How To Handle Rejection

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[lightpunch]

Holy crap. How do you shorts pop up at the perfect time? You first changed my life around with your insight on how gifted kids tend to fall off in life due to not learning they have to learn and I managed to get into med school (on my second try) thanks to you. Now I have a date coming up with a super great friend and I am confident but more anxious by the hour and you post this. Thank you doc, you have had these and many other gigantic impacts on my life and likely many others, please never stop teaching people. I hope you have an amazing year in 2024!🎉❤

[tybronx]

My dude you're giving these young kids lessons the rest of us oldies learnt the hard way and I have so much respect for you. Wish I'd had someone like you in my life growing up. All I can hope is that the kids will listen to you.

[rijd]

Rejection is an amazing gift. It's an honest response and thus saves you a ton of time. The worst is when someone leads you on and doesn't out right reject you. The mindfulness book 30 Days to Reduce Rejection by Harper Daniels helped me return to my core. As did tre book called You Suck by Paulie Amigo.

[AnnaTofCharleston]

Currently dealing with the fear of rejection in regards to a job that I'll be applying to tomorrow. It's not a difficult job, retail at a medium sized local business, but my mind keeps coming up with little trivial reasons why I won't get it. I know I just need to let go of those thoughts and let what happens happen.

[Dragonmoon]

Valid point. But, it's not the rejection, but the reason behind. If we aren't compatible, fine. But, I don't need to know the why. Because your reason(s) for not being interested may not even be a problem for the next person.

[Hekamiah]

This guy makes hard to deal with situations and weird social constructions into very easily understandable and actionable videos. Good man 👍

[Brambrew]

Unless they're one of those people who brings it up every time they're upset at you/you're upset at them/you're upset at someone else.
"Valid points, except remember that time when I rejected you? That was really stupid and embarrassing of you."
I can take being rejected once but I can't handle getting rejected every time I'm trying to be vulnerable with my friend.
People like that aren't friends because you can't share any feelings with them in confidence.

[aellalee]

Yup. Eventually it isn't a big deal. I usually feel better after, I don't usually get a yes, but at least I know where we stand and go from there.

[theyincorporated]

Just get fit and if your personality is trash change your mindset or personality and rejection becomes less because your improvements and hard work has made you better or good enough

Give yourself some time

[_XRMissie]

Thing is, this can go both ways. Too much rejection causes self doubt an excessive brooding. It can be a negative feedback cycle, and in the case of me, can make you extremely wary of intimacy.

[viciousgamer]

You see this is how I would take it if it wasn’t for that fact that 1: I gave her the option to say no and she lead me on and 2: I’ve never been accepted by someone that I liked. I’m so fucking tired of it never working out. Also “don’t look for it it will find you” is bs, I was doing just fine before she looked for me and gave me hope and took it away 😒.

[soorian]

This idea helped me a lot with motivation to work out. The weight I lift today is taking a little bit of weight off future me, helping his friends move, or picking up and playing with his kids, or staying active when I'm older. One tough hour every couple days for a permanent buff. Good trade.

[bpb]

This is so true and cuts right to it. Great stuff.

[angelstormmm]

This sounds easy, but I am scared of the pain that will come if I get rejected. But there is probaly no other way

[Bossmoves]

The problem with being rejected overtime is that you begin to notice that the only constant in these situations is you

[wel]

honestly i'm just proud of myself that i was able to let myself love her. I dont even care that it didnt turn out cuz at the end of the day I got to know what it was like to really see her beauty. even if she didnt see mine.

[exploreformore]

Or if you outright don't want to maintain a friendship say, 'It was lovely getting to know you, wish you all the best!'. Think it can keep things levelled if it happens to you.

[myboatforacar]

I'm just... convinced, in my heart of hearts, that it's a waste of time because there's no reason for anyone to say yes. People say "work on yourself" but I can't think of anything I have both the means and opportunity to do, and I don't really feel like it'll change anything anyway. I'll still be... _me._

[Siegmernes]

Absolutely right. I used to be in love with my closest friend like 5 years ago and we discussed it like adults. I needed a break after the rejection and we stayed apart for a month. And after that everything was chill.

As long as everyone treats each other with respect and kindness and handles the situation in a mature way, a rejection is not the end of a friendship.

[Random_UserName]

There has been a lot of time I was “chill” without doing the rest of it!

Everything you’re saying is obviously true.