2 things the Narcissist Cares about when You Leave

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[astrialindah]

1. Keeping their reputation intact.
2. Trashing your reputation.
😉

[lobsterbisque]

After I learned my ex was a narc, what helped me walk away was knowing that she never loved me, and that she had no interest in changing or growing. The 'person' I thought I loved was façade. It was never who she really was. The fact that she exploded on me when we spoke about accountability told me so much. So I walked away.

[cesarmiguelpimentel]

You were not in love with a "person", but with a persona. That "person" you loved never existed as such. It was all a facade.

[YesPlease]

Narcs care about:

1) Their image/social standing. Image control. Most of them are willing to smear the other person to look like the better person themselves.
2) Money/power/pleasure (but they don't care for the responsibilities that comes with this things.)

You can use these two things as leverage when negotiating with them. Because they don't care about you, or hurting you, or the kids or pets if there are any.

Love, care, respect, attention, affection are not things they're able to provide.

[violabastian]

Childhood Trauma is at the Root of all narcissistic behavior. 26 years here.

[ladonnabrown]

Thank you .. I have left a 60 yr marriage to a narcissist... This helps me understand the crazy

[brianusa]

The narcissist only cares if it hurts THEM in some way financially or otherwise. They could care LESS if it’s you who is the one who ends up hurting/losing something.

[sakhilemkhize]

I'm leaving my narcissistic husband after being married for a year and a half. He says he won't be around when I'm moving out tomorrow because he cant stand how "his" house will look like once I've left - he can't stand that. Says he's going to be out of town for a few days to recoup (probably with his new supply).

I actually can't believe I was in love with someone so heartless. I'm disgusted to say the least.

[stephaniewilliams]

These individuals are so sad. The extreme they will go to pretending to be someone that doesn't exist. Never again.

[cheryldee]

Yep. The narcissist, after being caught red handed serial cheating and was served divorce papers, actually said that he didn’t want to get divorced…because he “didn’t want to look like a failure”. It had nothing to do with not wanting to lo lose his wife and family. Those issues were not a consideration, to him, whatsoever. Just ‘how he would look’ was his biggest concern. That, and not wanting to split the 30 years of marital assets, which he was in full control of…and (unbeknown to the family) wasting away…on keeping his multiple affairs going. Brutal. A cold hearted manipulator.

[madisonimogen]

I enjoy shutting doors in their faces...my new hobby.

[michelezeug]

They care about nothing, absolutely nothing! Not even their needs, so needy! They have no conscience!

[LuisRuiz-tsle]

Two things narcs only care about when you leave… Narc Supply and more Narc supply!!!

[madisonimogen]

U leave the game. U r better off. Enjoy time on earth and guard up your soul for eternity.

[Anne-gool]

Image is everything. Once they see you're not going to tell anybody he doesn't give a shit.

[kirsikka]

Narcissists just take money. They are worried about that their supporter goes away.

[lawstsoul]

When I went no contact with my mother her first response was, "What will everyone think of me? You're making me look like a bad mother!" Every time a flying monkey came at me it was the same thing, "You're making her look bad!" The FM's usually didn'tcome back after I asked, "Have you ever considered how bad things had to be for her own daughter to cut her off? No? Maybe you ought to."

[motowngirl]

“Talk is cheap” if they don’t do what they are saying get rid of them right a way

[joannbecker]

Im struggling been a long journey. I still can't let go of thinking after 28 years he's moved on and happier somewhere else with someone else even though I built a life for him and gave half of my life to him. Yet I know I have to let go because what I'd seen I cannot unsee the abuse only escalated the more I questioned everything. 😢

[chrome]

I broke up with her. It's hard for me.
I really do love this girl, and she knows it. 😢