Why overly empathic people are irresistible to narcissists

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[hardworkingslacker]

The perverse thing is that narcissists actually believe that they are giving, giving, giving and never getting anything in return.

[Andromeda_M]

When you grew up abused you're hyper vigilant of your surroundings (other's emotions or mood) because your survival depended on it. In adults it makes us preoccupied anxious, people pleasers and nurturers. With no self awareness and boundaries you're a walking narc magnet.

[vicbaker]

The overly empathic person is not cynical enough to notice red flags, so tend to miss most of them.

[UNKNOWN-]

"a very empathic person hates the idea that someone can't benefit from love and compassion" that hits hard😢thank you!!

[krisxxxxw]

I am empathetic but I have come to realise that some people still spit in your face even after all the love and compassion you have shown them. It takes courage to stand up for yourself and it’s really scary, but I am working on it. Thank you for the videos you make.

[marniegrohs]

That moment when you realize some people use sob stories to twist your emotions to sway, do something, or entitlement to get away with everything.

[nelumbonucifera]

Empaths provide unlimited supply of acceptance, forgiveness and selflessness, which is the perfect fuel for Narcs to thrive. We never give up on others and are constantly taking the responsibility for others’ happiness and trying to fix broken people. You are absolutely right about noticing the Narc’s abusive manipulation after children come into the picture, Dr Ramani. I was always fighting for my children’s rights with my Narc husband, while at the same time, never stood up for myself.

[NarcSurvivor]

People who are deficient in something have to take from those who have plenty to give.

[zionmoses]

Lots of love from a scapegoat in India !!!!

[Hundredacredaycare]

It’s crazy the damage one person can do to you Thank you Dr ❤️🙏🏻❤️

[lrm]

That's why I live alone. I've learned to discern what people's agendas are. I am empathic. And that's a good thing. But, it's painful, letting go of so many people.
There are some I do keep in relationships, but at a very long length.
Now, I'm trying to learn how to love me.
And, yes, I'm a narcissists magnet. It's amazing!
Thank you Dr. Ramani, for validating what I intrinsically know, but didn't know why or how to deal with my gift.

[kellylough]

T H A N K Y O U
The worst battle that I ever fought was between what I knew and what I felt.
Introspection is now my focus on my path to personal growth.

[hopesf]

On this earth, I am the only one who is responsible to take care of my needs.

[reboundingfromnarcissistic]

Our gift of empathy in combination with the lack of knowledge of narcissism is what keeps us trapped in the void of darkness.

Growing up I was bullied for caring for people and animals by my narcissistic family.

Hope that the narcissist will one day change is what keeps us locked in.

Empaths, now is the time to have patience and compassion with ourselves.

Remember the narcissist will never be able to express or feel empathy. And that is a terrible thing.

We were abused because we are the ones with true power. We just didn’t realize it at the time. Love you all!

[khalilgareeboo]

I realise I am an empath who had no sense of boundaries that has attracted narcissist in the past. Now I've learnt to practice self compassion & set boundaries

[colleenmayes]

Describing me. Empath not narc. Took many years to stop losing myself to trying to save others. Thought I could fix them if I loved them enough.

[bad_egg]

Suddenly i felt like doctor is describing me. 😣 I learned my lesson on a hard way. Now once i sense a narc, i stay away asap. no to bs again.

[rubymyluv]

"Second chances again and again and again."
Before I found Dr Ramani I didn't understand what was going on. I have been enabling and contributing to the escalation of my narc. I am in the eye of the storm with my new understanding of what has been going on. The turmoil is real. I'm exhausted.

[m.v.]

Dr. Ramani i believe you have saved many people alot of pain with this information. This series has helped open my eyes to so much abuse i should have not endured. No one understands or validates my pain at least now i can value myself enough to try and not let family or other people use me. At my age the emotional pain has literally turned into intense physical pain plus all my injuries have flared up and i struggle on a daily basis to do simple tasks. God bless you for your efforts to make everone realize they have worth and recognize abuse.

[nicholesise]

I lost myself in a narcissist marriage. I became a shell and had allowed myself to be destroyed, finally repairing my dignity, my self esteem, and my peace of mind and learning to forgive myself for becoming someone I don’t recognize. After the marriage it seemed that every relationship I attempted to go into there was an echo of familiarity of what I had struggled to get out of. Now, I can not tell who is genuine and who is not. At this time it feels safer to be alone….it’s too bad because I have a desire to be around people but I am also scared.