Bialik Breakdown: Marc Maron on Narcissistic Parents. #Shorts

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[agricolaregs]

I had two narc parents. One was overt. One was covert. It took forever to see the covert was not just an enabler of my dad’s bad behavior, but she herself was a narc. She enjoyed being the good parent. She was martyring herself by staying. It fed her narcissism.

[lallyk]

I have 2 narc parents. I'm glad people are talking about this these days. For years, I felt that it was impossible to explain what was wrong with my family.

[Janesomeone]

Both of my grandparents were narcissists and my mom is/was the family scapegoat. It’s an absolute miracle she is the loving, funny, and caring woman she is today.

[aliciahubbard]

Yikes the comments here are intense.. thank you Marc and Mayim for this convo 🙏 As a child of a narcissist (maybe two?) the “you’ve got to build you” struck hard.. at 36 with a toddler, reparenting myself, healing, and “building me” is exhausting most days but I know it’s worthwhile.. we’re here to break the cycles and this is encouraging ty 🙏🙏💜

[Naomi_wella]

My mom was her childhood scapegoat and grew into a narc. My father was also his families scapegoat and was emotionally absent and a narc enabler to my stepmother. My grandmothers on both sides. Narcissistic. I was the scapegoat. I couldn’t pinpoint what was going on as a child as I was always confused. Often alone emotionally and neglected, I developed ticks which I was countlessly bullied for in school. I was withdrawn socially and had panic attacks. I even got shingles by the age of 15. My doctor said it’s rare to have it that young that it comes from anxiety. I am so proud that I finally “woke up”, by the age of 27 I started diving deep into the family dynamics and knew I wouldn’t let this happen to my kids. I have gone full no contact. And all though that first leap was so hard, for the first time I’m living. Im healthy, im happy. My families generational curse will end with me.

[KimberlyBishh]

I love this interview, it's very comforting to listen to someone who had a similar untethered childhood that affects everything today at 43

[rissabiagi]

I am realizing at 44 years young that I do not know love. I do not know how to recognize or receive it healthily.

[TheMagickalMedium]

He just NAILED my childhood, I absolutely raised myself. Both my parents and MANNNNY family members on both sides were narcissistic. Which just proves that it trickles down and TAUGHT. Excellent conversation!

[carolynkapner]

As a therapist I want to say that this is all very articulate, accurate, and efficient. They do have it coming, and the breaking of the cycle is to find compassion instead of retribution. Narcissists are not the villains the internet likes to describe. They are broken people who die lonely and unfulfilled. The way to heal from narcissistic parenting is to “build you” with acceptance and compassion for the fact that, other than adoption, your only ticket here into human life was them. They have it coming and but there’s no healing in retribution. Every spiritual tradition knows this.

[katrabbit]

I have a narcissistic father, and my mother was an addict and not around, so my dad is all I've ever known. It wasn't until a while ago in my mid 20's while in therapy that I realized the kind of man who raised me, and I've never been disappointed by that... he did what he had to do with the tools he had, and he kept my brother and I alive and out of danger by himself for our entire lives to this point. Sometimes, it felt that he was going against everyone, including himself, but he will always be a hero of mine.

[BayBaeAngel]

I had/have both too. Always nice to know you’re not alone in your experience, even though you already know that. Thanks for sharing.

[Dumbashamedloser]

damn I feel the “floating” thing, and the “not knowing how to build you” part. I wouldnt say it was necessarily my family’s fault for that, but I relate to not really knowing my identity. I did have a dead beat father though.

[lunagrace]

I got two, two narcissistic parents, and it took me years to realize that a lot of my behavioral patterns were a response to the abuse, my mind protecting itself, and a lot was due to the programing, the programing to accept their abuse and take on their faults, as if all their pain was my doing, and all their nastiness and they used me to dump all their psychological trash on me so they could feel good. . I was self-destructive for so many years but didn't understand why. Very hard to get others to believe me, but I don't care anymore, they are horrible and still expect me to comply, the whole family painted me as the bad guy for telling the truth. I don't care, they have done horrible things, said the most twisted toxic damaging things that no child should ever hear from a took me years, but it is important to speak the truth, cause if nobody's got my back and I stand alone, then I will

[Linkyloo]

I've never heard anyone explain it quite so eloquently. I've never been able to find the right words. I'm 51, and only started building myself after getting sober from alcohol 13 years ago. I'm grateful every day for the opportunity, as my sisters still suffer. Thank you 🙏 I feel so validated.

[klrworkman]

I feel for those with narcissistic parents. You can’t even confront them about it or about your feelings because then they become “the victim” and you’re “attacking them”

Stay strong 💪🏻, Try to do your own thing.

[aliceboisson]

He put in words what I 'm currently feeling

[theresagkeenan]

I love both of you ❤️ and your program. Thank you for being there for us 😊

[spankyworth]

I love hearing conversations about vital information for healing by people who are comfortable with their broken, and so with my broken. Its not our fault who our parents are/were. We heal so the monsters dont win and then for our souls trajectory. ❤❤❤❤❤

[darrenmiller]

Brilliant woman. Blossom grew up and how, lol. Bialik and her show are solid gold. Those interviews spew compassion all over! She and her friends on the show helped me through the pandemic.

[charlydoumat]

My dad is a sick narc, terrible, hurt me in every way possible. My mom a codependent sumisive woman who was always a wife and then a mother. I grew to hate them so much it is unbearable. After an insane amount of therapy I learnt to understand that I was colateral damage and that I could either stay immerse in my victimized energy or rise above them. I healed my relationship with my mom, we are cool. She is no longer married to him and she is this amazing sweet person, eager to learn new things in her 70s, kind and caring. My dad is a different story. I gave her so many opportunities, he failed me in each and every occasion. He lied, he manipulated, he never apologized, he is the victim, he is above the law, he lacks emphaty, so much so he became best friend with his younger brother who raped me for seven months when I was three years old. I just built a wall and close that cycle with my dad because I know he has a disorder and he cannot love me, nor respect me. Let alone awknowledge my pain and be on my side. When it comes to him I don't feel anything. I don't feel pain anymore but I sure don't feel any love or respect towards him. He is going through a rough patch which I could fix with a check. But "he had it coming" I couldn't care less. I already told the part of his family that I still talk to, "if he dies don't tell me because I won't spend a penny on his wake or burial. I literally don't give a fuck"