Are There Any Quick Signs That Indicate Borderline Personality Disorder? #shorts

[JAYDUBYAH]

Sound like this is for clinicians. For someone in the dating pool, I would say—watch out for super quick idealizing, fluid boundaries, unearned intimacy, followed by being very easily hurt and reactive when disappointed in small ways.

[TinyMelon]

My thought when you said, "What are the stakes?" was "Everything."

[danajaye]

We can heal. Borderline IMO is a coping reaction to intense childhood trauma. A result of cPTSD. An unstable and abusive and neglectful childhood is a root cause for mine. Facing absolute abandonment, being forced to practice self care and even self salvation, turning the focus from caring for others to understanding self, relieving those traumas that altered self perception, learning to identify and regulate- not repress- emotions. There can be improvement in connection and regulation. We do not have to vacillate between extremes. We do not have to act instantly and attempt to control our environment.

Understanding leads to accommodation which leads to acceptance. Fear is diminished as you survive what once terrified you. Disassociation becomes objectivity. Anxiety is refocused into productivity. We will never be our fantasy version of ourselves, but we don’t have to suffer severely and constantly.

Exposure therapy, overwriting experiences, reframing language to ourselves and others. Authentic communication. These are all learnable.

You survive what doesn’t kill you. A win is a win.

[SonyCamry]

over sharing information, love bombing, over sexualization, crying over small things, very sensitive to rejection, history of going from partner to partner / bad relationships

[tosanesoko]

Abandonment issues is a predominant symptom of borderline personality disorder

[JennyNobody]

I recently ended a codependent relationship. As a borderline there is part of me that feels I’m just being hyperbolic in my reasoning. In this case that isn’t true, but it’s interesting how it can cloud judgment in either direction in relationships - in my experience

[daryl]

I'm borderline but am self-aware enough to know I can't rely on anyone else for validation; it needs to come from within. Doesn't stop Mr from feeling that my life is ending. But intellectually I know that is my disorder speaking.

[Bacchante]

Nowadays, the stakes would be my overall wellbeing. I am reluctant to enter any new relationships because I have been put through hell by people over and over and over. I just wanted my happy/healthy family + circle of friends. Now I give up and avoid 99% of everyone.

[pedronorman]

I’ve come to the conclusion that he makes these short clips shortly after a new patient leaves his office in which he performs this exact differential diagnostic process. He’s walking us through his thought process as much for our benefit as his own.

[charmee]

This is excellent. The first few dates all he talked about was if "this" didn't work he was all done with relationships, blah blah blah, I was replaced after 2 weeks. Wish I had seen this years ago.

[yesiamsharon]

This is very logical. I understand the example well.

[janetspell]

Love DR. Grande and watch his channel all of the time. Learned a lot!

[LuneyTune]

I agree with this but it's more likely to be for someone really early on in a relationship (first week or month) and shouldn't be taken at face value for long-term relationships (a year or more). Of course there are people who have a lot stake with losing a loving, long-term relationship who may say things hyperbolic because of how much they love their significant other. Imagine you lived together, shared a pets or had kids, were married, or whatever else that has some higher stakes. That can feel like a world ending scenario to lose. Also, some relationships may be with someone who is dealing with a lot of their own life problems (loss of a loved one, deep financial issues, etc.) that may make a big break-up more catastrophic.

I have dated women with borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. They were actually not as dependent at first. They also weren't as vocal about controlling me until they knew I was a provider or a trustworthy partner. I let myself get taken advantage of out being "too nice" and feeling guilty and responsible for them, and my heart was forgiving. It's a loop, a cycle that is hard to break until you physically find a way to leave (you move) or you've burnt out the relationship. Years of my life wasted because I was being gaslit and being made to feel responsible for their well being on a day to day basis.

[RajaMCool]

Explosive anger and constant arguments with others seems to indicate BPD in men. Also males with BPD tend to have difficulty identifying and labeling emotions. They also engage in risky behavior like binge drinking and sexual promiscuity often.

[CAborn]

These shorts are great!!! Thanks Dr. Grande

[gretchenbond]

I have a friend who has been diagnosed as bipolar but I truly think he has borderline personality. As I understand it, the two can be easily misdiagnosed.

[BengalCatChilli]

Dr Grande, do you find it hard to turn off your psychologist brain during regular social interactions?

[mrsdrhux]

Nice transition Dr G.. See what you did with becoming ultra relevant to all ages.. These snippets of info will reach a massive audience.. Well done and good thinking batman ❤

[jeanettecameron]

Good point. What is at stake? A lot can be ascertained from an answer to that question.

[nicolejttmom]

Dr. Grande is so wholesome, calming and wise. If you combined an owl with a Xanax bar, that is the effect he has on me. And I love all 3 from afar.