10:50ish: "narcissistic abuse is characterized by chronic invalidation, lack of compassion, lack of respect, lack of mutuality, a cold indifference..." I love it that Dr. Ramani says NOPE right away, and that sometimes those who've judged her for not giving chances later come to her and say you were so right. RUN at the first sign of these soul suckers! They will bleed you dry and leave you a ruined husk if you let them! 🚫🧛‍♂

[SeeMoreKelly]

This dog chilling at their feet is amazing.

[janicescott]

It’s sort of sad because the narcissist was neglected as a child or suffered emotional abuse so one tries to empathize with them and feel compassion. But, their underhanded, overbearing, controlling ways just make you want to run far, far away from them. And there is no changing them.

[MidnhtCrzr]

I've encountered this in others so many times. The best thing to do is to exit the narcissistic relationship. And once you're out stay out.

[dannydyoh]

I am 50 years old and still thinking my mother could change. This is an eye opener. Thank you Dr. Ramani

[salt]

When u finally understand that it was never real, it kinda makes it easier to handle. Still hurts...but its a different, less personal kinda hurt... it wasnt me.... thank you!

[ingridchristensen]

From my own experience, in one sentence: It’s always about power.

[mrcevrg]

From ages 4-18 my mother was always difficult. Dr Romani saved me. That’s not even me being dramatic wow I’m crying writing this. It’s intense because she’s given me the gift of discernment. And now I see everyone clearly and she set me free. I’m 18 now. Moved out on my own and for the first time in my life I’m free. She gave me my freedom. Bless this woman you have no idea the impact on my life she’s done.