Pointing out narcissistic traits to others

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[SarahLikesHorses]

I've been accused of being "too negative" and "too judgmental" for calling out mean people or standing up for myself. Another form of gaslighting to keep us quiet.

[audw]

I believe people protect the narcissist is because everyone wants to be friends with the bully. It feels safer than the other option....

[realhealing]

You just described why I left my narcissistic family system. It's just an endless cycle of abuse.

[evileyelash]

Children of narcissistic parents are often trained to protect the narcissistic parent and I think that behavioral conditioning stems into the automatic response of/in protecting the future narcissists in their lives.

[Priestessofthesilverstar]

As soon as I began calling out the narc in my family, the abuse got so much worse. The rage was out of control. And everyone from my longstanding friend circle blamed me for deserving the abuse because I am not as financially successful as they want me to be. I had to cut out nearly all my lifelong friends because they implied that I deserved the abuse. Though they never directly said I deserved to be abused, they did ask me what I was doing to provoke someone to abuse me 🤨

[marieborchardt]

When I called out the narcissist to some mutual friends, the narcissist told them I was on a character assassination tour of her. I thought that was kinda funny since that was what she did to me and one of the big reasons I went no contact.
I learned you can't win with the narcissist. Some people stay by your side, some leave, relationships are forever changed. I'm just so much more at peace away from all that madness. If you are able to go no contact, it's the best solution.

[carolemills]

I am the scapegoat in a narcissistic family. Last contact I had with my enabling sister was so deflating. Told her what my narc Mom had said to me and I was scolded with “honestly you need to get over it, she is old and has had a rough few years”. The abuse within our family is so toxic. I walked away in August. Not ever going back. It’s just not worth my mental health and overall emotional well-being . Thank you so much for your videos. They really do help

[RufanaDenmark]

Several months ago, a close friend asked me why I have withdrawn from a common friend. I told her that I had enough of being verbally abused by said friend -and she told me that I was just being “sensitive”. I haven’t heard from her since. This is what you get for putting up boundaries.

[angie.]

Thank you for talking about the way people give feedback. Sometimes people just "give feedback" in the rudest way possible or at the worst time possible. And then they criticize people for having issues with feedback.

[TheHeartGuardener]

It seems to me many people believe “there is good in everyone” and project good qualities where none exist. I used to do the same thing until I realized evil is a choice many choose to align with.

[tdylan]

Trying to point it out is like screaming into the void. It is especially hard when you’re the scapegoat - the injustice that your behaviour is always deemed bad while the narc and their conformers get off scot free.

[slobodandjurovic]

So many people gain from your straightforward, professional insights. Literally, generations live in unrecognised slavery systems ... because narcissists are not called out and stopped. ... Many lives were stolen. Hope many more find the strength to protect themselves...

[sergiom]

1:57 "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything"
The perfect response to a narcissist saying this is "I wish you would live by those words".

[Ailieorz]

I think the worst part is when you're part of a group, it could be a general hobby, a sports team or even a fandom. As soon as you spots the narcs, you may as well just leave because there will be no telling anyone. They'll just close ranks and eventually bully you out leaving you out cold and even if you decide to stay quiet, you may as well start looking for a whole new hobby because it'll suck all the joy out of the thing you used to love

[i_am_whole_again]

I wish I had a nickel for everytime my Mother would deny, negate, diminish, or attack me for pointing out toxic or abusive patterns that happened DAILY in our childhood home. Literally EVERY example you gave was said daily in our home.
She twisted our thoughts & emotions into pretzels in order to continue to treat us however she deemed necessary to get what she wanted.

[christopherconard]

Something true narcissists have is the ability to project an image of themselves with amazing skill. When you see the mask slip it's hard to convince others that it's the real person. The mask is the only version they've ever seen and you come across as the crazy one.

[PureWater-wc]

Yep. I've learned not to give my emotions away because they use it against you. 💞

[jayj]

It’s crazy how this issue carried out in many areas of my life. Not just my family, but even my peer groups in college. My friends would complain about someone abusing a position of power, I come in with confidence to “save them”, and then I’m the one who’s exiled from the group and the person I helped is still hanging out with the abuser. This is why I plan to keep my close relationships high quality and small!

[RhondaR]

WOW you’re spot on! I’m the truth teller! I have many family members whom are narcissist!
I cut them all out of my life! It’s so draining!😔

[cajuncrackerranch]

It is rather amazing how a person (Empath) can be vulnerable by being honest and true with self by even sharing a part of their individual experience with a narcissist, yet be completely subjected to smear campaign and yes character assassination by the narcissist because they will make 1M a excuses for their words and action to discredit you or deny you that any such experience ever happened. If it did, it was your fault.
Trust in you. Trust in truth. Do not be mistaken or shaken from what you know it truth. It always prevails with patience, faith, and hope in you. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️