From Shy to Social: How to get better at talking

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[Hg-twzq]

Hey lovely peeps, I normally don't comment. But I was reading all the comments and thought maybe I can help some of you.
For the people who don't know how to hold a conversation: the very best tip I can give you is be actually interested in the person you are talking to. That's it! Be actually interested in who this person is, what he/she likes, why they do what they do, how do they feel about that, what is their actual dream if they were really honest and why, etc... Believe me, everybody can talk about themselves for a whole night when they feel like the other one is actually interested. Just be interested in who this person is without judging beforehand. And if you have a commonality, bond on that part tell your own story about it. And then after just go back to asking them about their life, their childhood, favorite holiday spot (and why). If someone says I love spain -> ask why etc..

This also will make you less scared to have a conversation because you don't have to worry about having an interesting personality (which is the main reason people are scared when talking to people). Just try it out, it will change your lives, hopefully😅

[chrislife]

Its the tiny ass channels that feel like the real hidden gems

[ry_an.]

Try and talk to people like you’ve known them for years. Don’t be too afraid of what they’ll think of you

[OfficialTBhoops]

“Flirting” with the world is being joyful and trying to bring that joy out of others.

[JulesVamp-ue]

Idc what you say man you got that gas station worker blushing, giggling and kicking his feet 🤣

[David.]

My Best Tips:
1. Act as if you’ve known the person for years and they know a lot about you, even your awkward moments. That way, you’re not “proving” anything to them, just casually talking, blocking out the fear of judgement. (This is the best one)
2. Overthinking is our enemy. Just say whatever comes in mind immediately. 8/10 it’s your natural charisma before overthinking interrupts it. 2/10 you may say something awkward or something you shouldn’t have said, but it’s always worth the risk. Either you say something good, bad, or you freeze from overthinking.
3. Act as if your best friend is with you or in another room close by. Me personally, I feel more charismatic when I’m talking to someone with my friend(s) by my side or in groups rather than by myself. Having this thought in the back of my mind sometimes eases off the awkwardness.
4. Act as if you genuinely want to know this person or kindly acknowledge them, not just forcing small talk.
5. Be a good listener. Have good eye contact, sounds, expressions, etc. but PLEASE do not over do it or do it consciously.

[Yygggdrasil]

No one:
Literally, No one:
Me: "have you went to krispy kreme? is it krispy?"

[mediocredew]

Always feel awkward being the 1 guy of a friend then being introduced to all his people that know each other for years

[cherrysIushie]

I’m 23 with low self esteem social anxiety all that bs and im sick of it. Thanks for this

[CygnusX-]

i firmly believe that being self conscious about your conversation skills will always make u awkward. Just act naturally and joke whenever a joke pops up in your head.

[ajunlimited]

I just learned to talk to people how I talk to a close friend instead of putting them on a pedestal and trying to prove my worth to them. Did the trick for me

[zay]

talked about my desire to be more open and less worried about people's judgements with my therapist today, and here comes this video of a neat trick to achieve just that. our phones do be listening lol

[TimmyTheSnail]

I love small YouTube channels like this. There’s such great people out there making solid content

[coltonc]

It’s moments like these- when I’m scrolling on YouTube and come across a smaller channel - it reminds me that there are good people out there still, just waiting to be found and have their art appreciated. In this case it’s you and your advice videos. I hope no matter how many subs you get one of these days, that it doesn’t change the types of genuine messages you wanna give. Thanks for such a deep and powerful video. Would love to see even more on the subject of social anxiety/ insecurities that hold people back from just living their life

[jonathanswellnesslab]

Be flirty and playful with the world... good wisdom bro!

[yesteryearr]

I always say I'm not scared to do this "flirt with the world" tactic but as soon as the moment strikes, and I actually have a plan of what I want to say, part of me just says I think the positives far outweigh the negatives, so I'm not gonna let those thoughts get in the way. Thanks man, subbed!

[rfgtvnl]

i think an important part you mentioned is how it makes other peoples day better when you “flirt with the world” or engage with them. often i’d feel uncomfortable like a nuisance but in reality you’re often doing good for others and yourself. Almost owe it to the world to make other peoples days just a little bit better. Flirting to me is really just showing interest and putting out feelers to see if they like you back. Flirting is zero risk because worst case they show no interest and you can let them be. In my opinion this is much better than being super direct and asking for a number or asking someone to be a friend without easing into it. Great video, i like how you showed a real example of you putting it into practice in a little way!

[CenationTroop]

This is so true, particularly if you're trying to attract and flirt with a girl you like. If you don't practice with other people you're not attracted to then you're less likely to pull it off with that girl you like.

[TJsAbsoluteBasicSocialSkills]

"Flirt with the world" is putting it pretty well. Thank you!

[anvithanaikoti]

i wish I knew more guys open this about shyness