How To Stop Feeling Shy When Talking To People

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[gabehcuodsuoitneterp]

“That’ll be eight dollars… that’s an ugly shirt.” 😮😮

[kimvannatter]

I actually did this when I was younger and shyer, I was talking to a lady at a fast food place and while she was putting my money in the till I noticed she just had the most unexpectedly beautiful nails, and without thinking or realizing the words left my mouth I said "Wow I LOVE your nails!" I don't think I was even smiling lol but she got the biggest smile on her face and when she walked away she was so clearly pleased at the compliment, and I definitely had some secondhand joy haha it's always in the back of my mind to not hold back when I observe something good or beautiful about others

[Ben-fxlg]

Biggest thing. Don’t mumble or do the weak trail off while speaking.. Say what you mean, and mean what you say

[amigunadepero]

I'm shy but i'm gonna work on being brave.

[pschulze]

One thing I love about my daughter who is 10 and shy is she has on her own started doing this. Everywhere we go she drops a compliment to the people at checkout counters and I can tell it brightens their day. I make sure to let her know how proud I am of her and have been trying to do the same myself. Sometimes compliments come off differently from a 44 year old man than a 10 year old girl though.

[chrism]

you have to push yourself, if you express yourself more, pepole are gonna like you and know you better

[Uia]

That’s actually an amazing piece of advice tbh.

[memastarful]

Thank you for this video. I'm actually in person very very shy and tend to be on the quiet reserved side. However, I find communication online easier.

[YourwivestataBBBCH]

I think most people think that I am standoffish and don’t like them, or I am angry. It’s none of that. I am just very shy and plus I don’t know how to talk to people.

[MrJamesdryable]

There's being shy, and then there's also just me not wanting to talk to you.

[showspotter]

problem though is some guys has been single theyre whole life, were always picked last in school, have barely or no friends, and theyre expected to think theyre valuable to other people when real life experience has showed them virtually no one outside of mom and dad values them.

[stephenhughes]

This is useful advice, but I think it makes it more complicated than it needs to be. The vast majority of us know how to have a conversation, it's just the anxiety that gets in the way for those of us considered 'shy'. The best way to get over that anxiety is simply through starting lots of conversations. After all, that's generally the hardest part. A good way to do that, particularly if you're just starting out, is asking people for the time or for directions. Sounds simple, but if you truly have social anxiety it can be absolutely terrifying. Then, as you grow more confident, you can start adding to that and building a longer conversation.

Point is, its more about just taking action rather than mind- fucking yourself with all these different techniques ie 'ok, now I need to talk about that magazine, ok make sure we are speaking from the chest, ok now smile' lol.

[Refr]

I only get shy when i talk to someone im attracted to.

[randr]

As a mom to an amazing son, I am thankful for your shows EMPOWERING men. It's not easy ladies.regardless of so many opinions.

[nichtsistkostenlos]

This is great advice because I have always had this problem where injecting myself into a conversation is hard due to this irrational fear of heavy consequences from some inane comment. Once I've successfully overcome the initial hurdle of just saying something, I can converse quite easily.

[jakegoldberg]

I really like the advice to talk until u reach a period. I feel it’s really important as it helps even conversation on both sides and gives both side’s confidence and enjoyment in what they’re discussing!

[mh-dope]

That'll be $5.92, whoa those knockers could feed an entire African village.

[arshadramsunkar]

I think I need a therapist, every time I go out somewhere to the mall or something with my family, I get extremely nervous and then I don’t feel like talking to anyone.

[amieezhong]

Most of my shyness comes from the lack of self confidence

[blackandwhitetube]

All people when online don't seem to have a problem not only with one extra sentence, but with absolutely spilling our guts even when we know it's a load of 💩.... tip for shyness, pretend you're in the comments section!