Why do some narcissists pick fights? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 693

why do some narcissists pick fights? a few different reasons why your narcissistic or toxic partner will start fights on purpose.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[liljerseygirl]

I hate the fighting, it's usually something stupid, and they will push & push to get you to react. Just so stressful.

[sweetoneloves]

They pick fights so they can BELITTLE the person they are arguing with, they SPIT FIRE with words of hurting the person they are raging on. This really lifts their ego. After they leave the victim hurt, they love it to see how low they pushed you down. This is power for them. Thank GOD I am NARC AND TOXIC FREE FROM THEM.

[maddigotthatchalk]

It was beyond exhausting having someone pick fights with me over anything and everything. It’s like their ultimate goal was to just make me miserable. Like if they only realized how stupid it is that they are wasting so much time causing chaos for absolutely no explanation.

[sweetynice]

I THANK GOD when young I was taught to IGNORE & LEAVE them. Best advice taken, & I found out the SHAME they feel when they are ignored.

[tranquility]

The innermost part of themselves is a dark, black, endlessly empty hole. They want others to feel empty and miserable too.

[blen]

They pick fights because they know no one can be totally in control of their emotions all the time. Boundaries are great, but we're also human. That's why (my opinion) their fights come out of the blue. My narc would wait until everybody in the house went to sleep before she'd rage out and tear the roof off the house. Scared us half to death because the episodes were so unexpected! Got to the point where nobody slept for fear of not knowing what she'd do. Glad I got out. Hope you all will too!!!

[marylu]

They're sadistic and love to see you squirm and because they love attention even if its negative. They also like to know they can still control your emotions. but how dare your call them out!!🤦🏻‍♀️

[mortischahicks]

My ex narc used to do that to me. Pick an argument before I go to work everyday.

[southerncatlady]

It's an endless fight. And you can never win. They will say ANYTHING to get to you. And you can NEVER prove them wrong, no matter how much proof you have.
However, I am working HARD on not reacting. It is definitely hard. But I WILL get it right!

[sherylW]

The last argument in my marriage was over a dust bunny that I missed while vacuuming -it became WWIII and I finally said Peace Out . No more . Do yourself a huge favor and keep those raging voicemails. Play them back when you start to miss him

[melisentiapheiffer]

Yep. I'm doing a great job of not reacting to unnecessary information spewed by the narcissist. It's making him look like the real negative one...😂

[chloelageaux]

They pic fights for entertainment and manipulation. I honestly believe that some Narcs get bored so it's entertaining to get the other person all riled up. Afterwards, they leave, then return for further manipulation.

[chibirosequeen]

My ex best friend loves picking fights with me for no reason and made me feel insecure about myself. Next minute, we having a great day, and then as soon as I get home, here he comes calling me to start an argument and pick fights with me. After dealing with that for 9 years, trying to put him in his place, giving him benefit of the doubts, setting boundaries with him, and I just got tired of him. I was never scared of him cuz he knows that if he ever tries to do anything to me, he knows I will come back to beat his ass or I call the police.

[nomadic_orthodox]

My narc mother needs fights to survive. Over the years I realised she can't survive without fighting. So, if everything is too peaceful she sets up a fight. Only when she can create a mess she's satisfied. But of course, she claims to need harmony.

[marionokumu]

This resonates with me. My birthday is in two days and already I can see the chaos and peace distort ideas he is trying to create. Thanks so much for shedding light on this disorder. God bless you.

[tmichele]

He literally did start a fight, after just laughing and joking. It was so bad the spit was flying from his mouth1/1/23. I was so confused. I stood in silence thinking something is off.. as I got in my car and drove, minutes later he texted “ I’m missing you already “ wtf.. no sir I’m out.

[debbiecarleton]

Mine is cuz he has no life it doesn't work if he's not fighting with me he's fighting with mom

[Zeepjeliefs]

I think it's because they see everything as a competition and they need to feel they are winning and you are losing.

[melaniea]

Mine did when he had plans with one of his other suppliers so he could leave to “cool off”!

[Rat_Queen]

OK, so I have legitimately cut my nephew off for trying to start fights over nothing.
He accused me of being passive aggressive for asking him to confirm his phone number? This happened last week and I’m still puzzled as to what they heck happened.
I basically said ‘I’m not doing this with you’ and left.
It just strikes me as SO weird that this group start fights over nothing to get a rise out of people.
I thinks it’s so they can demonise you and paint themselves as the victim if you react.