How Can We Grow Emotionally?

From our earliest days, all of us are set on a path towards physical growth and maturity. What is less well known is that there are forces within us that - in comparable ways - push us towards emotional growth and maturity. Throughout our lives, sometimes at considerable cost to our short term peace of mind, we're engaged on a journey of emotional development that we should learn to understand, recognise and honour.

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“We know well enough that we are equipped with an innate drive for physical growth; that the human animal is geared to keep developing towards its outward mature form, adding muscle and bone and fatty tissue, in a spontaneous process of development that begins in our earliest days in the womb and ends around our sixteenth year…”

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[VioletannaVlogs]

Something I’ve always found interesting is how we are rewarded or complimented much more on our changing physical appearance than our changes in personality.
If you lose weight or have a “glow up” many people will praise you.
However improving your inner self doesn’t receive that same amount of praise.
The person who benefits and notices the most from your emotional growth is you.

[unleashingpotential-psycho]

The best way to grow emotionally is to continue to put ourselves into new situations and learn from them.

[CRFSUIGENERIS]

You micro-grow everyday with every judgment and resentment you train yourself to avoid. Pettiness erodes the soul- and it's childish. Don't squash feelings, but forgive and expand beyond your one perspective with reason and empathy.

Assert your personality with tact and authenticity everyday. Welcome those who match, and politely let go of those who cannot. You learn from every human interaction. The good and the bad.

[MosesEmmet]

Building character and growing emotionally is so under appreciated!

[Zain.Basi]

I kept ignoring my emotions (because I didn't know how to deal with them) until I had the biggest breakdown of my life.. now I'm still picking the pieces together but I know I'm growing more mature, I can feel it!

[kannan]

We have two sides for emotional growth.
1.connection
-close friends
2.self expression
-passion
We became totally a emotionally mature person when we have found good connections and also when we do what we love.

[NowNorie]

why do u guys keep posting videos that are so relevant at the right time

[rehsaercn]

Really important to recognize periods of depression or anxiety as unmet emotional needs and opportunities to reflect on what we really need. It's often just interpreted as self-depricating behavior, but if you can see through it it can be like shedding skin.

[mindsetmastery]

A person who is emotionally grown and healthy is far more attractive and valuable than a person who is just physically healthy or beautiful. Realizing this fact as I am working on making better connections and working on expressing myself and what I stand for. This video is greatly encouraging!

[Dixsilence]

This last 3 years I've done nothing but being in my room, suffering and destroying myself.
This year I took therapy and it has helped me a lot. I'm still a very lonely and introvert person that escape from social interactions but at least I'm trying until it works. I'm 30 btw 😂

[NotAverageAnymore]

The times I emotionally grew most was when I acted on achieving my goals despite the uncomfortable situations. Uncomfortable situations are part of growing emotionally and learning and letting go of them is the 🔑.

[charlita]

Past traumas has crippled me emotionally... but I was able to breakthrough

[slyboiimo]

I feel like the faster you accept responsibility is the faster you become an adult no matter what age you are. I swear I became the most happy when I became self sufficient. There’s nothing more fulfilling then listening to your self and supporting yourself. I recently just did a video on the same topic pretty sure y’all will like it. Much love ❤️

[glennochira]

Seriously this channel is watching me. I couldn't have needed this at a better time

[lottielotte]

This channel is like our FBI who watches us and uploads the right content for us at the right time.

[waveofpeace]

why is it that i know hes speaking but i cant understand anything

[georgiana]

Having to sacrifice connection for self-expression or vice-versa is one of the most tragic situations I can think of. I had to do it a few times and I chose self-expression out of duty for myself but it was always tremendously sad.

[maxgause]

This video was recommended to me the day after I ended a 3 year relationship with someone I love because of some unknown mystery force that compelled me. I was blissful and in love, but I was a shutdown, weak, emotional, selfish, and blind lover, even if I hid it well. I couldn't be a version of myself I felt was complete and even though this is a girl I would be happy to spend the rest of my life with, I didn't feel like I could be my best for her. So yesterday, I pulled the trigger spontaneously and severed our bond with a certain clarity and precision I didn't know I was capable of. It shattered her, me as well. Usually I am timid and can't make up my mind during our life together - but when it all went down I just turned into a robot and shut down parts of my brain I new wouldn't let me do it.

