8 Characteristics of a Malignant Narcissist

As we begin to talk about the primary characteristics that go into the making of malignant narcissism, remember that the narcissist tends to be very controlling. They have to have their own way in many different kinds of arenas. A narcissist doesn’t bother taking much time or effort to try to understand you, because they have a low level of empathy.

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[Abe-rznm]

1. Antisocial
2. Shun authority and accountability
3. Ruthless
4. Impervious to any pain they generate
5. Play the victim, paranoia
6. Entitled all the time
7. Low level of guilt
8. Unable to see their own shortcomings

[maryannwilliams]

I am just recovering from an experience with a malignant narcissist. Very disturbing behavior. Didn’t see it coming. This person manipulated and deceived me from the beginning. They studied me carefully & pretended to be my friend. Exaggerated ego! This person sleeps great at night as they are wreaking havoc in people’s lives. Absolutely NO empathy! They are EVIL! Run for the hills & don’t ever look back!

[adeliawilliams]

They're incredibly dangerous. Sometimes it takes an act of God to escape their obsessive control.

[maidmarion]

I was married to a MN for thirty years. The thing is he was such a good actor. Academy award winning actor. And still is. People wonder how they get drawn into this. These nasty people watch you closely and know exactly what to do to make you obey them. Manipulation, covert bullying, blackmail, playing on your fears... they have a whole catalogue. All hidden under concern for you, the ideal family man, the ideal friend to you. He’s so nice everyone agrees, such a nice helpful man. It just all doesn’t add up to their actual actions. They cannot be truthful, cannot stick to agreements, constantly very carefully make you anxious and doubt yourself. Hate it when you are happy and have to squash it. Give all their attention to other women and treat you as if you don’t exist certainly don’t matter. Twist all truths. Everything they do is seen through the lens of their monstrous ego. He once told me that his sole purpose in life was to destroy me. I laughed it was so dramatic. I didn’t think anyone said things like that and meant it. Years later, I know He meant it. If someone tells you who they are, believe them

[Chris-tgqy]

They make your skin crawl and give you the creeps. They have absolutely no shame regarding how low they will go to ruin your reputation and lie if needed. However, if they want something from you, they can turn on the charm.

[betsyhood]

My father was a narc, but my brother is a malignant narc. I'm in the process of cutting him out of my life, to the point of selling out and moving from our beautiful family property. Life is too short to spend it near one of these freaks.

[angelvisitor]

The Narcs i've met who held high positions in church have been some of the most malignant narcs.

[ritanmartinez]

Malignant Narcissists injure their targets in ways that are often not punishable by the law. Devious and dangerous to a frightening degree. Their victims are left with no redress.

[JohnLeaf]

Once I screamed at my narcissistic ex because it was already affecting my mental health that day I finished, when I screamed at her her mask fell for a moment and I could see how real her personality is, you will not believe it, it is a child in the body of a woman, a child's smile, a child's way, they wear a mask to look like adults, in fact they have a child's psyche and abuse is nothing less than a game for them, like "ringing the bell" from the neighbor "you know ... it is something surreal if you see what they are like inside the urge to throw up. Do not cherish love for these creatures. They are definitely not adults yet they are children I can't explain.

[sirenachantal]

It's heartbreaking - especially when it's one of your parents. The abuse they suffered, and then the genetics on top of that. It's like loving a lion - sometimes the only self-protection is to stay away.

[cymbolichuman]

He looked me in the eye and said "I'll break you" and I said "good luck".
All because I refused to fulfill his demands which were impractical to say the least.

[carols.]

Had a malignant narcissist as a co-worker. She fought with everyone. She had to be in control. She did what she wanted, when she wanted, did not follow the rules, and when called out on her behavior, she’d cry and blame us for not accepting her. She was spiteful and vindictive and she targeted people. She was one of the most horrible people I have ever known. She was also a chronic liar.

[americanpatriot]

You are absolutely correct and it’s so important that you shared this with us. These people are dangerous! I know firsthand. I got away! They are like a cat playing with a mouse. They don’t kill the mouse because they need it because it’s useful to them. Don’t be that mouse! Run!!

[kinokodze]

So on point. 3rd week no contact. Still hard, but I’m glad I’m not with a psycho anymore

[stephaniepalazzo]

You said it, they will not be reformed. Don’t try!

[achdance]

You, Dr. Grande and Dr. Ramani helped me through hell and high waters with a narc. As a normal person, you cannot change that narc situation until you understand that you will never change the narc. Once I knew what was at stake, I ran for the hills....the gaslighting part was the worst. They simply do anything to protect their persona. Don't give a damn. Run. You have your clear conscience and you know what is right or wrong. Run!

[christinahall]

I have known narcissists but thank God I never lived with one. My heart aches for all of you whose lives are entangled with these soul destroying creatures ❤️

[Threshk]

To this day, I regret not pressing charges against the malignant narc who verbally assaulted me, threatened and intimidated me, and even convinced one his flying monkeys to physically assault me.

This malignant narc was the manager of the gym that I was a paying member of. I regret not suing the fuck out of his gym and forcing them to pay for therapy to treat the long-lasting trauma his abuse inflicted on me.

This assault happened over ten years ago, but I'm so traumatized I still get daily flashbacks to what happened. I hate myself for not suing them.

[heroreturns]

Learning about narcissism has made this life so much clearer. I used to think I didn't fit in and there was something wrong with me. I didn't get why there is so much abuse, even from people that are supposed to help us. Recognising narcissism has changed everything. It doesn't matter that someone is a policeman, or a doctor - if they're a narcissist they will abuse their position to exert control over you. The world makes so much sense now, but also it makes me sad how messed up it is.

[Halpin]

Mine also told me both his ex wives told him leaving him was the biggest mistake they ever made and I’d never find anyone who loves me like he does. I’m pretty sure neither ex wanted him back and I for damn sure don’t want anyone to love me like he did.