How do narcissists choose a partner? Do they really target empaths? | The Narcissists' Code 587

How do narcissists choose a partner? Do they intentionally target empaths?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[yvonnebond]

💯 it’s OUR lack of boundaries and poor self esteem and whatever other weaknesses that USERS just EXPLOIT. It’s OUR OWN responsibility to work on ourselves to strengthen those areas of weakness so that others don’t continue to do the same.

[suzanne]

@Mental Healness. And that's where the problem began, for me. I had Zero boundaries, people-pleaser, Empath extraordinaire 😂 and. I had been single for 4 years deliberately due to a DV relationship. And was raised by a narcissistic, physically abusive father ---
So, yeah. I was his perfect target.
( not Victim, Target. )

[nataliegrayhandle]

Exactly they were always trying me bring me down a notch with my business and everything

[ark]

Truth-if you have strong boundaries it will be a non-starter. Absolutely the truth and prevented me from getting involved with someone...and so glad I did I noticed their bs. Also....empath sheild smudge lmfao! I bet ppl buy that like crazy.

[traceydixon]

He wouldn't never have anybody this good again

[sweetbabycherae]

My soon to be ex narc husband told me he stalked me for months before he approached me.

[joannewilkins]

Yeah that makes sense. Because there is that entitlement that narcissists have so of course they will push boundaries and if you are a partner with strong boundaries the narcissist would be turned off because you aren’t accommodating them so they move onto the next person that will.

[debraannedimezza]

He was definitely someone in the public guy. He’s a local celebrity singer and I was his arm candy for four years, but when I started getting more attention than he did, that’s when it started getting ugly.

[vjsnvvs]

I sought out my Narcissistic person, not knowing he was a Narc. I reconnected with him after several years and we reconnected, I had no boundaries, I was escaping to him and telling him all my personal business openly and he used it against me in many ways. I was escaping a 25 year relationship with my sons father that was extremely Narcissistic and jumped right into another Narc situationship not knowing the new guy was a Narc too.

[mortischahicks]

My ex narc was attractive to me because I was beautiful and I had a house several cars my PhD and that's what he wanted. And a good job!

[ashleighberryman]

A narc will feel entitled to the same admiration and submission of their siblings spouse sometimes. One of my SIL’s went far enough to mirror her brother’s (my husbands) behavior toward me to a point that I felt the need to question their sexuality (all 3 single, two of them also mothers). It was as if they did not understand those actions/gestures from their brother came from genuine love for someone, not a means to an end. They actually questioned why he treated me so well when I added nothing to his life 🙄. It’s like they had no idea that how they were acting toward me was unsettling, like they were trying to steal me from my husband.

[DoesItReallyMatter]

*sniff sniff* “mmm I think the empaths are downwind today. “

I busted out laughing, Lee 😅😂😂

[laravladimir]

Some one who is weak . Timid and they can be better than in everything. No way a narcissist wants their partners to be happy and thriving

[karenkennedy]

It’s hard to believe that he chose me, and the poem he wrote me before marriage I threw out! I had a lot of imperfections, he took advantage of them, I was very insecure! Discovering he is sn covert Narcississtic and not trying to make this work was the turning point.

[annstar]

I want a scent called patbological narcissist repellant. Oh wait- thats called strong ass boundaries!!!

[traceydixon]

Thanks for your videos. Never no more narcissist

[debraannedimezza]

When I first met my entertainer, narcissist, boyfriend, he was very aloof very coy very Chris magic wanted to know all about me. We were talk hours about me that should’ve been my red flag as the months went on. Our first real argument was three or four months into the relationship when I confronted with with, something that I felt was wrong. He went off on me like Grant took Richmond I knew when I met you you had red flags. I should’ve walked away. I should’ve known you were going to be like this. I’m standing here with my mouth hanging open be like what loving and supportive, he turned it around on me and then he said to me like no I wasn’t gonna be my old ways. I said give it time. She’s a good girl, so three months into the relationship. I was already questioning myself going. What is wrong with me, and this snowballed into a four year toxic relationship the end of me on the floor in fetal position for three weeks after our break up with my family had to carry me into a therapist office. This man destroyed me physically spiritually emotionally and financially.

[anjel]

Mine targeted me. He came after me for money. Fact... An imposter, posing as someone else 🤯🥴💔💔💔

[debraannedimezza]

By the last seven weeks we were together I ended up being worse than he was I didn’t even know who I was anymore. I didn’t even think I had the capability of saying and doing the stuff I was doing and it was because of him I had to go into mental survival mode And I ended up becoming him so now he’s out there saying I was a toxic person. He’s playing the poor narcissist victim, out in public amongst our mutual friends

[stringerchick]

They would have to acknowledge that empathy exist which they don't so...