8 Signs It's Obsession, NOT Love

How do we differentiate between love and obsession? The difference between love and obsession is often blurred, due to the feeling of extreme passion and emotional attachment to the subject of attention being a key component of both. However, obsession can lean towards being an unhealthy and dangerous expression of love when taken to extremes – regardless of the type of relationship in mention, whether it be platonic or romantic. To help you be aware of the difference, we've made this video.

Writer: Cindy Nguyen
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Daniela Herrera (New Animator)
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[Psychgo]

Did you recently get confessed to and you are not sure if they are simply just obsessed?

[hmm]

0:53 threatened by independence
1:36 boundaries are ignored
2:16 extremely controlling behaviour
2:52 not engaging in other activities
3:37 blocking out others
4:13 moving too fast in the relationship
4:56 demanding constant contact
5:36 tracking without consent

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[kenrickbautista]

Now I see one of the real reasons why I'm still single and why I fail to get a girl: sometimes, I ask myself- "am I really in-love with that person? Or am I just obsessed?".

[loner]

A friend once told me that, "if they love you, you won't be confused."

[improvementspace]

In a healthy relationship, both partners will be able to voice their feelings and the anxiety should go away over time. But if the anxiety still persists, experts say it may not be love but obsession.

[gurudra]

Love is mistaken for many negative things today like obsession, lust, attachment🙏

[curlypuff]

I have sadly done a lot of these things 😔 emotional regulation is also super important, if you start feeling jealous or alone, anxious, sad, etc you have to be able to help yourself through these emotions instead of taking it out on your partner. That was my biggest problem, I never wanted to isolate them from their friends but my insecurities and jealousy was so hard for me to deal with it's what ended up happening because of my emotional outbursts 😔 When you're a very emotional, passionate person it can hard to deal with things. Just remember your partner has feelings too, and they care about you (hopefully lol)

[yuwi.]

8 signs it's obsession not love
1. threatened by independence
2. boundaries are ignored
3. extremely controlling behavior
4. not engaging in other activities
5. blocking out others
6. moving too fast in the relationship
7. demanding constant contact
8. tracking without consent

[jellybellyjojo]

I wish I could say I recognized the signs at the time, but I didn’t. And I got really hurt in the end. I went through a LOT over the few months of my last “situationship 🙄”, but I’m so much better off now and this video really confirmed this for me. Thank you all 🖤

[reirei]

I had a crush on a guy for 3 years, and was deathly afraid of even letting myself *think* "I love him" because I was so worried it was infatuation. After I confessed to him, he rejected me gently, and I was finally able to accept that I do in fact love him, and I'm just glad he still wants to be my friend

[skullycxv]

I’m guilty of a lot of these… especially demanding constant contact. It’s been a lot for my boyfriend and heck, we almost broke up today because of it. I’d never had a boyfriend prior to him so I wasn’t sure how to love.. somehow these videos are helping me become aware of my flaws. Thank you!

[macadamia]

My ex was basically an example of someone rather obsessed than loving.

She proclaims to be "in love" and loves spending time with me. However, never respected my space, never seems to really let me talk or express my concerns or worries. Always insecure of me leaving her. And let alone always (and I do mean Always) cries to me when I am absolutely busy and working my way up in my career. Thank God it only lasted for a few months. Cause she would of held me down.

If someone loves you, they would want the best for you and from you. They would be supportive and aware of their actions. They would even work on themselves and try to be the best they can be for the relationship.

[jamoan]

I was in a relationship with a cheater and liar. I loved and didn’t want to give up even though they hurt me. I tried to continue with the relationship however it made me feel extremely insecure and obsessed. It was not a healthy relationship and it took a lot of strength in me to leave. I am glad I left. When you find the right one, you don’t have to worry about these things because he/she will make you feel comfortable, safe and secure. I hope you guys can find this kind of love and are strong enough to get out of these toxic relationships.

[overnine]

Wow... that describes a ex-friend of mine perfectly... she was the mother of guild-tripping, gaslighting, demanding and controlling. For example: She used to become really angry when I did not write her first or if I did not write her for two days. It was awful. I shut down our friendship after roughly a year and thought that I was simply the problem and could not have friendships with other women. So I stayed away from close friendships with other women for years and sabotaged myself when it came to girls that showed interest in me. And as a woman I surely missed something for almost a decade. Now I finally have female friends that are uncomplicated, nice and lovely. They dont shame me if we dont talk for a few days or if they have to write first. Everyone has their own life. They love me unconditionally and that's all that matters. ♡

[Jessicamoon]

My father shows all these signs towards my mother. I’d like to see a video about the effects of a toxic parental relationship on kids. I know Psych2Go has done videos like that before, but I don’t recall ever seeing a video exclusively about how a bad relationship between parents affects their kids

[emmathompson]

Describes my first husband perfectly. I knew something was off but could never articulate it because I was only 18

[bc.relationships]

This is so so important, especially for teenagers and young adults!! So often in media, obsessive behaviors are played off as being romantic and passionate, when in reality they can be unhealthy and dangerous. It is possible to have a passionate, exciting relationship while also respecting each other's independence and boundaries!!

[cypher]

Sounds like all the reasons right down to the tracking, why I am trying to end my sadly unhealthy relationship. Your videos are so simple (yet deep) and have helped me through some rough times, thank you again for another wonderful video! And if anyone has any healthy advice please reply!

[thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Love ❤️ is the greatest. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

[flienier]

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