What’s the difference between social anxiety and being shy? #shorts

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[blue-ckns]

Shyness itself can lead to social anxiety. Shyness is a normal personal trait, just like extroversion. However, in our society, people who are shy are often seen as inferior and judged negatively for their personality, and it’s this negative thought process that leads many shy people to then develop social anxiety. Because they believe that there’s something wrong with them for being shy, when their isn’t.

[Randor]

One thing a couple of therapists have told me about social anxiety is to realize that people are looking and judging you far less than you think they are.

[jowens]

I never completely avoided social situations, but I always did this thing where I talked extremely fast in social situations I was uncomfortable in. Or I would speak so softly no one could hear me. I've learned that those things are considered partial avoidance, and are signs of social anxiety. It took me until adulthood to find that out, but I'm glad we know so much about that stuff now.

[tedseb]

I’ve noticed that whenever I leave a social situation or have someone else leave that I get hit with a wave of seemingly irrational frustration like I did something wrong or I don’t even know why. If anyone has any knowledge or knows of any sources to check out I would greatly appreciate:)

[ranc]

Neurotypical (NT) personality:
- strong social and communication skills
- navigates socially complex situations with ease
- makes friends and establishes romantic one with ease
- ability to participate in loud, crowded, or visually overwhelming settings with ease

Symptoms of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
(when criticism hurts)
- Being easily embarrassed
- Heightened fear of failure
- Unrealistically high expectations for self
- Assuming people don't like you
- Avoiding social settings
- Perfectionistic tendencies

[TheGamingCanadian]

I’m a former extrovert. I love to be with people but when my 2nd best friend told me to “shut up you’re annoying” that may have been the beginning of my social anxiety. Online I’m not afraid of offending People, in person I’m a nervous wreck who can’t get near people. Whenever I try to get near people I feel bad in my stomach and intense fear, and a little bit of tears. I was diagnosed with social anxiety. I can only talk comfortably online or with a few people.

[VypaGaming]

I have always been a shy guy. I got bullied at school which led me to believe that people would judge me and that all people are just the same and i believed that everyone will judge me. This has led to me having social anxiety and worrying about any types of social situations because i fear getting judged, and i know ill be very embarrassed and awkward. Still to this day i get judged by even adults about my appearance (mainly my hairstyle) and the volume of my voice. The volume of my voice is affected when i am in social situations with anybody other than my mum and dad. I am now a lonely and depressed 18 year old man wanting friends but i think its impossible to get any friends now. I have kept social anxiety to myself my whole life and nobody knows i have it. Its too late.

[Jas]

My guess is that people with social anxiety are too intelligent for their own good, you’re overthinking in the worst way possible. I used to suffer from social anxiety, I would just consider myself pretty awkward but feeling fear of social situations is a no. You must understand no one is judging you as badly and you will learn as time goes on and you start doing the things you’re avoiding, you’re really normal, you will understand no one really pays attention to you after all. God bless to anyone suffering with social anxiety it’s really difficult but try to use it as a super power, and you can overcome it

[Ss-lskr]

I was so sheltered growing up and moved schools so often that I never really knew how to make friends or be social with people. I’m an adult now and I still struggle with groups. I’m usually the quietest but I really do try my best. I feel like people don’t care about me bc they don’t hear what I have to say or show interest in me. After big gathering I always feel 💩 Bc I didn’t interact in the way that I wanted to but I guess I need to change the way I talk to myself bc I really did try my best despite everything. I wish I didn’t have this anxiety it has stopped me from so many things. I have never had a best friend or real genuine friends who cared about me and messaged me

[jthrilla]

Love being around people...but i really dont like being the center of attention or having to be one on one for a long time

[sunilmart]

I so embarassed in my past life that cause me social anxiety 😭

[ice]

My parents won’t believe me that I’m not just shy and I do have social anxiety

[WHKLLEDXX]

I have social anxiety and it’s horrible it ruins everything for me I want to play with my friends but then I’m afraid that if one thing goes wrong then immediately it’s all my fault

[Itz_meRS]

Idk which one it is for me, but when a teacher or someone who is asking me a question with other ppl looking at me, I just get rlly nervous and I don’t say anything. I only do when I am familiar with the ppl.

[ashleymckenzie]

Exposure and Response Prevention or ERP is great for treating SAD, too :)

[cherrysIushie]

Ugh I’m so sick of having social anxiety like bffr

[Zoe-ffr]

It’s confusing I hate it, last year I was making different friends every day then summer came and I was still outgoing, I wasn’t even shy at that time, but this year is the hardest year in my life and I can’t escape without wanting my friends back

[wavesofwater]

What is the best way to get a preteen/teenager through their social anxiety?

[catherinezeigst]

I'm not sure which is applicable to me. If I know the 'rules' I can get through whatever it is I need to communicate. Otherwise, I freeze or avoid the situation completely if possible.🤷

[ayjntghost]

Baby girl don't have a shyness problem trust me. She's one move away from making you fall in love ❤😍