Narcissistic Parents: Why They Cast You As The Problem of The Family

In this video, I discuss why you were always cast as the scapegoat and the problem of the family.

Learning about this will help you finally resist and overcome this damaging and painful role, allowing you to be who you really are, no matter how much others attempt to scapegoat and unjustly blame you.

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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self.

****DISCLAIMER: THIS VIDEO IS NOT INTENDED TO SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. BE SURE TO CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL TO HELP YOU INTEGRATE AND UTILIZE THESE CONCEPTS.****

[jerrywise]

Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇

[mariadaquila]

When you don’t care about what they think, you gain absolute freedom. It’s a great feeling😊

[singstreetcar]

Its so painful when they turn the entire extended family against u. Cousins, uncles and aunties believing the gossip and lies they tell about u.

[AthenaVelecta]

Something i have started telling myself when dealing with narcissistic individuals like my mother is" You can't reason with the unreasonable."

[EricNorthman-hf]

My parents never changed. They don't change. I didnt know how to handle them. I actually didnt find out how bad my mother was for YEARS. She was a covert. Terrible.

[carmenpentek-meyyappan]

Interesting situation here: I have been the scapegoat for years and now, after all the "good people" have died, I have been offered the position of the "Golden child". Know what? No, thanks 😂

[Ariadne-kd]

So basically it's an unintended compliment to be chosen as the scapegoat!

[AprilSummers-umtf]

If they see the potential in you to have a better life than they had, they will try to sabotage you in every possible way even after you leave the home.

[ginarobichaux]

It’s very challenging to not be angry.

[sharonjones]

Neither will change. Gotta go. Save myself.

[jeankipper]

Sometimes he'd say, "I didn't say you did it. I said we're blaming you." Usually punishment followed, often they amused themselves so much they got less mad. Nasty people.

[lesterstone]

Narcissistic co-workers often exhibit these behaviors for the same reasons.

[flyingeaglewoman]

The biggest change for me- I no longer allow others to define me. I no longer need others approval nor validation. Trying to change others is definitely a losing proposition, but changing ourselves is definitely something we can accomplish. I found freedom from these insane dynamics by focusing on my own spiritual beliefs and needs. Blaming, shaming, name calling and bullying others are manipulative and disgusting tactics to control people in to submission. Especially when it comes to politics.. and from politicians/bureaucrats and their minions. Take care and stay safe everyone. Thank you Jerry, very good and useful information to help people make sense of crazy dynamics.

[RedRubyStones]

I've had relatives come up to me now as an adult, to tell me that they could see how differently I was treated aside from my siblings all throughout my childhood.

[olekobethepinheadedboy]

And if you are married and have no siblings, the narc parent will deflect blame onto your spouse.

[betenoireindustries]

😅 no scapegoat ever has any question as to their 'role' in the toxic family system. they know it from day 1.

[Mudpie]

I recall when my mother realized I was being molested with as a child she punished me for it severely but never took me to the Dr. then I recall as a young teenager when I had a bad experience at prom and told her about my date took advantage she was all about taking me to the Dr. to check me all over and then declared now that you been with someone I would want to do it all the time she turned it around as if she was the hero admonishing me to the Dr. on how I made the biggest mistake with my life and on how disappointed she was with me. Really messed with my sense of being.

[kelvinjames]

They hate the one who speak out about them

[stevenhuntley]

I'm only a problem until context is added, then I'm "guilt tripping" 😂

Is it a wonder i left?

[gracieb.]

I just want to say, you're amazing. Thank you so much for this info. I haven't heard an explanation for these behaviors quite like you have. You are making a real difference.