When the narcissist thinks THEY ARE THE CATCH

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[lt]

I still remember my ex saying he was a ‘triple threat’. Nice looking, smart and athletic. He forgot to mention lazy, entitled and exploitative: the real triple threat!

[CodeDusq]

If the narcissist thinks they are the catch, then throw it back.

[SuzannaLiessa]

He was a catch. It took me 38 years to realize I needed antibiotics.

[ratgirl]

Yes, dude told me on the first date: “I’m the catch.”

I laughed and answered : “The catch of the day? Maybe, you should come with a side of chips.”😂

That ended the date. He got up and walked out, without ordering—I stayed and had a nice dinner…🤷🏻‍♀️

[youngblood]

A narcissist is a "LEGEND" in their own mind.

[simonecrevecoeur]

My ex-narc thought he was godgiven gift to women. Back then I cried about it, now I can laugh!😂

[sushmayen]

They always think they are a catch but won't meet our needs as they don't even know what our needs are. A spectacularly selfish individual.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

It baffles me how some narcissists are so clueless to think they’re so much better and above others when they really are not. Totally delusional. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[barbaraviniegra]

They all think they are the catch when they bring so little to the relationship. The catch of hell that’s for sure.

[gabrielafonseca]

I'll always be grateful to one of my ex's friends. We were giving him a ride and he was clearly pretending to be asleep in the back seat while my ex started a fight over nothing and threatened me saying he was walking away from the marriage. His friend suddenly sat up and calmly said: "Look dude, she's the one in a million women who would put up with you, and I know for a fact there's guys waiting in line for her to come back to her senses and dump your ass so they can make their move. You might want to take it down a notch". Uncharacteristically, my ex shut up only to continue berating me as soon as we dropped off his friend, but I felt stronger by then for a while

[hazelmarieb]

Im back in therapy and already noticed a huge shift in what I attract because someone making their mental health and healing a top priority is like a narcissist repellent. They're just too much of a perfect catch to deal with my damaged negative energy *shrug*

[msneebo]

They also belittle your accomplishments and then say you are using them. 🙄

[jokendrick]

Reminds me of the new old parable "If you love someone set them free. If they come back, no one else wanted them. Set them free again". Love it....

[BamboozledUS]

I recently thought exactly this when, in the news, Simone Biles' new husband declared that he is the catch. She should get an anulment today and not wait for the disaster about to happen.

[williamreed]

The Phil Collins song "I don't care anymore" should be the anthem for anyone suffering through a narcissistic relationship.

[marysisak]

Dear Dr. Ramani. I wanted to express my gratitude for all these videos. Words cannot describe how much they have helped me. I am 71 and for the first time I am free of my demons and I am confident that they will never return. I usually do not talk about spiritual things but I wanted to tell you what happened to me a few weeks ago because I think your help has been a big part of it. I often pray my rosary (I am Catholic) in my sitting room upstairs. On this particular day I was probably sitting there for a few hours. From where I sit I can see the sky outside my window. It was cloudy all day. At some point I looked out the window and said out loud "I want to be healed." At that very moment the sun burst through the clouds and came streaming in my window. I was really startled. Normally when people relate stories like that I take it with a grain of salt but I have to admit this was completely unexpected. Prior to your videos I did not even know I needed to be healed. I just thought I deserved how I had been treated. Thank you again and God bless you.

[erinward]

They think they're special and we are here to serve them. They matter as individuals, but we don't. They treat us horribly and expect that we treat them well and fulfill their needs but refuse to be bothered with ours.

[Kenzofeis]

Or do *they* want *you* to think they are "the catch" - so that *they* can think they are "the catch"

[TrusttheDog-eekq]

Way back in the first or second year of our relationship. We were sitting at a nice bar in a restaurant waiting for our table. We didn’t have reservations but because they were insistent that they would get a table quickly, we opted to sit at the bar while we waited. As we are sitting there, the bartender was chatting with us as he was making drinks. He was really comical and I was laughing and really enjoying myself. We finally get our table and the first thing They say is “ why are you flirting with the bartender? I just rolled my eyes and said I was not interested in the bartender. I just enjoyed the conversation.

Later at home, I got both barrels of accusations, anger, door slamming, name calling. That I didn’t realize what I had, etc.

I should have known then what I know now!

[strawberry_lacroix]

My ex would always say “I’m a good woman” “I’m a good partner” “I’m a great girlfriend” and such. If you were indeed all of those things, your actions would show it. Not your words!