Signs You Have Quiet BPD, Not Just Emotionally Insecurity

After the incredible response to our previous discussions on our BPD video (Borderline Personality Disorder), we're thrilled to present a topic that's been highly requested: "Signs You Have Quiet BPD"

If you've ever felt like your emotional experiences are more intense than they should be, this video is a must-watch. We're breaking down the subtle yet crucial distinctions between quiet borderline personality disorder and regular emotional insecurity. Hit the play button now!

#bpd #mentalhealth

Disclaimer: This video is not for self-diagnosis. If any of the symptoms mentioned feel familiar and stir up concerns, reach out to a licensed professional for diagnosis or guidance.

Writer: Sara Del Villar
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: AwesomeKickArt
Production Assistant: Thomas Kang
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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REFERENCES:

Sansone, R. A., & Sansone, L. A. (2011). Gender patterns in borderline personality disorder. Innovations in clinical neuroscience, 8(5), 16–20.

[petrichorrain-hwrr]

"fear of abandonment, unstable relationships, instability and insecure self image, intense mood swings, stress related paranoia" I dont appreciate this near perfect description of me, "intense clinginess" i literally hang off of my friends, "dependant or avoidant tendencies" i self isolate a LOT.

[bcgrote]

A therapist I had once described BPD as "PTSD without a source". Which makes you wonder, if the doctors don't KNOW of the source of your distress, could some cases of BPD actually be PTSD?

[HugoStiglitz]

I thought I had BPD but then I found out ADHD has a lot of the same symptoms, and it gets a lot worse if you're sleep deprived. I was at the time. I've since been diagnosed with ADHD so people might want to look into that too because the mood swings, insecurity, and other shit can come from adhd and bouts of depression come from a lack of sleep and adhd sufferers have a lack of sleep often

[applessuace]

I know someone with BPD, I wouldn't wish that on my worse enemy.

It's so weird, because it's almost like you can actually mentally distiguish between the person themselves and the disorder. It's like it's something that doesn't actually integrate into their personality.

I'll call the person Bob. In Bob, I see a person that had a lot going for them. A capable, polite, intelligent, well meaning person. Then, if some mystery random event takes place, like perhaps 50 miles away some wind blew a leaf wrong, something just happens, and Bob becomes pure evil. He will say and do whatever he can to harm is target in any way, believing himself to be justified, and that the target of his anger is responsible for everything bad that has ever happened to him. Bob tends to apologize later, but what Bob misses is that people aren't actually upset or personally offended by his behavior, they are simply stunned and confused by it. I don't think Bob realizes that his fights with people do not make sense to anyone and look utterly bizarre. Apologies are accepted out of concern.

If you haven't experienced this, it's hard to explain. These aren't normal confrontations or arguments. This isn't a perpetually angry guy who is short with people or unapproachable. He comes off as relatively normal and agreeable, until whatever sets him off happens.

I haven't heard from him in a few years. He isn't friends with anyone anymore and he does not speak to his family. The story didn't end well, but hopefully it will in the future.

I wish this was something we could just pull out of a person's brain, because I can tell you right now, you can see what the person is really like without the affliction so clearly in this case. BPD is the actual mental disorder that characterizes Jeckyll and Hyde.

[unsung]

CBT is a mystery to me. I tried it and I had no idea what emotion I was feeling or what triggered it. It's like being colour blind. However I recognise rage and sadness as they are constant companions. Life is strange and unpleasant.

[Nunya]

Would love a comparison like this of BPD and PMDD symptoms

[ChippyTheNeko]

I was recently diagnosed with BPD. I did not realize Quiet BPD was a thing and it has made me feel so so valid.

[katelynelizabeth]

it’s so weird, i have like all the symptoms of quiet BPD, but i cant tell if it’s just my anxiety, adhd, and depression in one. the main thing i’ve been looking for with the BPD is my mood swings, my mood will change a lot throughout the day, there’s obviously triggers, but the littlest things put me in a bad mood for hours. and then i’ll go into these holes for days it’s really confusing

[lynnt]

i really don’t wanna have this cause i wouldn’t have a clue where to start to get help.. but i keep relating to this more and more :/

[Sanshp]

I've been going to a therapist for a while and reached really far. Yet i feel like there's something missing for me to be able to move on and fight it. I would like to request/suggest a video about ways to gain/improve your self-esteem...

Hint for anxious people like me: try to do intense-focus tasks like reading. Your mind you try to fill any gaps you left why random things and stuff you don't need to even solve at that time, causing you to overthink. And yes... being an overthinker is not bad, but ya need to know that sometimes the best option is to adapt to the situation. Don't let the "what will happen next" bother you that much.

[RyanNerdyGamer]

For a while now, I’ve been convinced my father has undiagnosed BPD, and similar patterns have emerged in my mother and I over the years, possibly from prolonged exposure to his chaotic mindset.

[damongirl]

For the sake of helping to lessen the stigma of people with BPD, it's time to change the name of the disorder.

[LittleMissJenn]

Would love a comparison video like this of BPD and CPTSD.

[CaitiffFTW]

In my life, Im been diagnised as having Borderline Personality Disorder. Ive also been diagnosed with AAD, ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Major Depression, (I swear this is a real quote) "God's own personal rage control issues", and (thanks to my most recent therapist) PTSD.

Honestly, I dont know whats wrong with me. I just want it to stop hurting. I want someone to care enough actually do things with me.

[mdyalien]

A cartoon made me realize I was autistic, a fanfic made me realize I had BPD. I’m finally on the road to healing. Finally some peace.

[iamthatiam]

I don't feel empty, inadequate or depressed I am it, I am empty, I am inadequate and I am depressed that there is litterly nothing i can do about it. Ive worked on this for better part of 45 years and theres no way to feel un empty, adiquate or undepressed it must just be left to fade away.

[DanielGarcia-kpqf]

Thank you so much, I always get really angry and depressed and forget how much positives there are in my life.. appreciate it.. and your voice does turn me on.. but is just non judgemental and I am grateful for your understanding..

[sheepaggression]

I always come back to you for knowledge for my
mental health

[WryTrvr]

Recently I've been diagnosed with BPD, and something I noticed was, before, whenever I'd be talking to someone about my social anxieties, they would always respond to me as if I was speaking in a self deprecating way. They'd say things like "you're too hard on yourself" and it didn't help because I didn't really have a problem with myself, I felt like they had a problem with me and I felt threatened, and responding to me as if I was having a problem with confidence only made me feel like there was something wrong with me that I'm not noticing and they were just trying to be nice about it. But I realized that lack of confidence is probably just the more reasonable reason to feel socially anxious, and my feelings that people might turn on me and possibly attack me for reasons I don't understand might not be the most relatable feeling

[April-mlst]

Psych2go: This video is not meant to diagnose
The comment section: *self diagnosing*
Psych2go: