6 Signs Your Partner Might Be Struggling With Bpd

BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder. A borderline personality disorder is a mental illness that affects someone's ability to manage their emotions. If you notice that your partner might be showing signs of emotional instability or suicidal tendencies, we hope this video can help you develop awareness and knowledge on BPD.

Dating someone with BPD can be both rewarding and challenging, and understanding the signs is crucial for fostering a healthy and supportive relationship.

Writer: Sidney Thompson
Editor: Michal Mitchell
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Thumbnail Designer: Zuzia
Project Managed By: Geo Gao
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Disclaimer: this video is not intended to diagnose anyone with a condition and is for informative purposes only. Only a qualified professional can properly assess someone for a personality disorder.

[Psychgo]

Can you guys help do us a favour? If this video is helpful, can you share it? We feel a topic like this needs more awareness than our other vids. Yep ironically these topics don’t get as much interest on YouTube.

[HashiKyo]

My boyfriend has BPD. We're high school sweethearts. We dated in high school and early college and that's where i experienced his BPD. We broke up after 5 1/2 years. We were apart for several years after that. We tried a couple more times between 2012 and 2016 but nothing ever stuck. We started really talking again in 2019. Found out he got diagnosed with BPD while we were apart. He went to lots of therapy and took meds. Well now i can say we've been dating for over 2 years now and he is better than ever! He has learned to manage it with just what he learned through therapy and no meds. I'm very proud of him and with how far he's come in 10 years. We really do love each other and I'm very supportive of him and his mental health and he is the same on to me. We are each other's support system and the best cheerleader to each other. ❤
Edit: Just wanted to let everyone know that we're engaged now and we couldn't be more confident in each other and happy! I truly hope that other people who have BPD can have the same story as us. There is hope! 🥰

[anthonywhite]

If you have bpd, stay strong! Remember you are not alone and there’s resources out there to help. You matter, and you are loved!❤️❤️

[D__S]

As someone who dated someone who told me they have BPD, this is all true, and something that I personally had dealt with in regards to our break up.

[Hades-csql]

I have bpd and at the beginning of my relationship I had to make a promise to myself that I wouldn't end my relationship because of my insecurities.
It's been hard and I've had so many painful ups and downs but I have an amazing partner who's always stuck it out with me and we've been in this relationship for a little over a year. But that promise to myself definitely helped me when I didn't feel good enough or thought she'd be better with some one else and when she ghosted me (in my head) I had to hold on and I'm just so lucky that she never took advantage of that and is genuinely just a nice good person ☺️🥰❤

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). What is BPD 0:28
2). Let's talk about abandonment 1:24
3). They seem hot and cold 2:19
4). Their moods shift quickly 3:48
5). They have a history of rocky relationships 4:52

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[portableface]

seeing these negative comments about dating people with bpd makes me sad and i cant imagine how people with bpd feel when they see them. i am dating someone with bpd and yes, some days are hard, but they are so loving and thoughtful and their sensitivity means they understand me like no one else. the hard days do not outweigh the love i have for my boyfriend. his bpd does not define him and it doesn’t define you either <3

[Bomberdumb]

I whom is diagnosed with BPD can just agree with everything in this video! Thank you for this, BPD needs to be talked about more.

[cecilia]

My psychiatrist once said about splitting that the devaluation and idealization seems to come from a perspective that we as people with bpd have on ourselves, projected on who's around. Basically meaning that as my self image shifts constantly and with that my self esteem, going from good, to very high, to very low, to acceptable, to the worst etc I then see the people around me through these lens, always, ending up treating them as I feel about myself. I found it really interesting but I would love to hear other perspectives too!

[Psychgo]

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[liamward]

thanks for putting this video together; it's a bit of a relief knowing that other people have gone through some of the same phases themselves, or experienced similar things with their partners as well. before I get to my story, I know there's a lot of stigma and misinformation surrounding people who suffer from BPD, and I wanna make it clear that not everyone with the diagnosis is like the person I'm about to bring up.

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with somebody who had BPD a few years ago. the first month or so felt like a dream I didn't wanna wake up from; I mean, it wasn't perfect, but it was the first time I'd ever felt like I was truly being loved romantically, and she assured me that the feeling was mutual. the next 2 months were complete and utter HELL. I dunno if I got "split" but she'd disappear and wouldn't say a word to me for days about 2 weeks after I brought up something she did around Christmas that made me uncomfortable. then, days turned into weeks, and weeks turned into months, and I was just hoping, praying that things would go back to the way they were and that she was gonna be alright. turned out the 2 months she left me high and dry, she was busy sleeping with other people 🙃

[PhoenixfromCanada]

I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder 1 & 2 in 2008. Then, in 2016, I was diagnosed with BPD, Social and General anxiety. I have taken treatment such Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with great success. However, I have found a repeat trigger that causes my BPD to rear its head is my mother. I've discovered that if I don't include her, my BPD is not triggered, and I don't have to ride that Ferris wheel roller coaster through the dark maze of emotions. ❤

[bvnny]

It’s wild how this video popped up in the notifications just now, just when I needed this exact type of video.

[emilyremington]

Finally a great video on BPD and explaining how we truly feel. I see things that make me cry because it's so hurtful and mean to a disorder I have no control over. This video made me cry because I finally found a video I feel truly heard. I love your videos you're truly amazing.

[ledoge]

knew someone with bpd and this is dead on how she was. I wasn't perfect and tried my best but.... the splits, the sudden changes.... I really tried but nothing was ever enough for her and in the end she's gone. Just hope that she is well and getting the help needed for herself even though things ended badly between us

[thebigvega]

I dated someone with BPD and it was the sweetest but hardest relationship i ever had, seriously mess me up for years, had to go to therapy for quite sometime

[sugaryberry]

My ex had untreated BPD, it got really bad in our relationship and i cpuldn't help him. I struggled a lot about idealization and devaluation, until both of us couldn't deal with it anymore.

[darlinqq_]

unfortunately i dont have the resources right now to start therapy but in the future its one of my top priorities, ive already started working on myself in the forms of self regulation and boosting my self-esteem and over all taking care of myself, its quite hard but im proud that im making this progress even without a therapist (i was diagnosed but cannot find a suitable therapist since they all just kind of always paint me in a bad light simply for having the disorder)

[AJinTheTardisss]

My ex has BPD. It’s been almost four years since we broke up. Still haven’t fully recovered from that relationship. Haven’t dated anyone since

[hannahcichon]

I'm really glad that quiet BPD symptoms were addressed in the video. It's often overlooked. I personally internalize everything and either blame myself or hold resentment for another person, but i wouldn't lash out like others with the same diagnosis. I've been taking meds and have been in therapy for 10 years and I can honestly say it helps. I used to be very toxic and now can better manage my symptoms and take accountability for my actions, regardless of why. Thank you for such an informative video!