Can People with Narcissistic Traits Really Change?

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[danieb]

This is the best definition of NPD I've come across....
As a child they lose the ability to trust and empathize.
Instead they learn that people are either
A resource to be exploited or
As a threat to be neutralized.
Because SURVIVAL reduced everything down to this basic equation.

Sorry to comment so much but i feel people have really gone overboard with the term Narcissist.

[rooserroo]

This makes me sad for my husband, but not sad enough to stay in it 💔

[jessicakilby]

NPD is actually quite sad. They will never have a genuine relationship or live in reality. That’s sad to me 😞

[elisabeth]

Absolutely right...My mother was abandoned by her family at 5 years old, suddenly given away and her 4 sisters kept .... no one ever knew why....I believe my mother's NPD began with this abandonment and she's a dead child in a shell. She spent her entire life causing pain with her narcissistic mind games nearly sending me insane from the madness of her twisted thinking...a child of a narcissist also never grows into what they should been as CPTSD is often the result as it is with me.
I've physically escaped her but mentally I have a long way to go....

[Katleral]

As a parent with small children, that description breaks my heart.

[danieb]

I've known 2 people w NPD.
One was my mother who was in a Russian labor camp as a child during WII.
The other sadly an abused child beaten starved and molested who ended up in Prison before the age of 20. I believe
People whom have true NPD have seen things no human child should have to endure. The rest I believe are brats who never grew up, and are easily delt with.

[GingerAutie]

My brother is a Narcissist and he’s highly jealous of me and he tried to gaslight me, manipulate me and to push me down. I dunno why and I don’t give a shit anymore. I just want to be left alone by his bs

[CrazyMouadBasketball]

I was able to get rid of all my narcissistic traits just by cutting off the toxic people around me (friends, family, gf) and today I can be who I really am…I’m a strong empathetic person who overcame everything.

Reading about psychology and working on self-improving is maybe my favourite thing to do now

[Rasheens-Story]

I don’t believe there is any hope for people with narcissistic personality disorder because my mom is living proof that those people can’t be fixed. They just pretend for a little bit and then resort back to their old ways.

[lisalambert]

I had a lot of narcissistic traits and tendencies from being raised in that environment. I have been working on me, I had no idea of so many things or that the way I behaved was wrong, knowing nothing else, I started my healing journey in Sept 2013 and I am still peeling layers of that onion, but I am definitely not the same person I was before, I am trying to find my true self.
That being said it has to be driven by the person, not the people around them, it can’t be forced and it takes time and a lot of hard work. My therapist told me a couple years in that she was surprised every time I came back because she don’t know if she could have dug that hard and faced some of the things I did and wanted to keep going. I don’t want praise, I’m actually uncomfortable with it. But I want people to know that it’s not easy and it can tear up relationships and it has to be that persons choice and decisions or it won’t work or last. It’s not for the faint of heart. One of the things I faced, just to give you an understanding was, I was molested and water boarded by my uncles when I was 12 and my mother stood by and just watched, didn’t lift a finger. But my father walked in at the end and saw, it tore apart my whole family, but was never spoken of, wasn’t allowed and if I tried to talk to my mom (it was her brothers) she would call me a selfish bitch and devils spawn.
Don’t wait around for it to happen or things to change cause you might be disappointed. That anger I unleashed during the most intense times was unreal on people that were not to blame, it was unbelievable and unbearable for them.
Word of advice, don’t label it, if it makes you feel bad, it’s toxic and you should walk away.
Oh EMDR helped me a lot. If you feel you have traits or trauma from it find a good therapist and treatment plan you fell can help you, find someone that challenges you, they can’t soft pedal.
Good luck.

[claudiasbarra]

I had to admit that the more I progressed in my healing, the more of my own narcisstic traits I became aware of as a codependent I didn't want to be an NPD (a bad person). I can say, the more I began to learn how to love myself abd do the emotional literacy wich is still difficult, the less narcisstic traits I have. It's well worth it to do the work.

[Kr]

My sister’s husband is a malignant narcissist. Checks all the boxes. Hearing it like this makes me feel sorry for the child he once was and who I went to school with.

[liepa]

💯. Once I learned about my ex vulnerable narcissism, I was sure I could "heal him with my live". But with years it just became worse, because not only their inner child dies, but also the whole personality. Becomes just an empty shell which is acting to get people's emotions as feed

[EmBem]

NPD is a medicalised diagnosis. The narcissist needs to walk in to a shrinks office and say, "hey, I think I'm a narcissist", hardly ever going to happen because this will shatter their illusion, not only that but the vast majority of narcissists would never step foot in a therapists office. Most with NPD go undiagnosed.

[Commander_Chandler]

Society is the reason so many have narcissistic traits but absolutely correct NPD is in a while other dimension and is literal hell on earth to deal with.

[Goofygamedad]

@richardgrannon knows what he’s talking about. Don’t listen to people who say that NPD is on a spectrum or continuum. The disorder is as unbelievable to encounter as schizophrenia. I pray that there’s some kind of breakthrough for this disorder, because they deserve to have a chance at life and relationships

[kellyallison]

You are either self aware or not. People who are not self aware can be quite abominable.

[Nanneke]

My teacher Jan Storms taught me that the issue is psychopathy, formed before 5 years old. He calls narcissism the most popular coping mechanism for it, and borderline the second. But you can be diagnosed with those, without having the psychopathy.

Psychopathy is the dangerous part, especially when coupled with high intellectual intelligence.

[the_grassy_noel]

Yes! I have been married to a Histrionic at minimum for 30yrs, together 33. I have said for 2 decades that he is lil Pinocchio inside a mans shell, bc mommy nvr let him be a real boy

[Michael_Arguello]

So there’s no hope for them then. They need their demons to survive. It’s a good thing I chose love over self. A day will come when all things are exposed. I’d hate to be a narcissist on that particular day. ;)