Today all I could think of is what the fuck max how could you do that. You love her. How could you hurt her, how could you give her up. What I did took a sort of courage I didn't know I had, and it scared me. I truly believe the action I took will not only help me, but help her, because we are very similar people with very similar problems. I care about her so much that I want whats best for her, not just whats best for myself, even if it means I don't get to have her, and she doesn't get to have me. I had to do it, and something inside me told me.

Now I know why. I've lived in a fog during the last two years, and something deep down in my subconscious PUSHed me to do this. Like a robot carrying out commands. Your bodies desire to grow is real, and suffering is a part of existence and a message to yourself. I don't know if its your gut or your heart or your brain you need to listen to, but it my case, it was a part of all three.

Hopefully I meet her again later in life, and we are both ready to start the rest of our journey as unique, complete people.

Deep down you know what needs to be done. Don't block out the pain. Face it. Find courage.

[indridcold]

Wow! It is incredibly amazing just how alien this video seemed to me. I remember in elementary school that I did try to connect with other students for a few years until a girl and her boyfriend in grade 5 said, "Why do you try to make friends and talk to others so much."You are too different from everybody for you to make friends and too ugly to ever get a girlfriend." I walked away and although emotionally hurt, I gave a lot of thought to what the couple said. It never dawned on me that I looked so different from everyone else in class, spoke very different because French and English were not my original languages, and that other students that race, looks, and mannerisms were so important to them. None of that meant anything to me. But I heeded their advise and simply quit trying to make friends with anybody nor try to get a girlfriend. Grade 6 through 10, I barely spoke nor interacted with anybody at all. I assumed only physical and mental development are important after sixth grade to just now. School never spoke of emotional health. So I simply ignored emotions believing they are childish and mere vestiges of ancient times. I tried to make friends again in 1999. I was fooled to believing I did make friends and even a girlfriend. It felt good to me. I guess social predators saw my heavy inexperience being social and moved in for an attack. My, "girlfriend, " convinced me to befriend her six friends and I did. I thought I had a small social circle. But it was all a cruel trap to use, betray, and then painfully abandon me and abuse me emotionally. I deleted them all from my life and have been in social isolation since 8 August 2000 at 18:34. I decided never to allow an attack like that to ever have the possibility of ever happening to me again and never went back to attempting to be social again. I have never had any true friends nor a girlfriend. All my family lives in a different continent. I have nobody in my life. But I never thought it was a problem to be lonely and disconnected from everyone. I do not even have coworkers in my shift. I have believed since 8 August 2000 that social connections, friends, a girlfriend, aquaintences, social interactions, are not important and serve no purpose in life anymore. I just chose to ignore all emotional and social aspects of life. I have done well with nobody in my life. I am extremely self reliant and independent. I never ask help from anybody, not even from professional service providers. I do advanced home, automotive, and property repair completely by myself because I refuse to be robbed by modern, "professionals, " and I know nobody to ask for help on anything. I really can not really imagine getting assistance in all that I do. This lowly YouTube video is the very first time I have heard emotional health is even something at all. I have always concentrated on physical and mental health. I just never knew emotional and social health needed attention also. Needless to say, it is very likely I am emotionally and socially extremely unhealthy. But what importance does it really have? It does not pay my bills, feed me, give me water and shelter. I does not give me protection. It really seems completely irrelevant to me. I am six years from finishing my mortgage payments. I have no credit usage, nor debt, at all, save for the mortgage. I am extremely physically healthy. I have a great paying job tuwt pays more than what college graduates make. I have no loans, leins, nor anything needing major expense to remedy. I still fail to see the importance of emotional health and social connections. I have never done it. I am doing fine.

[giedrebudryte]

I spent 20 + years in finding out reasons for my chronic dissatisfaction and a constant feeling of inferiority... Had to beat myself thousands of times again against the walls of what I found out 8 years back was, emotional immaturity. Until I realized that that (can also be called for emotional rigidness) was the primar reason for my pain. Since then I've undergone an immense emotional growth which braught significant transformation in all important areas of my life, specifically on feeling connected, as that was essentiel for me to imrove. Now main focus is on self expression, and here I'm already applying tools I learned in enchancing the connection part.