7 Hidden Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a type of personality disorder that affects about 1-3% of the population. People with BPD struggle with self-image, and their behavior and view of others can change quickly as they battle waves of sadness, anger, or anxiety. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, BPD may be linked to traumatic events, brain chemistry, and family history, but these factors aren’t always present in people with the disorder.

Hidden, or quiet, BPD occurs when symptoms of BPD are present, but internalized (Healthline, 2020). Because symptoms of hidden BPD are not displayed outwardly, it can be difficult for someone without BPD to understand that a friend, partner, or family member’s actions are due to borderline personality disorder and not a toxic personality or a different mental disorder like anxiety.

Disclaimer: Do not use this video as a self-diagnosis. But If you see yourself with these symptoms, it's best to consult a professional.

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Writer: Carley Swanson-Garro
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Minh Nguyen
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:

Berenson, K.R., Gregory, W.E., Glaser, E., Romirowsky, A., Rafaeli, E., Yang, X. & Downey, G. (2016). Impulsivity, rejection sensitivity, and reactions to stressors in borderline personality disorder. Cognitive Therapy & Research 40, 510–521. DOI:10.1007/s10608-015-9752-y.

Vansteelandt, K., Houben, M., Claes, L., Berens, A., Sleuwaegen, E., & Kuppens, P. (2020). Self-criticism and dependency predict affective variability in borderline personality disorder: An ecological momentary assessment study. Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment, 11(4), 270–279. DOI: 10.1037/per0000374.

If you have a story to share about your BPD, feel free to anonymously share with us here:

[Psychgo]

If you suffer from BPD, do you identify with these? Can you help promote this video to spread more awareness on BPD if you feel we did a good job describing it.

[rosywinx]

when a yt channel cares more about your mental well-being than your own family does

[lizard]

"get diagnosed by a mental health professional."

my family's financial status says no.

[rc]

I lost my younger brother, my only sibling to undiagnosed BPD this year. After losing him, it became like a mission of my life to find out what went wrong and that’s when I came across something called BPD. When I learnt about the symptoms, I was devastated. Devastated because my brother exhibited all the said symptoms and yet we could not figure out what was happening to him.

Knowledge and awareness about different brain disorders should be made mandatory in schools so we do not lose our loved ones

[nightfall]

My mom has BPD and it was one of the reasons my parents fought and split pretty early.
I got over that at some point but I'm starting to think I might've inherited it but I'm scared to get diagnosed honestly
I wanted to get diagnosed for depression and anxiety before to get help but I learned how to deal with it better so I didn't go but I'm realizing some things now and I'm pretty sure it's more than that

[badwolfchelsea]

Getting help is unfortunately more difficult than everyone seems to think it is.

Edit: I was not just specifically referring to getting help for BPD. It's hard to get help for EVERY mental illness.

[basham]

I’m afraid that my parents would just tell me that I’m being irrational. So I can never tell them about my mental problems.

[oliviajean]

Honestly, I’m not one to self diagnose. But watching this makes a lot of sense to why I’m acting the way I am. Been struggling with major depression and anxiety for years. But lately I have been very angry with my family members even if it wasn’t even something to be angry about! Making Christmas cookies with my sister and I didn’t follow the directions the proper way. She told me I didn’t do it right and this sense of anger took over me. It was almost like I wasn’t in control of what I was saying. I was just… angry. Ended up destroying my room and punched holes in the wall. Felt a great sense of guilt afterwards. And felt that my family would be better off without me. I felt like 5 different emotions within a span of 10 minutes. I don’t want to be like this. I don’t know why I am like this. It hurts my loved ones. They just think I’m straight up mean. I know it’s something much deeper inside me. I just need help but can’t talk to anyone about it, because I hate opening up like that.

[tearypoppy]

I really appreciated the ending part about how BPD affects everyone differently and not everyone has the same symptoms, all symptoms, or experience them in the same way/same amount of time/intensity as others. That's been one of the hardest things for me to come to terms with since my diagnosis. I keep comparing myself to others with BPD and I think to myself "Oh... I'm not 1:1 with this description/experience...I don't have this, my doctor is a quack and I'm just sensitive and need to get a grip."
So hearing that really made me feel validated. Thank you.

[mikaisno]

Me : hey I’ve been worried about a lot of things and I-

Mom : just don’t worry

[Angel-wgvd]

It’s so sad when you can’t even talk about your problems to your parents bc their answer is always just don’t worry or just don’t be sad

[sage-omyb]

I have been researching bpd for the last year, because strongly suspect I have it, I experience all the symptoms, and I am suffering, and keeping it all in is killing me. I am now reaching out for help, and I am hoping to enter a diagnosis process with a licensed mental health professional, to find out what the hell is wrong with me, and how I can have a better quality of life in the future.

[j.stonehouse]

I was diagnosed with BPD. Years of therapy helped me notice when I'm over stimulated, or when I'm about to go into a depressive mood; which helps me prepare myself and my partner.

[kayleybishop]

“plz reach out to a professional” yeah sure first i have to convince my narcissistic parents they aren’t perfect and i’m not just looking for attention 🤪🥳

[gurmail]

I randomly found this channel and started watching it everyday

[isleep]

I finally found a therapist who specializes in BPD. I’ve never been so relieved and felt more heard in my life.

[chlanders]

I’ve been dealing with clInically diagnosed BPD/Bipolar disorder for about a decade now. It took a long time with many different medicines, psychiatrists and therapists, hospitalizations, and growth opportunities to get where I am now. The best advice I can give is to be honest with yourself and others, acknowledge and express your emotions, find useful coping strategies and use them, don’t be afraid to ask for and receive help (you are not a burden), and schedule time for yourself. Also, realize that any medicine or care you get won’t “fix” your disorder or make it go away, only help lessen the symptoms, so it is not an end-all be-all. Keep fighting the good fight peeps

[sme]

me after watching this video: wtf i might have bpd.

my brain: nah its not that deep bro. ur being dramatic get over it.

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot, and you’ll survive whatever is coming.”
― Robert Tew

[Hannah.hanan]

Y'all can think whatever you want of me but I find her voice so sweet and relaxing that sometimes I watch her videos to sleep 😭😭😭😭