8 Early Signs That Someone Dislikes What You're Saying

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We've all accidentally blown it in a conversation that we really wanted to go well.

But that doesn't mean there wasn't potential for a good connection. Sometimes it just means you two talked about the wrong things :-)

Luckily, if you learn to detect the subtle signs of dislike EARLY in a conversation, you can change topics and potentially save the relationship.

Today’s video was a collab with body language expert Logan from the YouTube channel Observe. Thanks Logan for helping spot these 8 subtle signs that someone dislikes a conversation.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:00 - Intro
0:23 - #1: Their feet point away from you
0:37 - #2: They cross their leg
1:41 - #3: They're leaning sideways
0:47 - #4: Their torso is twisting away from you
2:03 - #5: Look for self-soothing gestures
3:00 - #6: Look out for compressed lips
3:24 - #7: Watch for a fake smile
3:38 - #8: Their eyes narrow after you've said something

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[Muse]

Someone being uncomfortable for a moment & someone disliking you are two totally different things.

[OdiVonDobi]

Just don't lick someone's hair, that's incredibly demented and weird. Especially, a talk show host...

[MrAhmed-dxhw]

I was a really shy person but after learning from these videos last week I have performed mimicking speeches of my countries politicians 😂 At my college Infront of more than 500 people and got a huge cheer. I would've not even thought of showcasing my talent like this just a couple of years ago.
THANK YOU Charlie and Charisma on command team ♥️

[greenbeans]

Meh. I don't care if people don't like me. I like to be kind and polite to others, but if I'm dealing with someone who doesn't like me for petty things like my clothes, personality, or harmless opinions (especially when they ask me for them in the first place), then they can just buzz off. Never change yourself to please others or apologize if you don't have to.

[christopherwebb]

If the person you're talking to has a drink, and midway through the conversation they pour that drink on your head, that could also be an indicator that they dislike the direction of the conversation.

[bradenlewis]

I think its also important to point out that some of these signs may be signs of discomfort, but they do not necessarily mean you are the one making them uncomfortable. Don't read into your own behavior too much.

[vrockchick]

Me with high anxiety shifting in all possible positions because I am afraid my social discomfort will show now seeing this video and being distressed that my friends think I don't like them.

[limerence]

You guys should do a character study on British comedian Richard Ayoade. He's the most closed off, reserved, awkward celebrity I know yet he's absolutely beloved. He'd be fascinating for a study on awkward charm.

[aidansayles]

I've noticed I can be really charismatic if I'm focused and in the right mindset, and it becomes easy to apply a lot a learn from this channel. However, when I'm just not in the mindset or the mood I have no idea how to trigger it to be ready for an interview or other interaction I'm about to have. It'd be really helpful if you did a video on how to get in the right mindset just before an interaction, pretty much like a warm up or stretches but for charisma.

[alexcoyg]

If a person does not talk to you at all after you are asking them a question it is a big sign that they are not really into the convo

[connor]

The easiest way to make people dislike you is by making them feel uncomfortable. Focus on their comfort. A lot of these gestures are self-soothing. At the end of the day, all we want is to feel comfortable and safe in a conversation. If you can provide that environment, it's tough to be THAT dislikable.

[Mommabeans]

What grown man would ask another grown man to look down his pants later.
RD jr was only trying to give a complement, in return he gets an awkward invitation.

[onee]

I disagree with the leaning away part. She clearly looks uncomfortable there, probably because she doesn't know Jimmy that well and has to pretend to be comfortable being that close to him. That doesn't mean that she dislikes him.

[jcruz]

1:36 Who are these people who think this is going well?? She's LITERALLY leaning away like Jimmy smelled like expired food. I have thankfully never encountered this behavior but if it ever happened, I would cut my losses and be like, "Excuse me, I have to make a phone call, " and exit state left.

[lastandroid]

Imagine having a conversation with this guy, you literally can't hide how you feel about what he has said or done something

[dangquesadilla]

One sign someone secretly dislikes you:
You're Jimmy Kimmel

[mr.midgardville]

i feel like i do a bunch of these at times even when talking to my favorite people. These CAN be a sign of discomfort on someone or that they're not enjoying them selves, but should take care to not judge solely based on these things.

[christopherkemsley]

This is a fantastic video! As somebody who’s done a lot of reading on body language research (Ekman, Navarro, etc) I’m quite pleased you pointed out the right things AND discussed the caveats of many of them (e.g. it doesn’t mean they don’t like you, just they didn’t like THAT).

[DRbLL]

When i fake smile I actually bring my eyes into it lol to make it more realistic

[matin]

I really recommend reading/listening How to win friends and ... . I read this book a few months ago . It effects the way u look at yourself and other ppl perspective . For example one of the rules in the book is to (dont try to win all the arguments ) . Idc how u get this book but its not wasting time or money .